Im currently serving now and I have a 10 year old daughter. My wife is a vet too and theres a ton of vets on both sides of the family, so shes seen the military her whole life. She's climbed all over our planes, tanks, trucks and played with an RPG-7. She liked setting up a training Claymore and looking through thermals and NODS. That said, she knows the score about the military. Unlike other military brats I've known she doesn't seem to have the same resentment they had. She knows Dad can go to war at anytime and she knows those of us in the family who have been to war have our little quirks. She knows and understands why I can't always be there for school events or her games and alot of holidays but shes a tough kid and knows I'll make up for it.
I've had people ask me, "Do you want your daughter to join the military?" I tell them it will be her choice and I would be very proud of her if she does, but if she doesn't thats fine. She's asked about the benefits of joining a few times and even at her age I see the wheels turning. I do think if she does join up, she'll just do it for the bene's and not make a career of it. But, she has said being a traditional Guardsman looks like a good gig. She's still a kid and 18 is still a few years away so who knows what she'll do.
As far as questions she's had about the military and deployments, my daughter asked me what would happen if I got killed. I told her the God honest truth about what happens and I wanted her to understand that her and her mother would be taken care of and she needed to step up and be there for Mom. We don't dwell on that stuff but I know it's on her mind. She knows I retire in a couple of years and any worries she has about me will be gone then.
All in all I don't get all bound up about my kid and the military. It goes all the way back to a Captain in the Virginia Militia in the Revolution and on to a relative serving in every war our nations been in. It's in our blood and we're damn proud of it.