I'd hate to say it, but from your stated goals, you wanted to drive a Kiowa.
If "blow shit up" is important to you, all that is left is the Apache. I've honestly never known any Apache drivers that well - and only called on them once in Iraq, and it was a local unit as we were moving through their AO, not our own. Kiowas were our workhorse aircraft - those guys did everything form aerial patrols, to CAS, to convoy security.
Come to think of it, I think our Apaches were all in Baghdad on loan to the guys with mucho stars on their collars.
As for the other 2 - Shithooks are faster, but are mainly used for longer range cargo hauling, and are always higher ecehlon assets (the 101st is the only Division that even has any). Blackhawks are primarily battle taxis these days, and the major means of personnel movement from FOB to FOB. Both can be used for troop insertions, but the Blackhawk is the traditional Assualt / Lift helicopter for infantry. The Chinook works better at the higher altitudes found in Afghanistan, and thus famously has filled that role more there.