I think we can disagree a little bit more amicably, can't we?
Getting married young or old is no gaurantee. I was always told not to get married, in fact I had a chance to marry a great girl when I was 24 and she was 21. I thought that was too young. Then when I was 27 I got married and it all went to hell 'cuz I married the wrong one. So instead of marrying the sweet attentive hard working girl who would go shooting anytime, I married a selfish manhating goldigger with no moral fiber, no values, no sense of responsibility, and a weak personality.....because "it was time to get married" and I was "old enough to handle it". I was going to save the world. Not.
Marriage is something that you will have to grow into, together. You have to have a solid foundation of morals and core values along with the requisite love for each other. And that is just to use as a basis for what happens as time goes on. If you expect the other person to suddenly become something else (or they expect YOU to) when you tie the knot, you are headed for court sooner or later.
Cit, I'll leave this little tidbit for you that I gleaned from the owners of a pizza joint I worked at long ago...a lesson I did not take to heart and I paid for it. I was 18 at the time....this was almost 15 years ago. My girlfriend (current soon to be ex wife) dumped me right before I had to go in to work a 12 hour shift. I went to work and was very bummed out. Kathy looks at me and says in her broken Greek-accented English...."son, son, ALWAYS remember. First da Jesus, den da girl!".
I didn't get it. If I had a church home at the time, I might have figured out what she meant. But I thought I knew what I was doing. I went through a few nice girls and wound up back with the ex 8 years later. Another 5 years later and I am headed to court for the second breakup.
I shoulda just stuck a fork in my eye, and given a few grand and a house to some bitch I can't stand.
There is NO reason to hurry and get married. That said, it is worthy endeavor.