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as far as 90 days, i have heard because of covid, it could take much longer.
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Mine finalized Oct of 2021, exactly 60 days from the filing date, didn't even have a court date, her lawyer just filed and it was a done deal at the 60 day mark. I was sent an envelope with a single sheet of paper in it from the county saying it was done. That was a weird return trip from the mailbox.
We hashed everything out together leading up to her lawyer filing. There were a number of unspoken tradeoffs. I kept the house and all assets in it minus her personal things, paid her a little less than half of what she could have gotten if sold and split, she only went after 25% vs the 50% of my retirement she could have, she kept horses, trailer, newer vehicle, I only get one weekend a month with kid, but she doesn't want to see me anyway, I pay the full amount the state would require in child support, little way to get out of that, along with insurance for the kid. Her original ask in the petition was full custody with
no regards to geographical location (ie, she could have moved 1300mi to the guy, an old bf of hers, me and him know each in college, him recently divorce... she waited till his was finalized to tell me her intentions. He was her secret emotional support for months leading up to it. I had been no prince leading up to it so, I understand. It usually take two to succeed or fail.)
We get along pretty good now, at bare minimum you could call it cordial. Biggest mistake I've seen people make is the inability to separate business from emotion when going through divorce. Being vindictive does nobody except the lawyers any good. Being cool with each other works out for everyone. Split movie accounts, she still cuts my hair, has bought me cloths for dating, I've fixed her car, we talk on the phone for short periods. She tried to tell me my most recent gf was a loon, told her she didn't know what she was talking about, she did a background search on her and shared the results, I still ignored.. turns out ex was exactly correct, gf was a loon and likely dangerous.
In dating, I have heard some horror stories, nightmares. Biggest advice, keep the business and emotional part of divorce separate. You have the rest of your life to be happy or not with someone else, about one chance of making the court orders more favorable to you, then you have to live with that.