Thanks for all the responses, opinions, and advice so far.
My situation is a lot like MarkHatfield or lasnyder above: I just can't get a good focus on a RDS. Its fine for really close but at even short-to-moderate ranges the dot is more of a "star" than a dot. I've been using the "look through BUIS peep" trick to get the dot to crisp up a little bit and I've been just "dealing with it" for a while now and its time to try something new and learn something new. I'd been wanting an ACOG for a while now anyway
I always shoot nose-to-charging-handle anyway so hopefully the eye relief won't be a problem.
I'll certainly follow the advice on trying to find some different reticles at my LGS and look through as many as I can. However, I'm putting one of these on the ole Xmas list so I've to at least take an educated guess as to what I might like. At this point I'm leaning towards the crosshair, possibly the chevron. Color I seem to like red. My eyes are used to the aimpoint so "red" just seems more instinctive.
With regards to different mount options for the RMR, I suppose I could purchase one of the ACOG/RMR combo's like on the Trijicon site and then, if I didn't like it on top, pull off the RMR and remount it at 45. I've never researched mounting options like that so that would be interesting.
Another question I have is regarding the new TA02 versus the other models I'm looking at (TA01, TA31)....
That new LED TA02 is powered by a AA battery which is different than the others and it mounts the RMR further forward. Anyone have any opinions on the TA02 versus the TA01/TA31? What are the differences between the TA01 & TA31?