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Posted: 2/21/2024 10:43:59 PM EDT
I have. And am.. My [little] brother's retirement account is up $300K since November 1 of 2023.

Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:44:50 PM EDT
[#1]
Sure it's human nature.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:47:52 PM EDT
[#2]
Sounds like you are envious, not jealous.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:49:15 PM EDT
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That is fair enough. He has made way better decisions than I did.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:51:07 PM EDT
[#4]
No way. I’m happy my family’s doing well. Even if its better than how I’m doing.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:52:02 PM EDT
[#5]
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:53:30 PM EDT
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No way. I’m happy my family’s doing well. Even if its better than how I’m doing.
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Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:55:35 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:56:43 PM EDT
[#8]
Nope.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 10:57:03 PM EDT
[#9]
Never.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:02:38 PM EDT
[#10]
None of my family is particularly well-off.

But my sister who does nothing but make bad decisions managed to win $45k playing Blackjack at the casino one night
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:03:22 PM EDT
[#11]
Nope. While I'm not what I'd call wealthy. My wife and I are what I'd consider well off.
Minimal bills, utilities (electric, water, trash etc) of course. Cars and house paid off. Credit card paid off monthly. We both drive newer vehicles. 2022 & 2023. No complaints.
I have an older brother who has done extremely well. Multi-millionaire well. No envy, no jealousy.
He's my brother. Nothing but love and well wishes.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:03:23 PM EDT
[#12]
My sister and brother in law are multi-millionaires with a home in Seattle and another in Jackson Hole, WY.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:04:45 PM EDT
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None of my family is particularly well-off.

But my sister who does nothing but make bad decisions managed to win $45k playing Blackjack at the casino one night
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Did she wisely invest the money?
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:05:12 PM EDT
[#14]
OK guys, shut it down.

I always knew my brother's would be way better off than me, but I also realized recently later in life, that I would also end up much better off than I ever imagined. That was a stroke of luck that I will always be thankful for.






Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:06:23 PM EDT
[#15]
My uncle (married my mom's sister)  grew up in a huge wealthy Democrat party leadership family with servants,  etc...   he and his brother owned a huge manufacturing business that sold worldwide.  He was a fantastic uncle to me when I was young.  He seemed like a relatively good guy and his 3 kids are great,  as near as I can tell. One of his brothers became a senator (not in Ohio).

I've never been jealous,  but I grew up in awe of his lifestyle. I have always assumed that he pretty much lived the 80s dream lifestyle. I assume from what I saw as a young kid that they enjoyed parties,  coke (can't imagine they didn't),  country clubs, and other things that were pictured in movies back then.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:06:26 PM EDT
[#16]
I have a brother in law that gets disability, welfare, free housing, and VA disability (rolled his ankle in basic while drunk) and an ebt card.

He earns zero dollars income. But on paper he makes over 80k a year.

Spends the day drunk off his ass.

I work every chance I can to scrape a living.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:10:44 PM EDT
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OK guys, shut it down.

I always knew my brother's would be way better off than me, but I also realized recently later in life, that I would also end up much better off than I ever imagined. That was a stroke of luck that I will always be thankful for.






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JC, you are cool.

My brothers and sisters always seem to get the trophy while I am fighting in the mud.

We'll get our day.




Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:11:51 PM EDT
[#18]
No, but I have several family members that have been constantly jealous of my position for many years.  Not fun.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:11:58 PM EDT
[#19]
No, we all are different. Some of my friends are RIIIIIICH and some of my friends can barely make it. I'm doing okay.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:13:14 PM EDT
[#20]
Wife and dog that love me more than anything, I'm the richest man in the world.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:13:14 PM EDT
[#21]
Nah, but I’m also the oldest sibling and the only one currently on my own. Now I’m just hoping to teach them what I’d wished I had known at their age.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:14:47 PM EDT
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Family?  No.

My cousin was a Wall St/Banking bigwig.  At one point, his company (he was a founding partner) was managing the pension fund of the country of Sweden.  High-8 or low-9 figure net worth.  More power to him.

I don't generally get jealous of people who are more successful than me.  Frankly, I'm just not willing to work that hard.
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This. I know a few people who seemingly had a grand piano of wealth dropped on 'em. But most that I know who have more wealth than me did it through hard work and responsible living. I do sometimes fantasize about driving my La Ferrari to board my Gulfstream V, but I'm mostly happy that my 1950s house and mid two thousands vehicles are all paid-for. In a very humble way, I'm more wealthy than most of these people that I see driving their $80K SUVs to their $500K homes. Ima go out on a limb and guess it's all debt.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:15:00 PM EDT
[#23]
Jealous but never in a bad way.   I’m always happy to see people I care about doing good for them selves.  


It’s the scumbags in life that don’t deserve it that pisses me off. You know like most of our so called leaders.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:16:06 PM EDT
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Wife and dog that love me more than anything, I'm the richest man in the world.
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Nice. I cannot find the right emotion pic or emoticon or whatever..

Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:17:18 PM EDT
[#25]
I have a sister and brother in law that do well. I have a half brother I can't run off from my mom. He had medical problems when young so she son husbanded him They came back from visiting my sister and he was telling me how nice their house is and said I wish I had fountain problems. I said first you would have to have a job problem. It would be funny but she won't quit working and he won't start.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:18:46 PM EDT
[#26]
It's the other way around for me.

I'm tired of bailing my wife's older sister out of her never ending bad decision making.

Married and divorced four times. Yep.

Three kids all by different fathers. Yep.

She could not find a job so her father asked me to hire her. I had to hire an outside firm to fix her screw ups in our accounting software. And then had to give her a raise.

I had to loan her $20K to buy a boat because she wanted to live on the water. She had it inspected by a "Friend". Come to find out only one of the engines would run. Her first week she stepped through the floor. Running engine finally gave up the ghost and now both engines were kaput. She did pay me back in full and sold the boat after a couple of years living on it plugged into shore power.

Her younger daughter who is a college educated die hard Communist and BLM supporter who worships the BBC got a DUI at her company Christmas party after driving home drunk and crashing which totaled her car. Wife's sister now has to let her daughter use her car to get back and forth to work so wife's sister ask me if she can work from home three days a week.

Wife's sister moved into an apartment after the boat sold and had her daughter move in with her to "share" expenses. Daughter ran her mouth about the boss watching Fox News and he fired her. Now wife's sister can't pay the rent. I had to loan her $5K to get caught up. I doubt I will ever see that money again. Daughter says she cannot find a job and now I'm paying her to clean my house.

Wife's sister said that we are so lucky we are rich. I'm like, I'm not rich, I'm comfortable and you are draining me dry. My wife is now pissed at me.

I guess I'm the bad guy. Being family can suck some times.


Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:19:03 PM EDT
[#27]
My wife and I both grew up in financially challenged households.  I wouldn't say poverty, but 6 people in a 600 sq foot house on the southside of Chicago, 4 people in a trailer in central WI - you get the picture.  We have both done well financially and I would consider ourselves wealthy.  Hard work, going to school, and a bit of luck I suppose.  I often say to her, "if we could see the house and family, and life we have now when we were 8 years old, we would never believe it".  That has unfortunately caused some weird family dynamics with my wife's family. "Remember where you came" from kind of thinking. My one sister is a bit weird about it alluding to that she is just as smart as me but chose a different path kind of thing with a tinge of jealousy thrown in.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:19:14 PM EDT
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JC, you are cool.

My brothers and sisters always seem to get the trophy while I am fighting in the mud.

We'll get our day.




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Call me / PM next time you are out here my friend. We can get lunch or dinner on me. It is good to have friends, even those you haven't met in person, before.


Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:19:39 PM EDT
[#29]
My first cousin has a seafood brokerage worth hundreds of millions. He’s partners with the parent company of Toyota. Im pretty sure he exports a ton of tuna to Japan.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:21:21 PM EDT
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That is fair enough. He has made way better decisions than I did.
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I can tell that looking at the state you chose to reside in.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:22:18 PM EDT
[#31]
Well yeah, my dad has an assload of money and won’t give me any
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:22:19 PM EDT
[#32]
I try to focus on myself and running my race.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:23:08 PM EDT
[#33]
Unfortunately, yes, I have.

As the clock ticks, I've learned to place less emphasis on worldly goods.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:24:23 PM EDT
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I have. And am.. My [little] brother's retirement account is up $300K since November 1 of 2023.

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Eh...sure, but he's earned it...

My little brother chose the workforce right out of highschool.

I chose college.

When i was in college, paying for an education, he was months out of HS already making $50+/hr as a heavy equipment operator. He bought farmland that has appreciated in value very well. He bought my uncle out of a drainage and excavating business that is now worth several million. It's taken years for me to pay off college, pay down my mortgage, and get my net worth close to $1M (my home is my primary asset). Meanwhile, bc he didn't waste a penny on college and got a head start on buying appreciating assets and business assets that make him money, he has a net worth around $2M, mine is less than $1M.


ETA, my older brother chose to knock up his girlfriend and marry her. She has expensive tastes on a poor's income. Older brother is an hourly employee of my younger brother. Haha
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:25:23 PM EDT
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I have a sister and brother in law that do well. I have a half brother I can't run off from my mom. He had medical problems when young so she son husbanded him They came back from visiting my sister and he was telling me how nice their house is and said I wish I had fountain problems. I said first you would have to have a job problem. It would be funny but she won't quit working and he won't start.
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Wait... wut?
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:26:00 PM EDT
[#36]
Not jealous per say I want nothing more than to see my close loved ones prosper, but there was a point where a family member got in pre-IPO with a Seattle company and then had proper "fuck you" money with just a desk job.

I did wish I was as intelligent as he was to make similar moves
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:26:39 PM EDT
[#37]
Where I work I see people vastly wealthier than me. But on the flip side the wealth of the company I work for is far superior of any of the clients.

I am not really envious of financial wealth. I am intrigued by how people who started with nothing worked hard and became successful. I couldn't care less about someone who won the lottery.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:26:53 PM EDT
[#38]
No.

Why would I?
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:30:26 PM EDT
[#39]
When I was a young boy, I was introduced to a great uncle who was the wealthiest person in a medium-sized town in Kansas.  He owned the newspaper and the politicians.  I got to tour the paper's printing facility, which fascinated me.  A nice man made me a couple of stamps of my name on an actual Linotype machine, which I still have somewhere around here.

My uncle lived in a fabulous dark wood mansion with beautiful green tropical looking carpet everywhere, a butler, the whole nine yards.  There was a grand staircase, an elevator to the upper floors, and all kinds of wonderful artworks and souvenirs from his world travels.

Then I was taken to a bedroom on the second floor to meet his wife, who had accompanied him for decades and traveled with him.  She had been a classic midwestern wealthy socialite for most of her life.  That is, until she had a stroke that left her bedridden.

The only word my aunt could say was "NO!" because of aphasia caused by her stroke.  She couldn't get out of bed, or walk, or dress herself.  She had to have every physical need attended to by a nurse at all times.  I get chills remembering the woman saying "NO, NO, NO...!" to her caregivers.  It scared the crap out of me almost literally.

I was too young to really appreciate how materially wealthy my uncle was much less become envious of his stature, but I left the visit feeling deeply sorry for his wife and for him.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:30:31 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:31:33 PM EDT
[#41]
nope. Once you get a real look inside, you realize they made a lot of sacrifices you wouldn't ever do. they're almost never in a better position.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:31:51 PM EDT
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It's the other way around for me.

I'm tired of bailing my wife's older sister out of her never ending bad decision making.

Married and divorced four times. Yep.

Three kids all by different fathers. Yep.

She could not find a job so her father asked me to hire her. I had to hire an outside firm to fix her screw ups in our accounting software. And then had to give her a raise.

I had to loan her $20K to buy a boat because she wanted to live on the water. She had it inspected by a "Friend". Come to find out only one of the engines would run. Her first week she stepped through the floor. Running engine finally gave up the ghost and now both engines were kaput. She did pay me back in full and sold the boat after a couple of years living on it plugged into shore power.

Her younger daughter who is a college educated die hard Communist and BLM supporter who worships the BBC got a DUI at her company Christmas party after driving home drunk and crashing which totaled her car. Wife's sister now has to let her daughter use her car to get back and forth to work so wife's sister ask me if she can work from home three days a week.

Wife's sister moved into an apartment after the boat sold and had her daughter move in with her to "share" expenses. Daughter ran her mouth about the boss watching Fox News and he fired her. Now wife's sister can't pay the rent. I had to loan her $5K to get caught up. I doubt I will ever see that money again. Daughter says she cannot find a job and now I'm paying her to clean my house.

Wife's sister said that we are so lucky we are rich. I'm like, I'm not rich, I'm comfortable and you are draining me dry. My wife is now pissed at me.

I guess I'm the bad guy. Being family can suck some times.


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Your wife's family dynamic is... less than optimal, and because of that, you are basically married to her sister. Think about that.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:32:57 PM EDT
[#43]
Not at all, nor any reason to be.
Also, tell your brother that 300K is not going ot go far as a retirement account, unless he's still pretty young/
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:33:23 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:33:46 PM EDT
[#45]
No, because I want my family to succeed as a unit. The better they do, the better I do, the better my family does.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:34:25 PM EDT
[#46]
Idk if you'd call it jealousy or envy....

I just know I have certain relatives buying $600 shoes, big homes and cars - then wanna run to me and deplete my resources when they can't maintain a Jay-Z/Beyonce lifestyle.

Idk, I don't consider myself the jealous or envious type. If I see someone I admire, I aspire to become/obtain what I admire about them.

Now, I am human, so of course, maybe I have those emotions, but like I said, I don't let the bird make a nest in my head.

I'm always in competition with myself....
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:34:40 PM EDT
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The only one I am jealous of, strangely is my father. County and state employee his whole life, almost free medical and a pension. I know I will be paying for my own health care and my own retirement. But he made the choice to do a state job, and I should have listened when he told me to.

Now I am not jealous in any way, I am just in awe of my wifes uncle. He and his brother started hughes network ( in his brothers garage ) , when he retired he started a venture capital firm with his own cash. No clue what he is worth, but he is a nice down to earth guy.
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:35:33 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:35:46 PM EDT
[#49]
Link Posted: 2/21/2024 11:36:02 PM EDT
[#50]
Nope. My family is all doing well. I'm happy for them and the more of us that are doing well the more security we have as a family. Unless someone does something real fucked up we all help in hard times.
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