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Posted: 12/15/2001 11:52:01 AM EDT
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Hey friend,
I just got my divorce. I don't have any real legal advice but I wanted to tell to hang in there and things will get better. I will say this You need to file for the divorce. Let her look like a deadbeat. Judges see this kind of Bullshit all the time and your lawyer will do his best to take care of you. Don't wait untill she files on you and you get served with the papers to go get a lawyer. Get on now!! My .02 worth and good luck to you Huero!! |
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Posted: 12/15/2001 12:17:42 PM EDT
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... Oh man, I've been there. It sux. The bottom line is that you and your wifes collective creditors will come after [b]you[/b] if she doesn't pay. [u]PERIOD[/u]. Unilateral bankruptcy or not.
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Posted: 12/15/2001 12:42:56 PM EDT
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engage the services of the BEST divorce attorney in your area. NOT the best you can "afford"...get the best! he is your only defense against the avarice and greed that you are staring in the face.
good luck! signed, ben there, done that...got the t-shirt campy |
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Posted: 12/15/2001 1:28:59 PM EDT
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I can only second everyone else's advice here.
DO NOT be reactive - be proactive. Get an agressive and skilled divorce lawyer now and do what he tells you. My ex and I had an amicable split (I thought) - we had agreed on everything and divided everything fairly, and then when she was supposed to sign the papers she suddenly decided that she had not been treated "fairly" and she wanted more. By the time I was done being "fair" she had (in addition to the half she originally had) the new car - while I still had all the car payments, several expensive oil paintings that my parents had given me, a expensive antique porcelain piece my grandmother had given me shortly before she died ... the list goes on (and many of them personal things that were really important to me - that I think she took just to be spiteful). She ended up with at least 90% of our assets, and I ended up with the debt - because I was trying to be nice and work it out and avoid getting lawyers involved. Think about it - if the two of you are good at working things out, why the hell are you splitting up in the first place? |
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Posted: 12/15/2001 3:10:29 PM EDT
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Never divoriced... However, I had a girlfriend who got screwed with something like this.
The marriage broke up after a year, they got a divorce. Anyway, he went back to school and then filed for bankruptcy She got stuck with a credit card debt (on a card he held while they were married.) Like five years later some collector came want $20k from her, because they couldn't get it from him. I mean her credit is thrashed for the foreseeable future and before we broke up she was seriously thinking about going bankrupt. She couldn't get a load from the guy on the corner block it was so bad. Never found out how it turned out, but I would seriously pay attention to all dealings you had during your marriage and close your cards down now, get a loan to pay them off if you need to. |
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Posted: 12/15/2001 3:16:33 PM EDT
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CYA!! A good lawyer will cost you less than what you are going to lose without him/her. The "friendly" divorce is an oxymoron!!
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Posted: 12/15/2001 3:43:24 PM EDT
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Welcome to the Law Office of Eric The Hun, the Bankruptcy King of North Texas!
Many, many times I have filed petitions for bankruptcy for guys and gals who got screwed in divorce proceedings. Bankruptcy simply changes all the rules. What you may need is a bankruptcy lawyer who knows what to do in your wife's bankruptcy case to prevent some damage happening to you. Problem is, if she wants to file bankruptcy and get out of her part of the debts, then she will be permitted to do so, whether you like it or not. I have no idea what state you're living in, if it were Texas or Louisiana, I could explain what might happen, but I'm not certain about the divorce laws in any other states. Is your soon-to-be-ex-wife's bankruptcy case still going on? Did you get notice of her case? Have any of the creditors called you and told you that they received notice of her case? Is it a Chapter 7 or a Chapter 13 case? Let me know and I'll try to give you some guidance! Eric The(ProBonoPublico)Hun[>]:)] |
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Posted: 12/15/2001 3:43:50 PM EDT
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What usually happens is the financial reality of the situation becomes apparent and the "girlfriends" start giving their collective advice and wisdom to the "ex". It's all downhill from there.
Listen to campybob's advice! |
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