Ok, you keep saying that something is preventing it from moving back farther. Are you setting the entire upper into the lower and then trying to line up both pins at the same time? If so, what you're supposed to do is the line up the front pivot pin first. In other words, don't set the whole upper into the lower. Have the upper at an angle to the lower and line up the front pin, then swing the upper down into the lower. Some matings take a little coaxing. The trick is to know how much is too much and being new, you won't know. You should seek help if coaxing is required.
I had something similar happen when I rebuilt my upper with a BCM receiver and put it on a RRA lower. On mine, I got the front pivot pin in and when I went to swing the upper down into the lower, it would not go. I slid the upper into the lower, into somewhat of a situation that is being described here and GENTLY mortared the butt on the ground. It slid in and after the first time I shot it, all was fine. There was no loss of anodizing or anything. It just took a little coaxing.
If you have a situation where the upper is sitting in the lower as it should be when assembled and you have the rear pin pushed in, but the front pin won't align, then there's a problem. I had this happen with a Smith lower that I bought.