Those brass frames stretch under stiff loads. That is probably where the low grain load came from. The amount of powder is not as important as having no air gaps, so if you can seat the ball down on the powder you should be good. Cream of Wheat, corn meal, etc. all work and make no difference. A lot is made of 'flashover' causing the other cylinders to go off, but if you think about it, there is no powder exposed in the front of a loaded cylinder, so I doubt packing crisco or bullet grease above the ball makes a difference, it may help with fouling, but I doubt it helps much . But if you do not have caps, or they are not sealing well on the nipples then you can flashover at the rear. Make sure you do not fire with no caps on the loaded cylinders.
Ballistol and water mixed make a good BP cleaner. Make sure you clean as soon after shooting as possible.