Do you have .mil/CAC? If so, that will open the aperture of opportunities a bit more.
Try these...in no particular order...
Nauticus in Norfolk .... enjoy a visit onboard the WISKY...a well maintained BB! Parking and onboarding is $$ but worth taking the Command and Control Tour and the below decks Maint tour! You can crawl inside a 16 inch turret as well....
Museums...
Ft Eustis Transportation museum...both outside/covered areas, then inside. Free
American Revolution Museum...in Yorktown...very good, but $$
Ride along the Colonial Parkway from Yorktown to Jamestown ...FREE...
You'll have a few pullouts and usually during the week, there are a couple of DDGs or Amphibs moored at Yorktown Weapons Station...FREE
Old Fort Monroe (Free access, no longer a .mil reservation)...you can wander over a Coast Artillery battery and watch the Harbor traffic...usually plenty of free parking...Casemate Museum is well worth it...bonus...go inside the moat and walk up on top....a true to life pet cemetery!!!!
Thirst quenchers...
Oozlefinch Brewery on Ft. Monroe
Billsberg Brewery at Jamestown
York Pub in Yorktown, touristy and normally packed...beach is free, parking is free but goes quickly...
WW and Meadery...both have excellent tours...Meadery has honey tasting...well worth it...and you'll learn a bit in a friendly locale!
Richmond Road in WBG is wall to wall restaurants...but BEWARE parking....check to ensure parking lots aren't marked as you'll get towed quickly otherwise!
AVOID unless you want to be a statistic...Portsmouth, Norfolk, Newport News
Most areas are 2A friendly...after hours, the above 3 cities are typical free fire zones for those that favor that kind of recognition.
Last and certainly LEAST....I-64 is pretty good...3 and 4 lanes + from Toano down to Hampton...but the Achilles heels are the HRBT, and MMBT...especially during "peak hours"...expect significant backups during morning rush, both directions and on weekends. For us, southside might as well be another state. VDOT 511 is a handy app...at least you'll know why you are sitting stuck in traffic....use WAZE for alternative routing!