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Do everything you can now to get a strong, straight forward agreement now, or you will be going back to court in the future. More billable hours.
Try and address future possible issues such as one of you moving 200 miles away for a new job.
Do NOT let her use you as her day care. Mine tried that and the judge laughed at her (not really laughed) but told her in no uncertain terms that there was no such thing as forced visitation.
The document you have now, looks like something that the two of you would write up as an informal way to implement a real order from the court. It is temporary at most and only address her current work schedule. Are you going back to court every time her schedule changes or your availability changes? And what about someone moving miles away for a new job. Who makes the drive to drop/off, pick/up the kids.
I can tell you is sucks to drive 126 mile, twice on a Friday night to pick them up and twice on a Sunday to drop them off. Does not leave much quality time.
Get a straight forward order from the court and then work out the details between the two of you.
Be fair but firm. Don't let her have control or you will regret it for a long time.
No, I'm not bitter. Just speaking from experience.
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From what I understand, currently, per the temporary order, custody is 50/50 joint managing. My attorney tell me that because it's 50/50 neither of us will be able to leave the county, due to the fact that our son won't be able to attend two different schools. She get's to say where he lives and goes to school.
We are not on speaking terms whatsoever, i mean i literally don't even make eye contact when she picks him up. It is ordered that drop off and pick up happen at my house. So there won't be any working things out between ourselves.
I don't trust her as far as I can throw her. She's a liar and a cheater, and in court at the temp custody hearing she lied her ass off up there on the stand under oath.
This order we have now, is a temporary custody order.
I'm fine here in the town i live in, all my family is here, my business, and friends.
She has no one, only her twin brother, who's a homeless drug dealer that lives in Colorado.
I know that eventually she's gonna want to move, she hates it here. She's living with my sister now. So I see myself back in court eventually.
So, i told my lawyer i want alternating three days, adding in an exchange time, and also, AXE THE "with accommodation to her work schedule"
I'll see what he says, and I'll get some clarification on the geography limitations and have him make sure those are very specific as well.
This whole thing is a soup sandwich.