1. - read
THIS THREAD and all of its links. It should give you all the info you need. If you still feel the need for a book, "The Complete AR-15 Assembly Guide" By Walt Kuleck and Clint McKee is the best one out there.
2. - I was where you are now so I know building your first AR seems a little scary but trust me, after building one you will realize it couldn't be much easier. I've built plastic models that where more complicated. If you already have experience building pistols (I'm assuming 1911's ?) this will be a piece of cake.
3. - Don't listen to people who tell you to build the lower and buy the upper, especially considering you already have the tools. Building the upper assembly is no more difficult than building the lower.
4. - Put away your Torque wrench. there is no need for it regardless of what some people might tell you.
5. - I would suggest you not use a DPMS lower parts kits (LPK). Sure, plenty of people have had great results from with them but many have not. I would recommend a J&T kit first or a RRA kit as a second choice.
5a. - Other than a LPK, I would suggest you stay away from kits. It is very common for "kits" to contain at least some cheap parts. If you spend some time reading the Troubleshooting forum, more times than not, when someone has a problem with a home built AR, the rifle was assembled from a "kit" and the problem is traced back to a cheap and\or defective and\or out-of -spec part.
5b. - Take your time to know what your are buying. Determine what the rights parts are for your build and then worry about where to buy them at the best price.