Not trying to be a dick but you would likely get more answers in the Reloading section...
Most of my recent loads have been for steel, IDPA, or USPSA so they are pretty light. I haven't loaded 357 for years but I have loaded a good bit of 38 Special and 38 Short Colt.
For 38 SC I load a 158 grain round nose of some type. I have loaded Berry's, Ranier, Xtreme, and BBI with some regularity. I always use Hp-38/WW231 but the actual powder charge escapes me at the minute. I try to keep those at about 850 fps. All of my loads are over anything I have found in any manuals for 38 SC because it is such an old cartridge and vintage guns can't take the pressure. I shoot all mine through a N frame S&W so I am not real worried about the pressure level I generate at those velocities.
For 38 Special I use the same bullets but may use HP=38/WW231, WST, or Bullseye. I also try to keep those at 825-850 fps as well.
In both cases I use Federal Small Pistol primers if possible since it gets me about a pound lighter on the trigger with drop dead reliable ignition.
I don't reload anything hot for any pistol cartridges except 44 mag since that is the only one I hunt with. I use store bought for personal protection.