Update my SO and I broke up for good. We were more friends with benefits the last year or so. Most of the time there was no foreplay, kissing, any of that shit when I initiated sex. It was more like "hey if you want to bend me over do it now and hurry." I got some blue pills but never got to try them with her. I started dating a woman who is really into me not long after my original post. It turns out I don't need the blue pills. There was so much pressure with my ex and no foreplay that it was fucking with my heads. I have taken some of the blue pills and they are fun, but the problem, it seems, was really my situation and the lack of affection, kissing, groping, that had me unable to get it up. This gal is all over me and the sex is fantastic. Just an PSA that it might not be you. Still lifting but have hit a bit of a wall on weight loss. Am going to cut more alcohol. My upper body has really transformed. Am I gaining as much muscle as I'm losing fat?