It is hard to explain without showing you in person, but I will try...
First: for the 6 'cones', you have 3 points to hook through, and two sides of the patch.
For a "loose/semi-snug" patch for 5.56:
Put eye through hole on outside edge.
Go about 1/4" to left or right of hole, (about half the length of the slot in the patch holder).
Fold that part into a hard crimp.
Turn that crimped corner back into the slot of the patch holder.
Grab corner from other side of patch holder, pull it through about 1/4" (if you don't pull it through far enough, it will fall loose).
Fold rest of patch back around the loop you just made.
For a "Very Tight" Patch:
Same as above, but from about 3/8" around the edge of the patch before making the fold, then loop back and pull through slot about 1/4", then fold rest of patch back over loop. (Very hard to pull through, but very good at getting stuff out).
I don't typically use the 'rod handle'. I just grab the cable and wrap it around my hand. I can get much more 'pull' that way. I've bent too many rod handles to try a "Tight Patch" with it.
I typically have 4 patches in a cleaning: 1 soaked in Mpro, 1 soaked in Copper Solvent, a semi-dry one, and a final wipe one (oiled at end). I alternate the first three, using the different holes. When that is done, I use other side of patch.
Let me know if this makes ANY sense whatsoever...