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Posted: 1/27/2020 6:29:19 AM EDT
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Wow hope you like wearing ties and jackets. And will have to trim the beard if you have on. Personally I hate wearing ties. And yes no hoodies anymore.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 6:34:05 AM EDT
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No advice shall be rendered until you follow the rules
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Posted: 1/27/2020 6:35:52 AM EDT
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just lawyer up now
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Posted: 1/27/2020 6:55:25 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/27/2020 6:59:12 AM EDT
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Just the beginning OP.
Subscription to GQ on the way. New hobbies. New friends. New tea parties. Trade in your truck. Sell your guns. And don’t forget to vacuum and do the dishes. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 6:59:17 AM EDT
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A real man can wear a pink Polo, chinos, no socks, and penny loafers anywhere he fucking wants to.
ETA... 
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:04:17 AM EDT
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Fairs fair, if you preppy up she has to slut it up.
No clue this was coming? It's the tip of the iceberg, heading for Uranus, get out now. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:07:20 AM EDT
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If you give in now on this, get ready to give in on a lot of things.
Maybe make some compromises, but now is the time to learn how to say "do you want me to demand all sorts of fundamental changes of you?" "I like lingere, dinner made, house kept, bla bla bla." But if you capitulate and don't gain some of your own ground, or put your foot down and lead, this will define the tenor of your marriage. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:32:13 AM EDT
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So she waited till you were married to spring this on you?
Sounds like a trap. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:33:28 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:37:21 AM EDT
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I have two "styles"
1: I look like I have been out in the barn chor'in all day 2: I have nice clothes to wear to nice places Dress up sometimes for your new wife. Maybe she wants to show you off and brag about how good you are in the sack to her friends. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:41:37 AM EDT
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So my newlywed wife feels my style sucks. It probably does, and likes the traditional preppy look. She's a New Englander, from an "established" family, and went to Harvard undergrad and grad school. I'd assume this look is just what she's familiar with. I'm I going to look stupid as a 38 year old man dressing this way? Will my gun buddies pretend they don't know me? Am I going to miss my carhartt hoodies? When I'm at work I wear my work clothes when I'm in my garage or cutting my grass I wear my work clothes when we want to go somewhere I wear the preppy stuff |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:49:27 AM EDT
[#13]
Just married an now she tries to change you?!? Not sure bout this kind of behavior already.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:49:58 AM EDT
[#14]
Full scale Ken doll. Enjoy.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 7:50:55 AM EDT
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Custom wool pull over hoodie------- https://asbellwool.com/t/pathfinder
They have full zipper versions too, just follow care instructions on site. Blazer/sport coat substitute----------------------------------- Duluth Trading canvas jacket Cabela's stopped selling my heavy twill collared shirts when taken over by Bass Pro 
Tactical shit has some nice flannel shirts. If you like T-shirts just switch to heavy polos from Timberland or the thin synthetic ones from Gall's since they hold up better than Ralph Loren. Duluth Trading for pants that last and don't look shabby like three month old Dockers, or non tactical looking Propper or 511 stay sharp. A friend got a bunch of his BILs and loves them better than his former jeans. Pockets plenty deep for J frame holstered which is more than can be said for some jeans nowadays.
I used to buy Dickies pants and cut the red tab off for suitable business attire look. They last for a few years wearing 3 days a week and just get more comfy with washings. Pockets never fray and no worn spots developed on them. Draw the line at sweater vests and button down shirts. I used to like to wear commando sweaters, the black Army or OD Marine ones. Does she want real preppy or just get rid of the Tshirts and hoodies? You could always go with the 80's Al Sharpton look and ask if your original look is OK after all. 
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:06:21 AM EDT
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Geez, OP, that sounds a little ominous. I hope you're being facetious. Not good that she's trying to change how you dress.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:19:40 AM EDT
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Get your balls back and wear what you want.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:22:17 AM EDT
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edit.... sorry not GD
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:27:52 AM EDT
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So my newlywed wife feels my style sucks. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:38:10 AM EDT
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Get your balls back and wear what you want. Wow. Not cool. Hope this new style thing is just a suggestion from the new bride. Either you look like a homeless guy or your wife is playing with fire with "I can change him" crap. You have my sympathy. ???????? |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:58:43 AM EDT
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I have two "styles" 1: I look like I have been out in the barn chor'in all day 2: I have nice clothes to wear to nice places Dress up sometimes for your new wife. Maybe she wants to show you off and brag about how good you are in the sack to her friends. “Clean up” once in a while OP! |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 8:59:51 AM EDT
[#22]
It’s ok not to be a slob all the time.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:03:44 AM EDT
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https://www.jcrew.com/mens
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:08:58 AM EDT
[#24]
Too bad OP did not see the quicksand he now finds himself in before the wedding...
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:09:38 AM EDT
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Are you really sobbing it up right now, or is this just a general request? A simple trip to Banana Republic, Eddie Bauer, and Nordstrom to buy a few outfits might cut it.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:29:56 AM EDT
[#26]
You're being estrogenized.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:32:01 AM EDT
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No advice shall be rendered until you follow the rules . |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:37:34 AM EDT
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right. why is everyone else helping?!? Quote HistoryQuoted:
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No advice shall be rendered until you follow the rules . |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:41:45 AM EDT
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Just married an now she tries to change you?!? Not sure bout this kind of behavior already. Women have a switch in their head that just turns on when they eat wedding cake. Before marriage there is stuff about you they don't like, but they think "No big deal, it's not like I have to put up with this forever" Then marriage happens, and the switch changes to the new setting and suddenly they think "Hole shit.... I have to tolerate this shit forever?!?!?!?!" next think you know it starts nice with "Honey, I think you would look nice if you just try wearing this gay fucking shirt (sic) to the party" and "Could try only drinking beer tonight?". |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:42:20 AM EDT
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So she waited till you were married to spring this on you? Sounds like a trap. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:43:40 AM EDT
[#31]
In before the spinoff thread.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:51:34 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I ran into a duck hunting buddy at a funeral a couple of weeks ago. I was wearing a gray chalk stripe suit, tie and shiny, freshly polished wingtips. "Damn, you clean up well..." "Clean up" once in a while OP! I think she wants to change op in more fundamental ways. The way shes asking him to dress isn't akin to dressing well for a funeral/dinner/etc., it feels like shes wanting him to dress like a beta lib. Preppy isnt "putting on a suit/tie every once in a while for an appropriate occasion, preppy is an every day thing. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 9:52:12 AM EDT
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Wife is also a New Englander.
She knows there are times when I clean up and look like a well dressed middle aged man. There are times apart from that when I am gray man (boots/jeans/hat/hoodie/shirt jacket) but well armed and prepared. I don't go anywhere out like a schlub. Marriage is compromise but I do it on my own accord. I also work Plainclothes LE and wear jacket and tie at work. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:09:10 AM EDT
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... now don't get me wrong: it's good to have and wear clothing that one wouldn't play football or work on the car in. But the post-marriage instance is a little off-putting.
I'll always try on and occasionally wear clothing my wife buys me, often in styles I'd never pick for myself; ask her to pick out thing she thinks you'd look good in. No reason not to expand the wardrobe. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:13:00 AM EDT
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So you married a woman who wants to change the way you dress? My wife liked the way I dressed when we dated and has never asked me to change a thing about me. Just sayin.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:19:04 AM EDT
[#36]
If she takes care of you in the bedroom whenever you want, however you want, then respond in kind. Otherwise
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:23:02 AM EDT
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How preppy are we talking? LL Bean/Eddie Bauer or Vineyard Vines?
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:32:44 AM EDT
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How preppy are we talking? LL Bean/Eddie Bauer or Vineyard Vines? |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:39:34 AM EDT
[#39]
She loves you. She wants you to look good.
Just do it. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:53:24 AM EDT
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She didn’t try try to clean you up when you were engaged?
This won’t go well. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 10:59:46 AM EDT
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So my newlywed wife feels my style sucks. It probably does, and likes the traditional preppy look. She’s a New Englander, from an “established” family, and went to Harvard undergrad and grad school. I’d assume this look is just what she’s familiar with. I’m I going to look stupid as a 38 year old man dressing this way? Will my gun buddies pretend they don’t know me? Am I going to miss my carhartt hoodies? Accountant ETA: She will still fuck the pool boy, her personal trainer, and the delivery boy; behind your back. Yes, I'm this jaded for a reason. You will learn within the next 5 years.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:02:49 AM EDT
[#42]
1/10
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:37:47 AM EDT
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So my newlywed wife feels my style sucks. It probably does, and likes the traditional preppy look. She’s a New Englander, from an “established” family, and went to Harvard undergrad and grad school. I’d assume this look is just what she’s familiar with. I’m I going to look stupid as a 38 year old man dressing this way? Will my gun buddies pretend they don’t know me? Am I going to miss my carhartt hoodies? |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:49:46 AM EDT
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You sure that was an upgrade? Weird statement for someone to make right after marriage: "I love you now change." Quote HistoryQuoted:
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So my newlywed wife feels my style sucks.  Attached File |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:52:54 AM EDT
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Just the beginning OP. Subscription to GQ on the way. New hobbies. New friends. New tea parties. Trade in your truck. Sell your guns. And don’t forget to vacuum and do the dishes.
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:54:20 AM EDT
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It’s ok not to be a slob all the time. Need more information before I determine this to be a bad thing. Some folks here have a near allergic mental reaction to dressing like grown-ups, like it it would mean they sold out or some imaginary tough guy image rooted in their minds. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:54:20 AM EDT
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If you give in now on this, get ready to give in on a lot of things. Maybe make some compromises, but now is the time to learn how to say "do you want me to demand all sorts of fundamental changes of you?" "I like lingere, dinner made, house kept, bla bla bla." But if you capitulate and don't gain some of your own ground, or put your foot down and lead, this will define the tenor of your marriage. |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:56:15 AM EDT
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I would not worry about it OP. It will either work out or it won't.
What is wrong with wearing nice clothes? |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 11:57:48 AM EDT
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Too bad OP did not see the quicksand he now finds himself in before the wedding... |
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Posted: 1/27/2020 12:01:24 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: She has an extensive lingerie collection and it's own dresser. Cooks like a French chef, house is immaculate. |
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