Creepiest Experience EVER - Page 2

[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Creepiest Experience EVER (Page 2 of 2)

Posted: 6/16/2009 12:46:07 PM EDT

[#1]

you have to inform him or inform your supervisor and your supervisor will inform him; that it was unwelcome, if it happens again then you have a case, or just or enjoy the ghey sex.

Posted: 6/16/2009 12:53:24 PM EDT

[#2]

Quoted:

Quoted:
That was sexual harrassment. If you had done that to a female co-worker you could be fired.

But that doesn't fit the liberal definitions does it?

Actually, I don't think that fits ANY description of sexual harassment.

This.

Unwanted or unwelcomed physcial contact. I would probably classify that as BOTH.

Your made-up definition of the term doesn't change in any way the actual definition, nor how it has been applied in the legal system.

As a good starting point, the United States EEOC defines sexual harassment as:
Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitutes sexual harassment when submission to or rejection of this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual's employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual's work performance or creates an intimidating, hostile or offensive work environment.

It gets more complicated in the detail (quid pro quo vs. hostile environment) and obviously a lot depends on specific rulings and precedent. In a sense, the working definition of sexual harassment is continually being defined.

But what the OP described in no way meets the existing standard for sexual harassment, despite your opinion to the contrary.

Posted: 6/16/2009 12:54:30 PM EDT

[#3]

if that's the creepiest thing that's ever happened to you ever you've had a pretty boring life

Posted: 6/16/2009 1:01:36 PM EDT

[#4]

Quoted:
He's putting date rape drugs in the sodas you left at work as we speak.

"Watch your cornhole bud"

As far as gays not hitting on straight guys that's BS.

Hey, I've only worked with a couple hundred different gay guys over the years and if they know a guy is straight they leave him alone. Are there a few out there that might still try and hit on a straight guy? Sure. But from what I have seen and heard talking to the guys I worked with it is not normal.

Posted: 6/16/2009 1:04:34 PM EDT

[#5]

Quoted:

Quoted:

He's putting date rape drugs in the sodas you left at work as we speak.

"Watch your cornhole bud"

As far as gays not hitting on straight guys that's BS.

Hey, I've only worked with a couple hundred different gay guys over the years and if they know a guy is straight they leave him alone. Are there a few out there that might still try and hit on a straight guy? Sure. But from what I have seen and heard talking to the guys I worked with it is not normal.

I dunno maybe because there's an abundance of partners in that area. Hell the one time i put up a profile on the online meat market i got a ton of IM's from guys even though it said straight in the profile.

Posted: 6/16/2009 1:09:17 PM EDT

[#6]

Quoted:

Quoted:
He's putting date rape drugs in the sodas you left at work as we speak.

"Watch your cornhole bud"

As far as gays not hitting on straight guys that's BS.

Hey, I've only worked with a couple hundred different gay guys over the years and if they know a guy is straight they leave him alone. Are there a few out there that might still try and hit on a straight guy? Sure. But from what I have seen and heard talking to the guys I worked with it is not normal.

I dunno maybe because there's an abundance of partners in that area. Hell the one time i put up a profile on the online meat market i got a ton of IM's from guys even though it said straight in the profile.

I think the fact that it was online and not in person makes a big difference.

Posted: 6/16/2009 1:14:37 PM EDT

[#7]

Quoted:
Creepy? Yes. Unwelcome? Certainly. But not sexual harrassment. The OP should've said it was unwanted, unwelcome, and inappropriate when it occurred. Until put on notice, the aggressor has no reason to believe the behavior is inappropriate. If the OP goes back says it's inappropriate and it happens again, then sexual harrassment has occurred.

Just echoing 20 years of sexual harrassment classes.

ETA: In fact, because nothing was said about the unwelcome behavior to the aggressor, he probably thinks it's okay.

This.

A simple but stern, "Don't ever touch me or do anything like that ever again" would've been the way to go. You could always go in tomorrow morning bring up the situation and then make that statement clear, per OklahomaSam's instructions.

Posted: 6/16/2009 2:14:57 PM EDT

[#8]

Quoted:
HAHA....He's just messing with your head. Gays don't normally hit on non gays.

Exactly, obviously Ralph's gay-dar was going off the scale!

RF

Posted: 6/16/2009 2:34:36 PM EDT

[#9]

His gaydar wouldn't have went off if you weren't repressing something, and yet sending out signals at the same time.

You need to talk this out, and open up your horizons to what you already KNOW is true.

Posted: 6/16/2009 2:41:39 PM EDT

[#10]

Quoted:

Quoted:
HAHA....He's just messing with your head. Gays don't normally hit on non gays.

Bullshit! That's one of their little games...see if they can turn a straight guy.

You an expert on the matter?

Anyhow, some people are touchy-feely. Men that are that way are usually more masculine about the physical contact, like a slap on the back or something. Since this guy is pretty effeminate, he may use more feminine gestures.

A simple, "uh, hey now" would probably have fixed the issue.

[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Creepiest Experience EVER (Page 2 of 2)

General » General Discussion

Warning

Confirm Action

About AR15.COM

Stay Connected

Newsletter

Contact Us