Since you’re a fellow vet, I’ll give you my .02.
For what you’re wanting a chrome lined barrel is an absolute must. Not only does it extend your barrel life greatly, but for a combat rifle in a humid climate like MS, you’ll have fewer problems. In my experience chrome lined barrels also tend to be a little more forgiving of garbage ammo, in terms of cycling anyway.
Take a look at your AO when deciding on barrel length. 16” barrels are all the rage these days, but they’re really not optimal for a lot of situations. Also consider barrel profile. The original M16s main attraction was lighter weight. An M16A1 weighs like 6lbs with a loaded 20rd magazine. Most of the weight you “feel” when handling an AR is in the barrel. And for a range toy, you’ll find it’s much easier to teach you gf/wife/whoever to shoot with a lightweight rifle. Ask me how I know
I carried an M4 on 4 different middle eastern deployments as an Infantryman. But if I were to put an AR together now for something serious, I’d go 20” lightweight profile chrome lined, fixed stock, flat top with something like an ACOG. For a lot of the small bits, I really like the A1 style. For example, I used to switch the pistol grips out for A1 grips-they’re a lot more comfortable to carry around all day. A1 forward assist for sure. A1 length stock is great if you’re shorter, wearing body armor, or both. The later model with the trap in the stock for a cleaning kit, etc is really nice. Then you meld all that old stuff with flat top upper, optic, & a hand guard that allows you to mount the various other items you want on a combat rifle and you really have something. Of course, if you want the shorter carbine, you can also apply a lot of the same idea.
Keep in mind, those shorter barrels are a compromise. You’re turning your muzzle velocity into muzzle flash in exchange for compactness. They also cycle more violently than the full length rifles do, because the gas port is closer to the chamber. Colt spent a bunch of time and money figuring this issue out between the XM-177 and M4 projects. For you, the end user this also means that carbines are harder on the wearing parts(gas rings, etc) and much less forgiving of neglecting to replace those parts when they need it. If you need the shorter size, go for it. Just keep in mind these issues if you go that route.
Keep spare parts in mind whatever way you go. If things ever got so bad that you needed this build to be a combat rifle/carbine, you’re not just going to be able to turn it in to the armorer if it’s not working right.
Lastly, these things are like rabbits once you start building. You start with one or two, and next thing you know you have a whole safe full of them.