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Posted: 7/22/2008 9:50:02 PM EST
I own/manage a bar. One of my waitresses and I get along together way too well. I am 23, she is 19, soon to be 20. She has a child(not mine) that is 3 years old, and is currently pregnant(not mine) and is due in October.

To put it in layman's terms, I like her, she likes me, I'm her boss, she has 2 kids, and I'm only 23 not near enough ready for a family, let alone one that isn't mine.

I'm pretty sure I know what I should do, but any advice would be helpful.

To be young, is frustrating.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:50:57 PM EST
Don't get involved with that.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:52:26 PM EST
Please, go ask this question in the womens forum.

If you dare.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:53:02 PM EST

Originally Posted By 70satvert:
Don't get involved with that.


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Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:53:12 PM EST
your askin for trouble if you follow your dork.


as quoted in the 40 year old virgin "you dont want no baby daddy drama"
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:53:32 PM EST
You're going to get a landslide of good advice, very soon. Do the one thing 23 year old men don't seem very good at doing - following it.

This girl has made some poor choices, and she's still young enough that she's going to continue to make them. She's probably very eager to find stability in her life, and not at all prepared to live with it, and you're for sure not at the age or station in life to take on a family and a head-case girl who hasn't sorted out her issues yet.

Don't get involved. At. All.

You will do her, her children, and most of all yourself a disservice.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:54:22 PM EST

Originally Posted By 70satvert:
Don't get involved with that.


+1

19 with a 3yo and pregnant again with no daddy around?

EJECT!
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:54:27 PM EST
If you aren't ready for a family she's probably not the one you want to go out with
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:54:36 PM EST
Run..... If you still nkow her in 10 years and think like this , make it happen. You are too young for that crap.....

(and she appearently does not grasp the concept of birth control)
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:56:15 PM EST
And if you own a bar, do you really want to be banging the waitresses? Just no good on several levels.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:57:17 PM EST
You better think about this before you get in deeper.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:57:24 PM EST
Dont do it, it's not worth it....sorry,
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:58:30 PM EST
Well hey... she can't get pregnant, right?

Hit it and quit it!

Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:59:09 PM EST
If you're smart enough to own your own bar at 23 you should be smart enough to already know the answer to your question.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:59:27 PM EST
Well, these were the answers i was expecting, and thus I just wanted to reassure myself that I was making the smart choice in all perspectives.

Thanks.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 9:59:43 PM EST
She's immature, likes the dick and has kids.

You're her boss, don't want kids and don't want STDs.


I'd stay away.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:00:46 PM EST
Don't shit where you eat.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:02:06 PM EST

Originally Posted By Cypher214:
Well hey... she can't get pregnant, right?

Hit it and quit it!



This has merit as well, but I think I'd have a hard time banging a pregnant chick.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:02:35 PM EST
Well, at 23, sometimes the little head steers the ship, and sometimes the big head steers. I just wanted to make sure I was right, before the little head staged a coup d’é tat.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:03:17 PM EST
Hit it.

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With a rubber.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:04:32 PM EST
Don't listen to these guys, they are just jealous. Pound her sweet ass!!
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:08:56 PM EST

Originally Posted By MrMojoRising:
If you're smart enough to own your own bar at 23 you should be smart enough to already know the answer to your question.



Hmmm... young woman, with children, can't get a job better than waitressing, making eyes at the young impressionable owner of the bar... Am I tinfoiling, or does anyone else suspect she's got a lawyer in the background?

The only other thing I need is General Akbar's pic: "It's a trap!"

Seriously... there are several likely outcomes to this picture, and NONE of them involve your long-term happiness.

Even if you, say, get a vasectomy, and she cannot claim you are the father of her next child... she's your EMPLOYEE, dammit, and she CAN claim sexual harassment! Have you ever HEARD of some of the horror stories from sexual harassment training? The women are even worse than the men!
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:14:12 PM EST
I know you guys are right, and I know what I will do.

Though, gorram, the little head sure does want to pull his own way.


Thank you all though, for guiding me into the choice I knew was right. Do. Not. Want.
Now where's that picture of that dog....

Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:15:19 PM EST

Originally Posted By cole99:
I know you guys are right, and I know what I will do.

Though, gorram, the little head sure does want to pull his own way.


Thank you all though, for guiding me into the choice I knew was right. Do. Not. Want.
Now where's that picture of that dog....



Of course! Hell, I'm sure we've all been there. Luckily enough for you, you have us to ask. Since we're not in the situation, we can think clearly for you.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:16:02 PM EST
I think it is time for the FUCKING EJECT button dude.Someone post it please.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:16:26 PM EST
[Last Edit: 7/22/2008 10:17:22 PM EST by 9mmUser]

Originally Posted By FrankSymptoms:

Originally Posted By MrMojoRising:
If you're smart enough to own your own bar at 23 you should be smart enough to already know the answer to your question.



Hmmm... young woman, with children, can't get a job better than waitressing, making eyes at the young impressionable owner of the bar... Am I tinfoiling, or does anyone else suspect she's got a lawyer in the background?

The only other thing I need is General Akbar's pic: "It's a trap!"

Seriously... there are several likely outcomes to this picture, and NONE of them involve your long-term happiness.

Even if you, say, get a vasectomy, and she cannot claim you are the father of her next child... she's your EMPLOYEE, dammit, and she CAN claim sexual harassment! Have you ever HEARD of some of the horror stories from sexual harassment training? The women are even worse than the men!


There.

As many said, "Don't get your honey where you make your money"
I see nothing but trouble in the future if you go beyond the line.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:21:02 PM EST
I've experienced enough in life to know that 1) you should not get involved with her, and 2) no matter what we say, you'll get involved with her, and learn the hard way. Things are MUCH clearer looking back, than looking forward.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:21:12 PM EST
Run. Just fucking run.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:21:12 PM EST
GTFO!
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:23:59 PM EST

Originally Posted By waterispoison: they are just jealous. Pound her sweet ass!!


like every other guy in the free world apparently already has..
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:28:16 PM EST
[Last Edit: 7/22/2008 10:33:39 PM EST by mucknuggle]

This may help

Seriously, though, what the fuck are you thinking? You're not only her boss, you own the place? Would you like to keep owning it? Don't put yourself in that position by banging the help, especially a hot mess like this one.

Never put your meat where you get your bread.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:30:57 PM EST
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:45:33 PM EST
What happens if you decide its not working and she decides that you came on to her and sues you for sexual harrasement

Workplace relationships between superiors/underlings just are a bad idea
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 10:47:35 PM EST
You are young. You should be trying to get as much girls as you can. You'll regret it when you're older. You like her and she likes you, right? Then do what young girls and guys do when they like each other.
Link Posted: 7/22/2008 11:48:56 PM EST

Originally Posted By waterispoison:
You are young. You should be trying to get as much girls as you can. You'll regret it when you're older. You like her and she likes you, right? Then do what young girls and guys do when they like each other.


Voting Obama, aren't you?
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 12:43:57 AM EST

Originally Posted By Billmanweh:

Originally Posted By 70satvert:
Don't get involved with that.


+1

19 with a 3yo and pregnant again with no daddy around?

EJECT!




+Infinity

I don't know why this question is even being asked.


Link Posted: 7/23/2008 12:45:24 AM EST

Originally Posted By Pita_146:

Originally Posted By Cypher214:
Well hey... she can't get pregnant, right?

Hit it and quit it!



This has merit as well, but I think I'd have a hard time banging a pregnant chick.


Don't knock it until you've tried it.

And that's all I'm gonna say on this subject.

Link Posted: 7/23/2008 12:54:55 AM EST

Originally Posted By 70satvert:
Don't get involved with that.


+1,000,000
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 1:00:50 AM EST

I bet 5 bucks he doesnt listen and still hits it.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 1:01:09 AM EST

Originally Posted By Mech2007:

Originally Posted By Pita_146:

Originally Posted By Cypher214:
Well hey... she can't get pregnant, right?

Hit it and quit it!



This has merit as well, but I think I'd have a hard time banging a pregnant chick.


Don't knock it until you've tried it.

And that's all I'm gonna say on this subject.



Well, that's fine and all. I'm just saying...I think it's kinda weird.

Pregnant bellies scare me.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 1:04:38 AM EST
Oh yeah, they all want a good, stable guy- after they've had a few kids with a few losers. You don't need that shit. Tell her you just want to be friends. You'll be a lot better off.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:37:56 AM EST
[Last Edit: 7/23/2008 3:44:03 AM EST by bluezerosix]

Originally Posted By 70satvert:
Don't get involved with that.


+1

#1- You're much too young to have an "instant family".

#2- She's already shown that she doesn't have good judgement...knocked up twice before the age of 20 indicates a real lack of common sense...she didn't learn the first time.

#3- Because of he current situation, she most likely is only eyeballing you as a paycheck/life-support mechanism for her & her two "fuck trophies".

#4- Related to #3...Go ahead and hit it a couple of times...then don't be surprised when her & her lawyer file a sexual harassment lawsuit. They get your bar & you get hosed.

Distance yourself from her. Now.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:40:16 AM EST
Stop thinking with your little head.

Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:41:53 AM EST
Leave it alone bud.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:42:14 AM EST

Did they quit making birth control?

2 kids before she is 20 and not even married once?

Way too much drama for a man that seems to have his head on straight.



Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:43:54 AM EST

Originally Posted By cole99:
I own/manage a bar. One of my waitresses and I get along together way too well. I am 23, she is 19, soon to be 20. She has a child(not mine) that is 3 years old, and is currently pregnant(not mine) and is due in October.

To put it in layman's terms, I like her, she likes me, I'm her boss, she has 2 kids, and I'm only 23 not near enough ready for a family, let alone one that isn't mine.



I'm sure its really tempting to hit it...
but man, I wouldn't touch that with a ten foot pole.

If you do, you'll be very sorry.
And... OF COURSE she likes you, you're a 23 year old responsible/successful businessman!
Chances are the baby daddys gots no jobs. Shes seeing security in you, buddy.


You really need to watch your ass.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:46:37 AM EST
[Last Edit: 7/23/2008 3:52:13 AM EST by Dr_Dickie]

Originally Posted By cole99:
I own/manage a bar. One of my waitresses and I get along together way too well. I am 23, she is 19, soon to be 20. She has a child(not mine) that is 3 years old, and is currently pregnant(not mine) and is due in October.

To put it in layman's terms, I like her I like to f her, she likes me, I'm her boss, she has 2 kids, and I'm only 23 not near enough ready for a family, let alone one that isn't mine.

I'm pretty sure I know what I should do, but any advice would be helpful.

To be young, is frustrating.

You are thinking with the little head, not the one on your shoulders.
Perhaps, PERHAPS, her past can be blamed on immaturity that she can overcome (do you believe in Bigfoot?).
But 19 with a 3 year old, and another on the way now and no dada around. Tell her you want to date for, say 10 years. If you still feel the same way after that (and she doesn't have 20 kids), then marry her. BUT not before.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:49:04 AM EST




Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:51:03 AM EST

Originally Posted By 70satvert:
Don't get involved with that.
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:51:19 AM EST
At least you know she puts out....

As the others have said EJECT!!!
Link Posted: 7/23/2008 3:52:58 AM EST
If you're smart enough to own and manage a bar at 23, you're smart enough to know to fucking eject now without being told.
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