There is no way you will get around the physics of recoil and how to manage it. Newton's laws of physics apply as consistently today as they did 150-200 years ago.
If you are launching a (numbers are for demonstration purposes only) 220 grain bullet at 3200 feet per second, a 10 pound rifle will recoil considerably more than an 18 pound rifle.
There are formulas you can use to determine how much recoil a given rifle will generate, and that might help you. You can use those formulas and change bullet weight, velocity, rifle weight, rifling twist, etc to figure how much recoil you want to deal with. Compare the numbers you get from the formula to the recoil from a rifle you are familiar with.
That way you can determine if you want a heavier rifle, lower velocity, lighter bullet etc. If it were me, I would settle on the bullet weight and velocity I am seeking, and develop the rifle around that. IOW if I want the 220 grain bullet at 3200 FPS, will I want a rifle weighing 14 pounds, or 19 pounds.
I used to own a 300 Win mag that shot best with 190 grain bullets at 2960 fps. After 30 rounds it became increasingly difficult to ignore the recoil and not anticipate the recoil. I could do it, but it took more concentration to sustain great accuracy when I was thinking about recoil as well as shot management.