Just to ad some backgropund here, I went through a three year divorce war myself. There were a thousand times when it was "too hard" or "too painful" and that I just wanted to get it over with. But every time I thought that way, I thought of what it would feel like for my daughter to think that her dad did not love her enough to fight for her, and what it would feel like to me, to see her drugged out, and pregnant at 15, because that's where kids end up that are raised by single moms with no sense of what is important for their kids.
I risked it all, and lost most of it, but my daughter is here three to four days per week (tonight, in fact) and is doing wonderfully, both socially and academically. Yeah, it's hard playing Mr. Mom, harder than anything I've ever done, but man is it worth it. [:)]