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Posted: 9/28/2011 3:32:26 AM EDT

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This I have to agree with. I mean hey she has a job.

but for the others .... yeah. Sounds like they're looking for a man to pay child support.

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:33:05 AM EDT

[#2]

I've all but given up
I too found fatties, crazies, multiple kids, drama queens, liberal nutjobs, princesses and attention whores.
Most that made the first "filter", were found to lack communication and/or relationship skillz.
Others had cleverly hidden their craziness, but quickly outed themselves.

I guess if you had low standards and/or just wanted pie, you could make do.

I'm too old for the games and losers.

YMMV

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:35:12 AM EDT

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Not seeing anyone now so I was checking out the wimins.

35 years old and a bartender. How does that happen? Partying your life away sounds like fun until you realize her net worth is probably less than her B.A.C.

21 years old with 3 kids. Not same fathers. I'm guessing none of them pay child support either. No thanks, I'm not gonna be #4.

26 years old in college. Sent her a message, we talk a couple times, oh by the way I'm pregnant and I know I'm going to find someone who is man enough to step up. Um, pregnant and on a dating website. Why not just jump straight to preggo porn?

So many people with high school listed as their highest education and a couple kids. No, I'm not interested in supporting you.

Then tonight I came across a profile for a lady I used to work with. She's mid 40s, kind of cute if you like the high energy type, and completely crazy. I read her profile. It is entirely nothing like how she really is. I feel bad for the dude that sees that she's tall, slender, and cute enough and jumps on it. Woe be upon him.

Please note I have deliberately not said anything about the stampede of fatties on every page who list themselves as average. The worst part is that they are correct.

I've noticed that many times...

Had a date with a woman who sent me a message on PoF. She looked pretty good in the couple pictures she posted. Reminded me a lot of Rena Sofer. Listed herself as 5'7" and 'thin'. Well, her profile must have been a couple years old, because she wasn't thin. She wasn't a complete fatty... but definitely fit into the "needs to lose about 20-30lb". I did like her, tho... guess it wasn't mutual, because I never heard from her again.

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:37:06 AM EDT

[#4]

I'd just keep looking, something better will come along. Take your time with this.

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:38:30 AM EDT

[#5]

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I've all but given up
I too found fatties, crazies, multiple kids, drama queens, liberal nutjobs, princesses and attention whores.
Most that made the first "filter", were found to lack communication and/or relationship skillz.
Others had cleverly hidden their craziness, but quickly outed themselves.

I guess if you had low standards and/or just wanted pie, you could make do.

I'm too old for the games and losers.

YMMV

I keep running into the yupity yupp bitches that are waiting around for Dr Dreamy to come sweep them off their feet. Sorry bitch,it doesnt work that way

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:45:16 AM EDT

[#6]

I didn't read the whole thread but this is the profile of the majority of the women who contact me.

Status: Single Mother
Education: High School
Employment: Cashier

I'm not knocking anyone's station in life but I just don't understand why I have so many women who work at grocery stores contacting me. It got to the point that I thought my friends were playing a prank on me.

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:45:25 AM EDT

[#7]

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Not seeing anyone now so I was checking out the wimins.

35 years old and a bartender. How does that happen? Partying your life away sounds like fun until you realize her net worth is probably less than her B.A.C.

Sounds like my ex wife.....hence the ex.

So many people with high school listed as their highest education and a couple kids. No, I'm not interested in supporting you.

I dont look down on people with just a HS education , you never know what type of person they are until you meet them and talk with them. There are some business leaders that never made it through college, so dont narrow your choices based on that criteria.

Please note I have deliberately not said anything about the stampede of fatties on every page who list themselves as average. The worst part is that they are correct.

Yes, average means fat from my experience online and honestly most women into their 30 's will have a kid or two, doesnt make them bad, you just have to be prepared for it. Honestly, some of the girls i met in thier 30's that didnt have a kid or hadnt been married gave me pause to wonder why? I soon found out they were batshit crazy

I also had the professional ones that wanted to know my yearly salary and 401k holdings.

One gal we hit it off great until she told me she made 80k a year and expected her future BF/SO to make more than her. After her fishing around for what I made I told her a lower figure and the whole mood changed, but that was after she sparked one up and seemed to let her gaurd down.

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:49:52 AM EDT

[#8]

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I didn't read the whole thread but this is the profile of the majority of the women who contact me.

Status: Single Mother
Education: High School
Employment: Cashier

I'm not knocking anyone's station in life but I just don't understand why I have so many women who work at grocery stores contacting me. It got to the point that I thought my friends were playing a prank on me.

What kind of grocery stores? When I was in high school I worked at a pharmacy. One of my coworkers had an adult son who worked at a Safeway. He was union and made like $15 per hour (which was pretty decent pay 16 or 17 years ago).

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:53:41 AM EDT

[#9]

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I didn't read the whole thread but this is the profile of the majority of the women who contact me.

Status: Single Mother
Education: High School
Employment: Cashier

I'm not knocking anyone's station in life but I just don't understand why I have so many women who work at grocery stores contacting me. It got to the point that I thought my friends were playing a prank on me.

What kind of grocery stores? When I was in high school I worked at a pharmacy. One of my coworkers had an adult son who worked at a Safeway. He was union and made like $15 per hour (which was pretty decent pay 16 or 17 years ago).

This guy has a point. My job has me going to various Grocery stores in the state, and union ones tend to make more, and tend to have better looking women. Giant usually has a couple of cuties at the registers.

The older ones are 90% of the time pretty bad looking.

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:57:23 AM EDT

[#10]

Admittedly I don't know much about the Grocery Business but I don't think the stores in my area are unionized. (Wal-Mart, Krogers, HEB, and Randalls)

Posted: 9/28/2011 3:59:36 AM EDT

[#11]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

When you get up tomorrow check mattresses for presence of one or more peas.

Look at it from their POV.
RE: Mothers>they got kids. They are not gonna waste time with a guy that can't deal with that. They let you know up front to keep driving.
RE:Bartenders> you are aware they work late at night aren't you. If you are looking for a woman to sit on the couch all evening they aren't gonna be there. They let you know up front if that's a problem to keep on driving.
RE: Fatties> they are large humnas. They may call it average but at least they let you know up front so if you can't handle it you can keep on driving. OTOH they may attract the attention of a certain kind of guy but making that info available.
RE: "Disqualifier of your choice"> if they mention it count yourself lucky to find out now rather than later. Keep on driving.

I assume if you are looking for love on a website you've uploaded a profile for yourself. True or false:Anything in that profile that you intentionally left out that you know will be a disqualifier if the woman of your dreams knew it up front? One thing? More than one?

If the old saw "All the good ones are taken" is true then it's true for you, no?

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:05:18 AM EDT

[#12]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

yep i agree its easy to be ok with it when you have lowered your expectations to meh level

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:09:50 AM EDT

[#13]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

When you get up tomorrow check mattresses for presence of one or more peas.

Look at it from their POV.
RE: Mothers>they got kids. They are not gonna waste time with a guy that can't deal with that. They let you know up front to keep driving.
RE:Bartenders> you are aware they work late at night aren't you. If you are looking for a woman to sit on the couch all evening they aren't gonna be there. They let you know up front if that's a problem to keep on driving.
RE: Fatties> they are large humnas. They may call it average but at least they let you know up front so if you can't handle it you can keep on driving. OTOH they may attract the attention of a certain kind of guy but making that info available.
RE: "Disqualifier of your choice"> if they mention it count yourself lucky to find out now rather than later. Keep on driving.

I assume if you are looking for love on a website you've uploaded a profile for yourself. True or false:Anything in that profile that you intentionally left out that you know will be a disqualifier if the woman of your dreams knew it up front? One thing? More than one?

If the old saw "All the good ones are taken" is true then it's true for you, no?

Regarding mothers:

It's one thing for them to state up front that they have kids and that any guy they date will have to be okay with that and any inconveniences it can cause (like having to cancel a date because the baby-sitter is sick or something). It's another thing for them to say they have kids and/or are pregnant and that some man other than the father should step up and pay for and raise that kid.

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:16:11 AM EDT

[#14]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Have you ever noticed how most jobs which involve peddling booze have a shelf life?

Hot bartender

Stripper

Bouncer...

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:19:29 AM EDT

[#15]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

When you get up tomorrow check mattresses for presence of one or more peas.

I assume if you are looking for love on a website you've uploaded a profile for yourself. True or false:Anything in that profile that you intentionally left out that you know will be a disqualifier if the woman of your dreams knew it up front? One thing? More than one?

If the old saw "All the good ones are taken" is true then it's true for you, no?

How does arfcom always know!??!?

I toned down the "moody loner with assault rifle" thing a bit but other than that, I'm honest.

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:22:42 AM EDT

[#16]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

When you get up tomorrow check mattresses for presence of one or more peas.

Look at it from their POV.
RE: Mothers>they got kids. They are not gonna waste time with a guy that can't deal with that. They let you know up front to keep driving.
RE:Bartenders> you are aware they work late at night aren't you. If you are looking for a woman to sit on the couch all evening they aren't gonna be there. They let you know up front if that's a problem to keep on driving.
RE: Fatties> they are large humnas. They may call it average but at least they let you know up front so if you can't handle it you can keep on driving. OTOH they may attract the attention of a certain kind of guy but making that info available.
RE: "Disqualifier of your choice"> if they mention it count yourself lucky to find out now rather than later. Keep on driving.

I assume if you are looking for love on a website you've uploaded a profile for yourself. True or false:Anything in that profile that you intentionally left out that you know will be a disqualifier if the woman of your dreams knew it up front? One thing? More than one?

If the old saw "All the good ones are taken" is true then it's true for you, no?

Regarding mothers:

It's one thing for them to state up front that they have kids and that any guy they date will have to be okay with that and any inconveniences it can cause (like having to cancel a date because the baby-sitter is sick or something). It's another thing for them to say they have kids and/or are pregnant and that some man other than the father should step up and pay for and raise that kid.

You are a––backwards on that. What is right or wrong for them to say is their business. It's their ad. If a daddy for their kids is what they are looking for good for them for getting their card on the table, no? I mean it's not a job most guys want (sounds like you for sure and me too) but it's not wrong for them to say it. Free county. 1st amendment. Truth in advertising. All that jazz.

What sucks is when they are shopping for "that guy" and the buyer doesn't know.

fisherman

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:25:15 AM EDT

[#17]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

When you get up tomorrow check mattresses for presence of one or more peas.

I assume if you are looking for love on a website you've uploaded a profile for yourself. True or false:Anything in that profile that you intentionally left out that you know will be a disqualifier if the woman of your dreams knew it up front? One thing? More than one?

If the old saw "All the good ones are taken" is true then it's true for you, no?

How does arfcom always know!??!?

http://img97.imageshack.us/img97/6451/peasg.jpg

I toned down the "moody loner with assault rifle" thing a bit but other than that, I'm honest.

Awesome. You are obviously well read. I predict good things for you. :)

fisherman

Posted: 9/28/2011 4:27:31 AM EDT

[#18]

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26 years old in college. Sent her a message, we talk a couple times, oh by the way I'm pregnant and I know I'm going to find someone who is man enough to step up. Um, pregnant and on a dating website. Why not just jump straight to preggo porn?

I'm not really seeing a downside on this one.

Yeah, my wife has been perpetually pregnant for the past few years....kinda turns me on now!

Posted: 9/28/2011 5:21:43 AM EDT

[#19]

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What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

When you get up tomorrow check mattresses for presence of one or more peas.

Look at it from their POV.
RE: Mothers>they got kids. They are not gonna waste time with a guy that can't deal with that. They let you know up front to keep driving.
RE:Bartenders> you are aware they work late at night aren't you. If you are looking for a woman to sit on the couch all evening they aren't gonna be there. They let you know up front if that's a problem to keep on driving.
RE: Fatties> they are large humnas. They may call it average but at least they let you know up front so if you can't handle it you can keep on driving. OTOH they may attract the attention of a certain kind of guy but making that info available.
RE: "Disqualifier of your choice"> if they mention it count yourself lucky to find out now rather than later. Keep on driving.

I assume if you are looking for love on a website you've uploaded a profile for yourself. True or false:Anything in that profile that you intentionally left out that you know will be a disqualifier if the woman of your dreams knew it up front? One thing? More than one?

If the old saw "All the good ones are taken" is true then it's true for you, no?

Regarding mothers:

It's one thing for them to state up front that they have kids and that any guy they date will have to be okay with that and any inconveniences it can cause (like having to cancel a date because the baby-sitter is sick or something). It's another thing for them to say they have kids and/or are pregnant and that some man other than the father should step up and pay for and raise that kid.

You are a––backwards on that. What is right or wrong for them to say is their business. It's their ad. If a daddy for their kids is what they are looking for good for them for getting their card on the table, no? I mean it's not a job most guys want (sounds like you for sure and me too) but it's not wrong for them to say it. Free county. 1st amendment. Truth in advertising. All that jazz.

What sucks is when they are shopping for "that guy" and the buyer doesn't know.

fisherman

I didn't say anything was right or wrong. But there's the responsible parent's way to mention the presence of kids on a dating profile and then there's the gold-digger's way of doing it. Which approach is "right" for them is their own business, but it's pretty obvious which one is more likely to get a negative response.

I may appreciate the honesty of an unashamed gold-digger, but I sure as hell wouldn't respect her or date her.

Posted: 9/28/2011 6:29:27 AM EDT

[#20]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Have you ever noticed how most jobs which involve peddling booze have a shelf life?

Hot bartender

Stripper

Bouncer...

So do things like modeling, construction work, etc.

If we're being realistic, pretty much all jobs have a shelf life towards the end. How many 97 year olds do you see hanging sheetrock?

Posted: 9/28/2011 6:36:43 AM EDT

[#21]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Chicken > Egg

Well, if you could take home a couple hundred bucks on a good night in tips, wouldn't you? I knew a guy who was a bartender. He made good money, too. If you work at a good establishment and have a way with people, it can be a pretty decent living.

$200 a day is "good money"??? That works out to $25/hr on an 8 hour shift... and before taxes and likely no benefits.

Posted: 9/28/2011 6:43:26 AM EDT

[#22]

IM 35 single, with full custody of two kids, so it goes both ways. I have to find a female to put up with kids, but when you are my age most people are already divorced with kids , no virgins left!!!! LOL
And secondly when I owned a bar/restaurant I made more money by tending bar then what i took out of the restaurant. I averaged 250-300 a night in tips! But the life style cant be lived forever, too much drinking and partying for me I had to get out and take care of my responsibilitys.!

Posted: 9/28/2011 6:45:19 AM EDT

[#23]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Chicken > Egg

Well, if you could take home a couple hundred bucks on a good night in tips, wouldn't you? I knew a guy who was a bartender. He made good money, too. If you work at a good establishment and have a way with people, it can be a pretty decent living.

$200 a day is "good money"??? That works out to $25/hr on an 8 hour shift... and before taxes and likely no benefits.

You are forgetting the regular hourly wage, too.

Posted: 9/28/2011 6:48:44 AM EDT

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Seriously, I plan to do all I can to keep my marriage good, and heaven forbid I ever become a widower, because I know that I'd probably be way too picky to ever marry again.

Aside from the fact that I'd be devastated at being widowed, I'd dread having to date again.

I am dating again, from an online site, and I got really lucky. I have found a wonderful girl. It IS possible, but it takes time and luck.

Posted: 9/28/2011 6:53:45 AM EDT

[#25]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Roommate of mine bartended at a local beach bar, wasn't unusual for him to bring in over a grand for a Fri/Sat night shift...

Cash.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:21:39 AM EDT

[#26]

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Seriously, I plan to do all I can to keep my marriage good, and heaven forbid I ever become a widower, because I know that I'd probably be way too picky to ever marry again.

Aside from the fact that I'd be devastated at being widowed, I'd dread having to date again.

I am dating again, from an online site, and I got really lucky. I have found a wonderful girl. It IS possible, but it takes time and luck.

Is this the extremely hot little firecracker you shared with us recently? I think you were at a range?

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:22:45 AM EDT

[#27]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Roommate of mine bartended at a local beach bar, wasn't unusual for him to bring in over a grand for a Fri/Sat night shift...

Cash.

Even just waitressing can make good money. In high school, the only actual bill I had to worry about was $75 per month for insurance on a paid-off car. Most days I'd take home $60 in addition to my $6.75 per hour. Not too shabby. I wish I'd saved it, in retrospect... sigh.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:23:42 AM EDT

[#28]

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Not seeing anyone now so I was checking out the wimins.

35 years old and a bartender. How does that happen? Partying your life away sounds like fun until you realize her net worth is probably less than her B.A.C.

21 years old with 3 kids. Not same fathers. I'm guessing none of them pay child support either. No thanks, I'm not gonna be #4.

26 years old in college. Sent her a message, we talk a couple times, oh by the way I'm pregnant and I know I'm going to find someone who is man enough to step up. Um, pregnant and on a dating website. Why not just jump straight to preggo porn?

So many people with high school listed as their highest education and a couple kids. No, I'm not interested in supporting you.

Then tonight I came across a profile for a lady I used to work with. She's mid 40s, kind of cute if you like the high energy type, and completely crazy. I read her profile. It is entirely nothing like how she really is. I feel bad for the dude that sees that she's tall, slender, and cute enough and jumps on it. Woe be upon him.

Please note I have deliberately not said anything about the stampede of fatties on every page who list themselves as average. The worst part is that they are correct.

Like the dad?

Oh.. wait.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:29:27 AM EDT

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I was told by a girl who was a bartender, NEVER marry a bartender.

Late night closings, etc., lead to a LOT of infidelities and such.

This. I used to work as a bartender, and my other buddy (also bartender) would sometimes ask ME to do the close-up at night because he would take some chick into the back walk-in freezer or into the basement of the bar, and they'd fuck while I was closing up shop. In exchange I got 50% of his tips to keep my mouth shut and do the close-up work (balance registers, etc.). The FEMALE bartender chick was practically a Prostitute. She'd fuck any guy that gave her a huge tip... Like $75 tip - and you'd get laid... Eventually manager caught her one night fucking a 'big tipper' in the back office on his desk after 2 AM close.

My first serious girlfriend is now 30, and still working as a bartender in downtown MPLS.

She works part time as a substitute Math teacher in the Twin Cities, and works full time bartending.

VERY hot chick, but PSYCHO!

After she cheated on me back in college she went on to cheat on EVERY. SINGLE. OTHER. GUY she ever was in a relationship with... INCLUDING her current husband.

Last time I was in downtown she was wearing a SKIMPY mini-skirt and bikini top while bartending... She said hi, we talked for about 15 minutes, and she was quite happy with pulling in over $450 in tips per weekend night - easily... Then when I was about to leave I spotted her in the back of the bar area making out with some other dude - clearly NOT her husband.

I'm sure she's fucking A LOT of guys after late-night closings. It's more common than you think.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:39:34 AM EDT

[#30]

I'm looking for someone who loves cats, we could just hug cats all the time.
If we could, we would make it our life goal to hug every cat in the world!

Where could I find a girl like this?

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:41:28 AM EDT

[#31]

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Not seeing anyone now so I was checking out the wimins.

35 years old and a bartender. How does that happen? Partying your life away sounds like fun until you realize her net worth is probably less than her B.A.C.

21 years old with 3 kids. Not same fathers. I'm guessing none of them pay child support either. No thanks, I'm not gonna be #4.

26 years old in college. Sent her a message, we talk a couple times, oh by the way I'm pregnant and I know I'm going to find someone who is man enough to step up. Um, pregnant and on a dating website. Why not just jump straight to preggo porn?

So many people with high school listed as their highest education and a couple kids. No, I'm not interested in supporting you.

Then tonight I came across a profile for a lady I used to work with. She's mid 40s, kind of cute if you like the high energy type, and completely crazy. I read her profile. It is entirely nothing like how she really is. I feel bad for the dude that sees that she's tall, slender, and cute enough and jumps on it. Woe be upon him.

Please note I have deliberately not said anything about the stampede of fatties on every page who list themselves as average. The worst part is that they are correct.

You must be in the dallas/ft. worth area.

If you're on dating sites and not on the town in DFW, something is wrong with you.

DFW is packed full of hotties. You just have to get out of the house once in a while.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:42:27 AM EDT

[#32]

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I know a 30 year old bartender. She makes a fuck-load in tips and is gorgeous to boot. There might just be something to that line of work.

Chicken > Egg

Well, if you could take home a couple hundred bucks on a good night in tips, wouldn't you? I knew a guy who was a bartender. He made good money, too. If you work at a good establishment and have a way with people, it can be a pretty decent living.

$200 a day is "good money"??? That works out to $25/hr on an 8 hour shift... and before taxes and likely no benefits.

You are forgetting the regular hourly wage, too.

Okay since it's food and beverage service, throw in an extra $20/night.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:43:28 AM EDT

[#33]

Get a fatty with big boobs who likes to screw with a college degree and a good job who can cook.

Then just live life. Be happy that someone finds you attractive enough to sleep with.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:43:55 AM EDT

[#34]

My time on those sites goes like this:
Multiple messages received daily from various fat chicks. I'm not interested so I dont respond. This results in several supplemental messages from said fat chicks calling me an asshole for not responding back. I delete my account. The end.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:43:55 AM EDT

[#35]

Too picky? It would be easy to think that way when dating online but I can assure you that if your looking for real relationship potential you're probably not.
I say this as a sucessful online dating person- married 2 years on the 10th.

There is a TON of mess that you have to filter through and there are no guarantees that youll find someone who fits your needs. Its just another avenue of finding a mate.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:44:38 AM EDT

[#36]

Quoted:

I am dating again, from an online site, and I got really lucky. I have found a wonderful girl.

MOAR PICS

The ones at the range were very nice.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:48:28 AM EDT

[#37]

Quoted:
Get a fatty with big boobs who likes to screw with a college degree and a good job who can cook.

Then just live life. Be happy that someone finds you attractive enough to sleep with.

That right there sounds like a slice of heaven.

Posted: 9/28/2011 7:59:53 AM EDT

[#38]

Quoted:

35 years old and a bartender. How does that happen? Partying your life away sounds like fun until you realize her net worth is probably less than her B.A.C.

Depends on where you are bartending. I DJ at an upscale club and our bartenders can make upwards of a $1000 in tips on a Friday or Sat night. Another friend of mine is a VIP room hostess/bartender at 3 of the clubs here. She get commission on bottle service sold. She just bought a brand new Mercedes C class.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:11:39 AM EDT

[#39]

You can make a lot of money mixing drinks at a golf resort.

Low key, interesting people, good tippers.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:20:15 AM EDT

[#40]

Quoted:

Quoted:

It's one thing for them to state up front that they have kids and that any guy they date will have to be okay with that and any inconveniences it can cause (like having to cancel a date because the baby-sitter is sick or something). It's another thing for them to say they have kids and/or are pregnant and that some man other than the father should step up and pay for and raise that kid.

You are a––backwards on that. What is right or wrong for them to say is their business. It's their ad. If a daddy for their kids is what they are looking for good for them for getting their card on the table, no? I mean it's not a job most guys want (sounds like you for sure and me too) but it's not wrong for them to say it. Free county. 1st amendment. Truth in advertising. All that jazz.

What sucks is when they are shopping for "that guy" and the buyer doesn't know.

fisherman

That definitely sucks. I've seen that quite a bit...

If she's upfront about it - fine. If she's hiding it, and just wants to sucker somebody into a trap - that's messed up.

Don't give up completely guys - you have to find the right girl, and typically dating sites are not where I'd look...

I've met a lot of girls on dating sites over the years back when I was single, and I thank GOD that I married an awesome woman! I'm truly blessed.

As far as gold diggers, one of the girls I dated right before meeting my wife seemed like a pretty nice woman. 26, worked at an advertising agency, total hottie, and we hit it off... After the 3rd date, she stood me up for the 4th. She said she was too busy, and not to go pick her up. Just on a whim, I swung by just in time to see her getting into some dude's BMW, all dressed up for a date. Oh well.

Fast forward 3 months, and I'm dating my future wife - I get an Email from Advertising Girl asking if I was single and still wanted to go out - my profile was gone...

I called and asked her why she stood me up that night, did she have another date with better prospects or something??? I acted very calm and feigned understanding of her wanting to secure a 'better standing' in life than I could provide... She admitted, yes, she went out with a guy claiming to be a doctor, driving a BMW, and after about a month of fucking him, she found out: 1.) He's not a doctor - he's a construction worker. 2.) He's only LEASING a 2 year old BMW, doesn't own a car. 3.) He HOUSE-SITS for side-money in rich-peoples' McMansions - he doesn't even have a rental apartment. 4.) He just got her pregnant!

Now she wanted me back, and suddenly my salary and future prospects seemed infinitely more attractive to her... Fuck that.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:32:37 AM EDT

[#41]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Get a fatty with big boobs who likes to screw with a college degree and a good job who can cook.

Then just live life. Be happy that someone finds you attractive enough to sleep with.

That right there sounds like a slice of heaven.

It's nice to find someone who shares that same philosophy.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:34:35 AM EDT

[#42]

Quoted:

Quoted:

It's one thing for them to state up front that they have kids and that any guy they date will have to be okay with that and any inconveniences it can cause (like having to cancel a date because the baby-sitter is sick or something). It's another thing for them to say they have kids and/or are pregnant and that some man other than the father should step up and pay for and raise that kid.

You are a––backwards on that. What is right or wrong for them to say is their business. It's their ad. If a daddy for their kids is what they are looking for good for them for getting their card on the table, no? I mean it's not a job most guys want (sounds like you for sure and me too) but it's not wrong for them to say it. Free county. 1st amendment. Truth in advertising. All that jazz.

What sucks is when they are shopping for "that guy" and the buyer doesn't know.

fisherman

That definitely sucks. I've seen that quite a bit...

If she's upfront about it - fine. If she's hiding it, and just wants to sucker somebody into a trap - that's messed up.

Don't give up completely guys - you have to find the right girl, and typically dating sites are not where I'd look...

I've met a lot of girls on dating sites over the years back when I was single, and I thank GOD that I married an awesome woman! I'm truly blessed.

As far as gold diggers, one of the girls I dated right before meeting my wife seemed like a pretty nice woman. 26, worked at an advertising agency, total hottie, and we hit it off... After the 3rd date, she stood me up for the 4th. She said she was too busy, and not to go pick her up. Just on a whim, I swung by just in time to see her getting into some dude's BMW, all dressed up for a date. Oh well.

Fast forward 3 months, and I'm dating my future wife - I get an Email from Advertising Girl asking if I was single and still wanted to go out - my profile was gone...
I called and asked her why she stood me up that night, did she have another date with better prospects or something??? I acted very calm and feigned understanding of her wanting to secure a 'better standing' in life than I could provide... She admitted, yes, she went out with a guy claiming to be a doctor, driving a BMW, and after about a month of fucking him, she found out: 1.) He's not a doctor - he's a construction worker. 2.) He's only LEASING a 2 year old BMW, doesn't own a car. 3.) He HOUSE-SITS for side-money in rich-peoples' McMansions - he doesn't even have a rental apartment. 4.) He just got her pregnant!

Now she wanted me back, and suddenly my salary and future prospects seemed infinitely more attractive to her... Fuck that.

And with a track record like that, you could bet your ass that if you lost your financial standing she'd be out the front door so fast she'd have her own pressure wave.
Same goes for people who cheat to be with someone else. Your delusional if you dont think theyll do the exact same thing to you!

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:46:27 AM EDT

[#43]

Quoted:
Get a fatty with big boobs who likes to screw with a college degree and a good job who can cook.

Then just live life. Be happy that someone finds you attractive enough to sleep with.

True. True.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:50:26 AM EDT

[#44]

Quoted:
What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?
A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

+1

I am hoping to be a 55yo bartender as soon as I can afford to retire from .gov work.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:55:31 AM EDT

[#45]

Quoted:

Not seeing anyone now so I was checking out the wimins.

35 years old and a bartender. How does that happen? Partying your life away sounds like fun until you realize her net worth is probably less than her B.A.C. Booty call with condom.

21 years old with 3 kids. Not same fathers. I'm guessing none of them pay child support either. No thanks, I'm not gonna be #4. Run

26 years old in college. Sent her a message, we talk a couple times, oh by the way I'm pregnant and I know I'm going to find someone who is man enough to step up. Um, pregnant and on a dating website. Why not just jump straight to preggo porn? Run, don't walk, run.

So many people with high school listed as their highest education and a couple kids. No, I'm not interested in supporting you. Booty call with condom, use alias.

Then tonight I came across a profile for a lady I used to work with. She's mid 40s, kind of cute if you like the high energy type, and completely crazy. I read her profile. It is entirely nothing like how she really is. I feel bad for the dude that sees that she's tall, slender, and cute enough and jumps on it. Woe be upon him. Booty call with condom.

Please note I have deliberately not said anything about the stampede of fatties on every page who list themselves as average. The worst part is that they are correct. Fatties

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:57:44 AM EDT

[#46]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Get a fatty with big boobs who likes to screw with a college degree and a good job who can cook.

Then just live life. Be happy that someone finds you attractive enough to sleep with.

That right there sounds like a slice of heaven.

Works for me, too.

Posted: 9/28/2011 8:58:55 AM EDT

[#47]

I have never dated a bartender that wasn't a complete psycho and so cynical and ruined that they're beyond repair.

Wife's sister is one of these 35 year old bartenders... Yes, it's as bad as the OP says. It's a young person's game, and to get yourself through college, not a valid career path.

Posted: 9/28/2011 9:03:08 AM EDT

[#48]

Quoted:

Quoted:

What should the 35 year old bartender aspire to be your highness?

A friend of mine is a 35 year old bartender and wouldn't trade it for the world. He loves going to work. That's more than I can say for most people.

This.

Plus, some bartenders make good money with tips.

Bartenders make ok money when they're young. How well do 40+ year old bartenders do?

If I'm looking for some temporary pussy, I guess I wouldn't care what will happen to her when her looks fade. I'm mostly past the temporary pussy stage of my life, though.

Might wanna stop looking for women in their young 20's. College aged girls don't tend to work out for grown men looking into serious relationships.

YMMV.

Posted: 9/28/2011 9:03:18 AM EDT

[#49]

Oh, and for the record, I plowed TONS of bitches from PoF. Great hookup site. Most were useless but fit the bill at the moment.

Met my wife accidentally in a non-dating, non-party environment and all went well from there. I don't think you'll find a 'keeper' on any of these things. The simple fact that women have to be in physically, mentally, and financially much more 'desperate' shape to have to resort to a side means the law of averages isn't in your favor.

Posted: 9/28/2011 9:03:38 AM EDT

[#50]

i have a friend that bartends at a restaurant back in NYC...27, smoking hot, makes 75k+.

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