If your headspace is excessive, I can't think of any surface you could remove material from to tighten it. The AR-15 was designed to rely on properly dimensioned parts for headspacing, and I don't think there is anything you can do about it except the officially approved step of replacing parts.
Headspace gauges are not technically the same between .223 and 5.56, but they are close enough that many people use them. Military gauges are available in go, no-go and field, but many people state you only need field. True 5.56 gauges are a bit tough to find; I am told the ones stocked by Brownells that claim to be 5.56 are actually commercial .223.
Actually, I have reconsidered. You might be able to take some material off the rear barrel face and screw the barrel deeper into the extension to tighten the headspace, but that would offset your front sight and gas port to the side, creating a visible cant to your entire front end.