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Posted: 9/15/2018 4:12:59 AM EDT
Link Posted: 9/15/2018 4:20:57 AM EDT
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Link Posted: 9/15/2018 4:24:32 AM EDT
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Link Posted: 9/15/2018 4:37:24 AM EDT
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Link Posted: 9/15/2018 6:47:36 AM EDT
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I'm sorry OP.
Link Posted: 9/15/2018 7:04:31 AM EDT
[#5]
The period before the decision was always the hardest for me.
After, there was the feeling they weren't suffering anymore.  They always seemed like they knew it was the time and they were ready to go.

My condolences.
Link Posted: 9/15/2018 7:25:01 AM EDT
[#6]
So sorry for your loss.  We made the family decision to put down our dog under similar circumstances.

I was not only in the room, but I was able to hold him and tell him how much he is loved as the lights went out.  I was literally looking into his eyes when he passed...we couldn’t have scripted a more appropriate goodbye.  I felt a similar peace you describe...no pain or sadness.  If I had to pick a word to describe it, it was beautiful.

Also, dogs from a loving home are incredibly in tune with their owners.   I don’t doubt your dog was letting you know you absolutely made the right decision.  Condolences to you and your family.
Link Posted: 9/15/2018 8:44:35 AM EDT
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Ive done everything from spending thousands and traveling hundreds of mile to see specialist/operations and advance life care.
I learned from experience I can be the cause of more suffering or I can stop their suffering.
It's better to end it before the suffering than suffer for a day too long.  Death is inevitable but the suffering is not.

All you do is learn and try to make good decisions next time.

Sounds like you did just fine.
Link Posted: 9/17/2018 8:45:36 AM EDT
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Several times in the past few years.

One thing both cats and dogs do:  They teach us to mourn and to cope with loss.  May your dog RIP.
Link Posted: 9/17/2018 9:04:25 AM EDT
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Many times - and sorry for your loss.  
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This.
Link Posted: 9/17/2018 11:46:10 AM EDT
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Several times....It never get easier.
Link Posted: 9/19/2018 3:15:44 PM EDT
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Sorry, brother.  We have had to do it too many times, and it always sucks.  Most recently, the vet in Anchorage came to the house for our Neopolitan Mastiff, and did it right there :(

It never gets easier, but I will always remember the first one.  Our 16 year old chocolate lab.  He grew up with my son.  It was devastating for us all, and we did that one at the house, as well.  Buried him in the back yard that he loved.
Link Posted: 9/24/2018 9:39:27 PM EDT
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Knowing that they are sick and are hurting, it is still the hardest decision.  I've done it 3 times in the past 5 years - my two original kitties and my step-dog.

In short, yes, knowing it's the right thing, there is a bit of peace at the end.  For me, a lot of the grief came in the run-up the last few days / hours before the moment came.  Then, there was some relief, because I knew my kids were not hurting anymore.  Then there was a longer period of cycling between grief, relief and remembering the good times.

The trick for me and my wife was that whenever we felt down, we'd force ourselves to think about a happy memory.  That did several things - it kept us from dwelling on the sadness and loss, but it also helped us to think about the fun times when they were happy and healthy, and not just the recency of watching them when they were sick or hurting.

In time, it got easier.  I miss the kids I've lost.  We have 3 wonderful and hilarious kitties now, which means that they day will come to go through it all over again.  But we'd not have it any other way.  We've saved a few lives, and in turn, they've "saved" ours in many ways, too.

I'm very sorry for your loss, OP.  I hope that my little story here has helped you and your family, even if just a little.
Link Posted: 9/26/2018 6:42:43 PM EDT
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Been through it many times.  They can't make that last decision for themselves.  Making it for them and then being there when they pass is the last great act of love you can show them.

I'm starting to tear up a little thinking about each and every time I've had to do it.  Every time, I swear it was the greatest dog ever and that no other dog could possibly measure up.  And then we get another one and the they turn out to be just as amazing a companion as the last, just in their own way.  Dogs truly are man's best friend.
Link Posted: 11/25/2018 10:47:03 AM EDT
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Recently my almost 9 year old Dogue De Bordeaux took a turn for the worse

Nearly three weeks ago he began developing ascites (fluid build up in the abdomen).  He had shown no signs of being ill and for the first few days, other than having an increasing belly size, acted normal.
Over the period of a week the fluid build up continued to grow to the point he looked VERY pregnant.  
We took him in and got the bad news that he was in end stage multi organ failure.  After consultation with the vet (who is our long term vet and very good friend) we opted to have the fluid drained with the knowledge that it was a short term fix and would allow us to bring him home for extra love and allow us to say goodbye.  This was a true blessing for all of us, especially my kids.  Our last Dogue got ill one day and we took him to the vet where they kept him overnight for observation and he passed away.  My kids were besides themselves when we took him in that they would never see them again.

It was amazing once they drained the fluid, he was back to his old self, playing, eating like a horse and generally being the goofy guy we loved.

Our vet warned us that he would likely pass away in the very near future and if he didn't the issues would return quickly and we would need to make the decision what to do.  His recommendation was to put him down when symptoms returned and before he suffered.  This is the path we chose.

There were lots of tears in the house, but we were thankful we got some more time with him.  We actually got more than twice what they expected.  On Thursday morning the ascites was back, though he looked chubby, not pregnant like he had.  He was still eating, drinking and interacting as usual when I left for work that morning.

My wife took the puppy for a walk that afternoon, and our Dogue insisted that he go to, something that is a little out of character for him.  He's not a big fan of the puppy and he's hasn't been a big fan of long walks for a few years.

I got home about 6 and he didn't come to greet me which is unusual.  I went to check on him and his belly was huge again, though he wagged his tail and interacted normally.  
I called my wife at work and told her that we would probably need to take him in the next day (today).  
I went outside to do some yard work and my daughter came out with him and said he was standing at the door and wanted to come out with me.  Not unusual.  The unusual thing was he just laid in the grass and looked at me.  Usually he is walking around, always vigilant.  After about 20 minutes he got up and started walking down the hill to our backyard (where he usually goes to the bathroom).  After a couple of minutes my daughter came running to me and said he had laid down in the bushes and wasn't breathing well and wouldn't move.  I went to check on him and he wouldn't lift his head and had positioned himself between two bushes where he was pretty much covered.  I crawled in with him and he wasn't really responsive.  I thought he had a stroke, but he was still alive.

I had to tell my kids that he was dying and they needed to say their goodbyes.  Honestly one of the hardest things I have had to do as a parent as it just crushed them.

After about an hour I was able to get him to stand and walk back into the house.  This is about 9PM.
He was not doing well and clearly was suffering.  I called my vet at home and told him what was going on and we agreed that putting him down that night was the appropriate thing to do.

I was a wreck and felt like a failure on many levels, both to him and my kids.  It was terrible not being able to help him.

I had a talk with my kids and they actually told me that it needed done as they didn't want him to suffer.

Got up to go get a blanket for the backseat for him to lay on and he immediately got up and followed me to the truck without any prompting.
Drove to the clinic and when we got there, he didn't act like he could get up to get out of the truck.  I had to lift him and sit him down.

It was the damnedest thing, he had no strength, but as soon as he hit the ground he immediately walked to the door of the clinic (not the main entry, but two doors down from the main entry where the vets enter) and just stood there.  He had never been through this door before and it required walking an extra 100 feet past the main entry.

He walked straight to the room exam room where he proceeded to hack up a huge clump (it looked like bubbles) frothy mix of blood and fluid and then went to the corner and laid down with his head buried in the corner.

The vet started an IV and gave him the medicine.  Within about 15 seconds he was just peaceful and had crossed the rainbow bridge.

Here is my question...

I was a train wreck.  He was such an integral part of our family.  He was the first pet I have ever had to put down.
After it was all over, I had this sense of relief and peace.  No tears, no heartbreak, just peace.  
I miss him dearly.  It was so odd to walk into the house tonight and him not come to greet me.  I was lost, it's been a ritual for some many years, and it was gone.

Has anyone else ever experienced that.  Just the tranquility and peace of knowing your buddy isn't suffering?
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There comes a time where both you and your dag are worn out by the fighting and suffering. Sounds like you both were to that point.

That means it was the best decision for both of you.

I had a yellow lab that was 10 years old when her kidneys started failing. Doc said she could last a while, esp. if we put her on a low-protein diet, which we did.

She lasted 2 more years and had an excellent quality of life, but it was obvious when it was the end. She wasn't herself...we had to take breaks on walks, she wasn't eating well, didn't come when called. I knew it was time. This all happened within a week, and I knew she would only get worse.

I feel good about the fact that she didn't suffer and her quality of life was so good, especially in the last few years. As an owner, that's really all you can do for them.

And stay with them when it's time for them to go. Wouldn't have done that any other way. The last thing my dog ever heard/saw was me looking her in the eye saying, "Katie's my good girl", over and over again.



Dusty in here.
Link Posted: 11/25/2018 8:19:47 PM EDT
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All of the dogs we have had were real good about disguising the severity of the pain they were going thru, and my only regret is having them go thru it without putting them down sooner. We are always heartbroken they are gone but relieved their pain is over.
Link Posted: 12/1/2018 11:23:04 PM EDT
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Yes, put my dog of 8 years when he was around 11 andd was declining with bone cancer. He had an amputation 8 months earlier. It got to the point when he couldn’t get comfortable unless he was looped out with Tramadol. It was clearly time and a day later, put him down and it was peaceful knowing he was not suffering.
Link Posted: 12/25/2018 12:16:57 PM EDT
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I have had to make that decision and live with the knowledge that I did the right thing for a good friend.  I have also made what I think was the wrong decision and allowed a good friend to suffer needlessly for longer than necessary.  I live with that knowledge as well.  Losing my dogs has impacted me harder than losing friends and family.

We lost two this past summer - Cooper our therapy dog Golden and Naomi, the pack leader Black Lab.  Cooper died in my wife’s arms once she told him he could go.  It was beautiful.  Naomi was 15 and had a wonderful life up until the last two weeks.  I should have put her down but chose a different route that was, in the end, more about me than her.

After months with no dogs, we adopted to rescued Goldens.  And so it begins again.
Link Posted: 12/25/2018 1:51:25 PM EDT
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Yes, it hurts like hell, yet I was happy that my friend was no longer suffering.  I wasn't "happy", but more relieved that I helped end my friend's suffering.   There was a flood of conflicting emotions including guilt, wondering if I should have noticed, or done something earlier on.  Those emotions are normal.

Every time I have had to help end a dog's suffering it breaks my heart to know they will no longer be a part of my life.  Stella, Hershey, Salsa, Buster, Skye, Honey are all gone now, and it never gets any easier.  they still hurt...
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