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I'm one of the first to stand up and yell ADD is bullshit, smack your kid every now and then, but when it comes to adults it's a different game.  Over the years I've realized my wife has it, well, she basically told me and the lightbulb went off.  With the birth of our second child, it's basically gone into hyper drive from the hormones shifting all around.  A good friend of mine also has it and he's much older than us, but they both share the same traits.  His wife also wants to kill him most days

At times it's incredibly hard to deal with and really makes me question my sanity sometimes.  With it getting worse from hormones, I'm going nuts and she might end up killing me .  I'm a talker, I love bullshitting and pondering life's mysteries.  Her ADD makes that all but impossible because as I'm talking there's basically a conveyor belt from her ears, stuck in high speed, slinging shit all over her brain.  It takes her so long to process what I'm saying and put together her thoughts for a response that a conversation is all but impossible.  She's told me many times that she's not ignoring me, she just can't catch the thoughts in her head long enough to speak.  For anything remotely close to a "serious" conversation I take her reaction extremely poor, I react as if she's acting like a scolded child playing the silent game; I want a response out of her, then it all goes downhill.  The more pissed she gets, the more stressed she gets, so the hyperfocus kicks in and she has no problem keeping up and fighting right back.  It's a vicious cycle.  

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If it's a stressful situation she has no problem focusing, which is probably why she does so great as an RN.  The bonus prize I'm getting from her hormones is forgetfulness, but not the cute "i lost my keys lol".  It's more along the lines of HOLY FUCK HOW CAN YOU FORGET THAT?!  For example; she cuts my hair.  Last night she completely went off the deep end accusing me of trying to convince her she's going insane.  Why?  Because I told her she's trimmed my eyebrows before.  She had absolutely no recollection of it ever happening.  Me?  I have an extremely good memory.  Those two things do not go good together.  The other thing that drives me batshit insane is if I say "hey, quick look at this".  She MIGHT look 5-10 seconds later, you know, after she missed whatever was happening.  

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All the other ADD shit is water under the bridge; disorganization, lateness, etc. etc.  Some of it's funny too.  She'll read her book during a TV show, but put it down to watch the commercials lol.  The issues get compounded by her upbringing.  She was homeschooled and lived under super controlling parents where everything she did was ridiculed and demonized.  Because of that, her default operating mode is to be in defensive mode.  With having kids and breastfeeding, we've basically been stuck waiting a few years for her to get medicated.  We're looking at another year of breastfeeding before she can go on meds.

I know there's got to be at least a few of you out there that deal with this....

Also, I'll never eject.  She's the most loyal and well grounded person I've ever met in my life.  She's an amazing mother and sexy as hell when she wants to be

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My wife is ADD with a touch of OCD and insomnia with a side of narcissism for a topper. Oh shes Korean to boot so its a interesting dynamic around my place.

Shes on Adderall- Ambien and ZOLOFT and that's just what I know about.