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Posted: 3/15/2011 11:55:44 AM EST
The older I get, and the more displeased I get with my current situation, it seems as if my childhood was just a dream. Its as if it didn't happen. It also seems as if it is damn near impossible to move back to my home town, which I would love to do, as I miss it more than anything.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 11:56:42 AM EST

Originally Posted By nsl:
The older I get, and the more displeased I get with my current situation, it seems as if my childhood was just a dream. Its as if it didn't happen. It also seems as if it is damn near impossible to move back to my home town, which I would love to do, as I miss it more than anything.

BTDT. Sometimes you just have to pull up the roots and throw yourself before the feet of Destiny.

Maybe it's time for a radical change in how you live your life.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 11:59:21 AM EST
Only watch Where the Wild Things Are if you want to slit your throat then.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:04:15 PM EST
I can't afford the property taxes in my hometown.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:12:31 PM EST

Born in one town. Got married and moved to the next town over. I've lived in this same area for all 51 of my years.



I can't wait for the day when I can kiss this hell hole goodbye!
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:14:25 PM EST
not necessarily a dream, but a nightmare. at the time everything was dandy... but as i got older, i realized the degree of fucked-up it actually was.

not that i'm bitching or anything.

-rb
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:24:11 PM EST
Naw. Joined the service to get away from that shit hole and I've never been back.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:25:55 PM EST
Originally Posted By RunsBellows:
not necessarily a dream, but a nightmare. at the time everything was dandy... but as i got older, i realized the degree of fucked-up it actually was.

not that i'm bitching or anything.

-rb


yeah funny how that works.

Looking back I am thinking WTF was going on, i must have been miserable. But at the time i was content.

I just wish i would have taken advantage of more opportunities when i was younger.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:27:26 PM EST

Originally Posted By stockshift:
I can't afford the property taxes in my hometown.


intercourse, pa?



Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:28:41 PM EST
Originally Posted By RunsBellows:
not necessarily a dream, but a nightmare. at the time everything was dandy... but as i got older, i realized the degree of fucked-up it actually was.

not that i'm bitching or anything.

-rb


+1. I liked my childhood growing up but had no other perspective to look at it from.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:30:12 PM EST
I don't miss my childhood.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:31:08 PM EST
Originally Posted By nsl:
The older I get, and the more displeased I get with my current situation, it seems as if my childhood was just a dream. Its as if it didn't happen. It also seems as if it is damn near impossible to move back to my home town, which I would love to do, as I miss it more than anything.


Know exactly what you mean. But the job market there sucks and I still need to work.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 12:31:19 PM EST

You can never go home.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:09:40 PM EST
[Last Edit: 3/15/2011 1:10:49 PM EST by BeRzErKaS]
Not really. I recall feeling really frustrated as a child. It was always too hard to get anything done or get to where I wanted to be.

These days, I sort of view "Little Me" and "Big Me" as two different people. Little Me made a lot of promises to himself regarding things he would do just as soon as he was old enough, and now it's up to "Big Me" to make good on all those promises. My continual persuit of these life goals gives me satisfaction and a constant direction in life. That's really the best way I can describe my current relationship with my childhood.

I'm actually fairly satisifed with the progress I've made so far and have no desire to relive my childhood. Life is definitely better now.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:13:16 PM EST

Originally Posted By Jarhead08:
Naw. Joined the service to get away from that shit hole and I've never been back.

So did I and neither have I...
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:19:33 PM EST
Originally Posted By Jarhead08:
Naw. Joined the service to get away from that shit hole and I've never been back.


This. 30 years later I am living 800 miles away in my home.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:25:01 PM EST
IBTIIKTWIKN

(In Before The If I Knew Then What I Know Now)
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:27:52 PM EST
I miss my family, I miss my village, but I'm a happy adult and I can move back if I want to. I'd rather move to more exotic places though. I'll take adventure over comfort.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:30:35 PM EST
I have a way better life now than in childhood.
Try to forget mine.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:31:49 PM EST
I had a really good childhood. Sometimes I miss it, even more so since my dad's passed away.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:34:57 PM EST
Originally Posted By James23:

You can never go home.


Only people of age know how true this really is.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:38:37 PM EST
I joined the Army and left my home town 10 days after graduating high school. I lived in the same house for 18 years. It was the only place I ever called home.

That was 26 years ago. I've never been back.

When I dream, it's always in that house or in that neighborhood.

Even the people I know now, who've never seen that house, it's always the setting for my dreams.

You can never go home. It doesn't exist anymore. That carefree life ended. You grew up. Move on....
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:40:10 PM EST
I look back at my childhood through rose-colored glasses and typically ignore all the fucked up parts. Really, life's difficulty has been the same for the most part, and to be honest, I'm probably at my best as far as handling suck, and I intend to get much better at it in the future. My childhood wasn't super-awesome or fucked up, it was like the rest of life, good days and bad days. I think I really dropped the ball in highschool, when I let my loner attitude keep me from having hardly any fun. To be honest, I'm making the same mistakes now, and I still don't care.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:42:02 PM EST
Life is a glorious experience. I do miss being a kid, having that freedom... But I also love learning, and you learn a lot just by living. I drink life up by the bucket, and I love it. I may not be a child anymore, but still find myself constantly in awe.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:43:01 PM EST
thanks to my parents who bought me a .22 and let me loose in the woods of michigan for 8 good years in my youth i will never forget.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:43:34 PM EST
There are a few things I miss, but for the most parts, it could not have ended soon enough.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:43:55 PM EST
Originally Posted By 5robert25:
Originally Posted By James23:

You can never go home.


Only people of age know how true this really is.


I'm a very young guy, and I kind of already see what the deal with that is. It's hard to think of how true it is for someone in their 50's, 60's or older. Once the whole world's changed, I don't think you'd ever be able to go back. The stuff that I think is "lost" is just 10-15 years old, I can't imagine how hard it'd be to recapture something that's decades old.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:44:51 PM EST
No way!

Some have great childhoods, some have terrible. Mine was in the middle and I can't complain. However, adult life rocks! There's Pie, travel, music, cars, good beer, good food, beach activities, guns, etc...

I'll leave riding a shitty bike with a fishing rod and a bag of worms to Opie...
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:45:53 PM EST
I get back "home" 2 or 3 times a year. Keep thinking I'll recognize people I used to know. Never happens, somehow they all got old.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:46:22 PM EST
grow up

if life was s'posed to be easy, we'd all be good at it.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:47:40 PM EST

Originally Posted By 5robert25:
Originally Posted By James23:

You can never go home.


Only people of age know how true this really is.
I'm old enough to know. I would give almost anything (except my wife and kids whom I love) to go back and live the exact same childhood again.

I had a great time growing up. Guns and woods and animals and friends, guitars and playing along with Dad's band, cooking with my grandma and sitting on the back porch of a morning next to my grandpa smelling the coffee on his breath and hearing his gruff, morning voice.

But, that's gone now. It's up to me to make sure my kids would want to do it all over again, too.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:47:45 PM EST
Originally Posted By 5robert25:
Originally Posted By James23:

You can never go home.


Only people of age know how true this really is.


Word!
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 1:54:40 PM EST
When I was 4 years old, I believed that when we children grew up, we would correct the world. Older people acted silly.

Eventually, I came to learn that most people grow older on the outside and not inside. Like most animals that stop maturing mentally when they stop growing physically, it is nearly the same with humans. Ask a person how old he feels inside. The reponse will be a chronological age at which he stopped growing. If you make the effort, you can continue to grow.

When I was little, the things like food, warmth, housing, doctor were all taken care of - those are the only thinks that I miss.

I had a professor who once said "if I knew what I know now when I was younger, I could have saved a lot of time>" He ended up in federal prison!
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:02:38 PM EST
You know, OP, I feel the opposite now that I think about it. I feel like I'm still a kid, and to tell the truth, it's everything that's happened since I was 11 or 12 that feels like a dream. There's a lot of times that I simply don't believe I'm actually an adult with a life of my own and choices that I make.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:07:28 PM EST
[Last Edit: 3/15/2011 2:08:23 PM EST by DriftPunch]
Originally Posted By RileyS:

I'm a very young guy, and I kind of already see what the deal with that is. It's hard to think of how true it is for someone in their 50's, 60's or older. Once the whole world's changed, I don't think you'd ever be able to go back. The stuff that I think is "lost" is just 10-15 years old, I can't imagine how hard it'd be to recapture something that's decades old.


That's what memories are for. Enjoy them, but don't try and re-create them unless life seems to be heading that way anyway. Life has no rudder, believing it does will only end up in failure.

PS: During those times you thought were awesome, your dad was probably thinking: "How the Fuck did I end up here!"

My advice to a 'very young guy' is:

- Stay in shape (or get in shape if you are not)
- Lose the temper (if you have one) and learn to deal with heartbreak/loss/bad times/correction
- Don't be a sucker, if you are trusting or gullible, you'll be a patsy until the day you die
- Don't be concerned if people don't like you, either men or women. You don't like everyone, do you? Why should you expect to be loved by all?
- Adapt, adapt, adapt! I'm not just talking about careers, but in every situation. Leave strict planning and an OCD need to adhere to them to those with aspergers.
- Never wear sandals with socks of any color
- You ARE NOT SPECIAL, no matter what your mommy told you.
- Don't be stupid! This cannot be over emphasised. Darwin is unforgiving. This also applies to career and personal life issues. Most people know when they've crossed the stupid line...

Realize that you are either driving down the road, or you are roadkill. The above items are a bit of a proxy for confidence. If you have it, you can live a great and active life until your body simply gives out, hopefully in your 60s. None of us are getting out of this alive, so make the best of it.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:11:43 PM EST
Life is a process of building memories then croaking. Enjoy it while you got it.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:15:38 PM EST
The world moves on.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:18:08 PM EST
I agree OP. I'm 53 and VERY glad I grew up in the era I did. I suppose young people of today will think the same thing though.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:20:13 PM EST
It hurts when I think about the things I could have and should have done. Much like above, big parts of my life are gaping holes that I dont even remember. I have frequent dreams of "home" both of the main houses I lived in as a kid. It very strange.
My advice to the yung'ns is to do everthing you possibly can while young. Get a education, travel if you can, spend all your time maintiang your health and well-being. Again, lose the temper- it will get you nowhere. Surround yourself with good friends. DONT SIT AROUND- DO SOMETHING.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:22:06 PM EST
Worked away from my home town for a few years but moved back and been here ever since .
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:24:15 PM EST

Originally Posted By DriftPunch:
My advice to a 'very young guy' is:

- Stay in shape (or get in shape if you are not)
Obviously. Way easier to maintain fitness than it is to get back up from a low point.
- Lose the temper (if you have one) and learn to deal with heartbreak/loss/bad times/correction
Very true. On the other hand, don't let people walk all over you either. Personal experience here.
- Don't be a sucker, if you are trusting or gullible, you'll be a patsy until the day you die
I agree.
- Don't be concerned if people don't like you, either men or women. You don't like everyone, do you? Why should you expect to be loved by all?
One note: don't be like me and take this to the logical extreme. I've done a good job of making sure that people actively dislike me, sometimes for good reasons, sometimes... I don't know what I was thinking at the time.
- Adapt, adapt, adapt! I'm not just talking about careers, but in every situation. Leave strict planning and an OCD need to adhere to them to those with aspergers.
Yep. If you live by a very strict idea of how things would be, you'll get disappointed when things don't turn out that way. That's why I have no standards for myself, my friends/family, or society as a whole.
- Never wear sandals with socks of any color
MOST IMPORTANT THING TO EVER LEARN IN LIFE.
- You ARE NOT SPECIAL, no matter what your mommy told you.
But don't take it to the logical extreme, or else you'll end up a lonely unemployed underachiever like me, with nothing to show for yourself except a sweet gun collection. Might be worth it, though.
- Don't be stupid! This cannot be over emphasised. Darwin is unforgiving. This also applies to career and personal life issues. Most people know when they've crossed the stupid line...
I think I crossed that line a very long time ago... no looking back. IIKTWIKN, I'd be a totally different person from who I am now. OTOH, I'd probably also be a lot more uptight and boring and would probably end up like D-FENS from Falling Down when I get older.

Mostly sound advice.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:38:15 PM EST
Originally Posted By DriftPunch:
Originally Posted By RileyS:

I'm a very young guy, and I kind of already see what the deal with that is. It's hard to think of how true it is for someone in their 50's, 60's or older. Once the whole world's changed, I don't think you'd ever be able to go back. The stuff that I think is "lost" is just 10-15 years old, I can't imagine how hard it'd be to recapture something that's decades old.


That's what memories are for. Enjoy them, but don't try and re-create them unless life seems to be heading that way anyway. Life has no rudder, believing it does will only end up in failure.

PS: During those times you thought were awesome, your dad was probably thinking: "How the Fuck did I end up here!"

My advice to a 'very young guy' is:

- Stay in shape (or get in shape if you are not)
- Lose the temper (if you have one) and learn to deal with heartbreak/loss/bad times/correction
- Don't be a sucker, if you are trusting or gullible, you'll be a patsy until the day you die
- Don't be concerned if people don't like you, either men or women. You don't like everyone, do you? Why should you expect to be loved by all?
- Adapt, adapt, adapt! I'm not just talking about careers, but in every situation. Leave strict planning and an OCD need to adhere to them to those with aspergers.
- Never wear sandals with socks of any color
- You ARE NOT SPECIAL, no matter what your mommy told you.
- Don't be stupid! This cannot be over emphasised. Darwin is unforgiving. This also applies to career and personal life issues. Most people know when they've crossed the stupid line...

Realize that you are either driving down the road, or you are roadkill. The above items are a bit of a proxy for confidence. If you have it, you can live a great and active life until your body simply gives out, hopefully in your 60s. None of us are getting out of this alive, so make the best of it.


It may sound stupid, but I really, really needed to hear that.
Thanks
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:44:17 PM EST
Over 50 years of experience here. I've experienced some great things and seen some bad things. I've seen a lot of stupid people who thought they were smart. Life is an amazing ride.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:50:35 PM EST
My childhood sucked. My adult life is pretty sweet.

Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:55:21 PM EST
Childhood was awesome, and would love to move back home.

Grew up in a small farming town in southern Michigan. Been back a few times. Its still as small and nice and quiet as it ever was. Unlike the ever simmering shithole known as NE Ohio
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 2:58:23 PM EST
I don't miss "childhood innocence" at all. Life is so much more fun now that I've experienced the dirty, corrupt, forbidden parts of it.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 3:02:22 PM EST
You're in luck. Eddie Money has a song for you.

I Wanna Go Back
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 3:05:59 PM EST
[Last Edit: 3/15/2011 3:10:59 PM EST by sgtgeo]
I'm not sure how we made it.

Playing outside all the time
No video Games
no bike helmets
BB gun fights (NOT AIRSOFT)
exploring woods/off limits areas
Trikes
fireworks

ETA:
No matter how bad you think it is now when you look back it will not seem so bad at all.... Not meant negatively.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 3:34:24 PM EST

Originally Posted By RunsBellows:
not necessarily a dream, but a nightmare. at the time everything was dandy... but as i got older, i realized the degree of fucked-up it actually was.

not that i'm bitching or anything.

-rb

Same story here. Seemd OK at the time. Looking back, it was a little fucked up. I didn't know what "normal" was, I guess.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 3:44:01 PM EST
Originally Posted By nsl:
The older I get, and the more displeased I get with my current situation, it seems as if my childhood was just a dream. Its as if it didn't happen. It also seems as if it is damn near impossible to move back to my home town, which I would love to do, as I miss it more than anything.


I feel very much the opposite.

I grew up in Canada and it's only gotten more and more socialist. Tax tax tax. Spend spend spend. You simply can't fight it because the people themselves want it that way. They can't wrap their heads around the way Americans live because it's a completely foreign concept. Now I'm speaking for Ontario and Quebec where I grew up, but it's not much different in the rest of the country as much as they'd like to say it isn't.

The fishing was phenomenal in my section of the St-Lawrence River, but they had to cut game wardens to spend more on welfare so the people wiped out all the fish.

Also, I had Eastern European parents so my childhood was more of a nightmare than a dream.
Link Posted: 3/15/2011 3:44:24 PM EST
I grew up in the UK,actually Wales, no going back there now with taxes and gunlaws and all that rot. Moved to Rhodesia and of course things went to shit there...I'm rather displaced but on the other hand I do like American women, even if the beer sucks here...I can own all the guns I want though..
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