I have a brother in law who is a meth head/felon/in and out of jail/severely mentally unstable/bipolar. I have know my wife for 13 years and been married for 3.5. He has always been in and out of jail and prison. He was locked up for our wedding, our childs birth, alot of important stuff. He was released 3/2020 and against my intuition and natural instincts, i went to dinner with the family when he was released. I said hey lets give him a chance. Introduced him to my 1.5 year old daughter (main thing i did not want to do)
Well within months he had already been through 2 jobs. Had a job as a manager for a remodeling compnay where all he did was drove around and gathered supplies. No manual labor, no mental stress, GRAVY. Fucked it up. He thinks drone are following him. People are watching him.
He broke into my house a few years ago and stole from us. Said he was sorry and would pay us back.
He sends us pictures of reflections of mirrors, 20-100 at a time. He bought some kind of gadget that scans for "bugs" (listening devices) and scanned his whole house.
The main reason i am writing this is because of another thread that was a little similar to this one. The amount of responses of "relatives kill relatives" was alarming.
He has threatened suicide but has never came close because he is a coward. His mother and grandfather give him everything he wants. When he was released from prison the last time he had a 2015 equinox waiting for him. This vehicle keeps breaking down and getting impounded but the mother and gradnfather get it out of the impound for him. He somehow has an active phone line all the time too.
When he was released it was during the hype of covid. His parole officer is almost never in contact. I believe its due to covid.
He went to my house without my knowledge, caught him on the ring camera, and i immediately placed a no trespassing order on him.
on 8/2020 my wife recieved a call and i was busy prepping for our MOVE DAY! We were moving into the house of our dreams and our forever home. My wife broke into tears and says "MY MOM IS LOCKED IN THE HOUSE WITH (IN-LAW) AND HE HAS A GUN". I immediately called 911 and began to head that direction. My nephew was out there and i wasnt going to let anything happen to him. When the police arrived at the scene, the mother came outside and immediatley was defending my IN-LAW. saying it was a misunderstanding and that he never threatened them, MAKING ME LOOK LIKE A FOOL! I have thought about contacting that agency and letting them hear my side of the story, but i have not. I was told it was good i called and now there is documentation of a threat.
So, the point of my post....
WHAT DO I DO? WHAT CAN I DO? WHAT CAN I DO TO PREPARE MY FAMILY?
It is so hard because i have a tenancy to write people off VERY easily. If i know a person is just bad news and has nothing positive to offer, i do not need that in my life. So i have done that with my IN-LAW. I have done this years ago, my wife has just now (almost) joined me in agreeing to completely write him off. She responds to his off the wall communications through text but she says she only wants to keep a somewhat stable communication line active so basically he doesnt want to come kill us.
I live in a rural area with a 1200' private lane. I do feel very safe and i have ring cameras. My inlaws live less than 2 miles away.
He was in our public mental health ward as off last week because he tried hanging himself in the garage. Mind you he had no stool/ladder but had a rope and was running around with it saying he was going to hang himself. he was given the option to seek help or get out of mother in laws house. he went to the mental ward, then into a halfway house now i have no idea where he is. The mother inlaw will lie to us and say hes out of rehab and doing great.