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Much obliged. I'm leaning strongly towards getting him closer to me instead, but I'm still in the early stages of wrapping my head around it all so I'll take whatever input I can get.
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KeithC - so sorry to hear about your cousin's health issues. It's none of my business, but has he been given any sort of time table or prognosis that would make him want to stay in the fight? This will have an impact on what he and you decide to do, what location will be best for him and when these decisions will need to be made.
We just went through this with a family member (Mike) who passed-on last Wednesday, Feb 9, after battling stage-4 brain cancer for 3 months. At the beginning of this 3-month period, our daughter and son-in-law moved in with Mike at his apartment, provided transportation to the hospital for chemo / radiation, helped with meals, etc.
When Mike's condition and mobility started declining, they brought in a home-health nurse several hours per day, 2-3 days each week to help with Mike. As Mike's condition deteriorated further a decision had to be made to continue using home healthcare or move to a nursing home. Mike ended up staying at home, with both our daughter and son-in-law, and a hospice nurse with Mike on a daily basis for the last two weeks he was with us. Mike passed-on peacefully at home, in no pain, with the two people he loved the most, at his bedside.
Afterwards, our daughter shared with us that one of the hardest things for her and her husband to do was have that tough conversation with Mike about where he wanted to be during this whole process. They were afraid it would upset Mike and make him want to give up. She said once they had the conversation, Mike was at peace with it.
Don't know if this helped at all, but our prayers are with you and your cousin, that he finds peace in both body and spirit.