I don't know about normal semi-auto AR stuff.
I'd get that that JP Enterprises trigger would be a good single stage with a neutered M16 hammer. That's the trigger I'm thinking of getting for my M16. My M16 trigger is pretty decent so I'm not too motivated.
For a 9mm setup, you should be running a normal or heavier than normal hammer spring due to the blowback design. Also, in case you haven't torn down your bolt, the firing pin is spring loaded.
The only action related malfunctions I've had, aside from ejection, have been from using a semi-auto carbine buffer or an M4 buffer. I got some bolt bounce (hammer down on a live round on auto) and a few stovepipes. If I stick to the steel 9mm buffer then all is well. It shoots cleaner too.
I noticed that you characterized the recoil as less than 5.56mm. On semi it does seem like less. Maybe the action is opening more softly.
On auto, mine jumps around quite a bit more.
I'll hand newbies my 5.56mm setup and not worry too much about it getting away from them. This 9mm setup bounces around more on auto, especially with decent ammo like Fiocchi and Winchester.
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I just notice that you're in VA too. I'm in Fairfax county and go to Albemarle to shoot every couple of months. I'd like to see how your setup works with the converted UZI mags and compare my hacked up UZI mag with yours. If you don't have a Colt mag, I've got a 32 round one. Last shot hold-open is almost as cool as free ammo!