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Posted: 2/2/2001 10:50:13 AM EDT
why does race and/or sexual preference matter when choosing friends?  It seems to me that people are afraid to like someone because why?  If a person is a good person why can't you be friends with a homosexual or some other diversity, without feeling weird.  Is that taught, lack of exposure, lack of education, what?  What are people afraid of?
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 10:54:07 AM EDT
[#1]
Because we are humans.
As we grow older we find that some people share our beliefs and have similar things in common. fer instance, can a young person have an interesting conversation about Dr. Dre with someone in their fifties? Or Lawrence Welk?
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 11:23:57 AM EDT
[#2]
Xpatriot,  Sometimes that is true and sometimes it is just perceived to be that way.
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 11:39:00 AM EDT
[#3]
I can be friends with anybody. I'm even friends with some dummycrats. A "gay" friend moved to CA and died of aids. A black friend just kind of drifted away. Maybe he wanted to listen to rap music. You can't do that in my house. [:\]
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 11:53:11 AM EDT
[#4]
If I choose to get poontang, I am going to be damned sure it is  from a female friend. I don't want to end up with something like in the "Crying Game".
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 12:04:41 PM EDT
[#5]
Why does race and/or sexual preference matter when choosing friends?
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It doesn't to me...  DonR and I are very close friends, but he is a species unto his own!

And as for his sexual preference..?  Sure, I imagine he enjoys his wife now and then, but he's really into black guns!  [;)]
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 12:07:49 PM EDT
[#6]
If I choose to get poontang, I am going to be damned sure it is  from a female friend.
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So, you screw all your friends?
[:O]
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 12:08:13 PM EDT
[#7]
Race shouldn't have anything to do with it. But I would not choose a friend if say...they didn't believe in the our God given Right to Keep and Bear Arms. It wouldn't matter if they were highly educated or barely educated. I don't have any friends that do not stand and remove their caps when the National Anthem is sung.
I'm not afraid of any of those things you mentioned but I am not going to compromise my ethics or patriotism just to include somebody "different".
Lynn
           [flag]
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 1:31:16 PM EDT
[#8]
Imbroglio:

Just spin it around and head in the backdoor.  You probably wouldn't know the difference.

[sex]
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 1:43:42 PM EDT
[#9]
Race is an important thing.

Like it or not, race isn't just a "color"-

It is a "culture"-

Some cultures are more compatable with each other than others.

Every day, I drive through the local ghetto to do my pickups at the warehouse.
In the middle of a workday, I see nothing but hordes of 15-45 year old negros standing around holding 32 Oz bottles of Malt Booze, and bullshitting.

I assure you that such behavior isn't part of my white culture.

Racial seperation is a natural instinct. Take a look at a professional sports locker room after the game. The Bruthas on one side of the room, and the crackas on the other.

This is real. Like it or not. The races are different.

And some races are indeed more advanced, civilized, and decent than others, too.

Like that or not.

McTruth
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 1:45:03 PM EDT
[#10]
Race and gender doesnt stop me from making friends. hell i talk to democrats and socialists all the time. Hmmmm maybe thats why i'm a libertarian. he he [:D]
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 4:58:25 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 2/2/2001 5:16:07 PM EDT
[#12]
Oh shit, I actually agree with some of what McUzi said. Yes cultures tend to be different, and some don't mesh. Much like what Rich314 said, background and upbringing. Its difficult when your background and upbringing is different. Even coming from different parts of the country can cause some sort of prejudice. I really believe that getting education on the different cultures can alleviate this.
Me personally find that I get along better with caucasians than I do with my fellow Filipinos. I grew up having most of my family's friends and my friends being caucasians. It just happened that way. I do have Filipino friends, but my caucasian friends outnumber 'em. My best friend in this entire planet is caucasian. I've dated mainly caucasian women. I still keep the Filipino history in my heart and know my heritage and do not deny it. In my upbringing, since I've been primarily around thru out my life with caucasians I pretty much am more comfortable around em.
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 6:27:36 PM EDT
[#13]
I guess because "most" people would prefer to have friends with similar beliefs/morals and interests.  

Cultural Diversity does not often make a good bed-fellow.

But speaking for myself, I choose my friends based on their character and merit.
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 7:06:40 PM EDT
[#14]
Color,Race,Culture.

Doesn't bother me.However,if you can't speak "ENGLISH" ,do not try to make me feel guilty for not understanding Your language...


GOD BLESS AMERICA.




P.S. No looking UP me KILT.






Link Posted: 2/2/2001 9:46:10 PM EDT
[#15]
I dunno...the last time I was at a gathering of 40+ AR15.com members and friends, nearly every skin color on the planet was represented. Not much cultural diversity though. Everyone there seemed only to be a member of the gun culture.
Link Posted: 2/2/2001 10:44:17 PM EDT
[#16]
I make no distinction between the races, creeds,religions...


..I hate everyone.


Paul
Link Posted: 2/3/2001 4:52:03 AM EDT
[#17]
I think it's all just part of the test.  You know ...... " Judge not lest ye be judged."  Why would a thinking man pass judgement on another human being on the basis of such superficial crap?  Should the rat spend a lifetime apologizing to the squirrel for his lack of a bushy tail?  And who decided the squirrel should set the standard?  I hold no prejudice against either, unless one of them bites me.  That there's an individual conscious act of aggression.
Link Posted: 3/16/2001 10:02:34 PM EDT
[#18]
What the h_ll does this thread have to do with the forum the site?

Let's give it a rest.
Link Posted: 3/16/2001 10:19:56 PM EDT
[#19]
Quoted:
What the h_ll does this thread have to do with the forum the site?

Let's give it a rest.
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Um, Wildman?
In case you didn't notice, it HAS been resting. Since a month and a half ago. YOU'RE the one that brought it BTT.[?]


[:D]
Link Posted: 3/16/2001 10:27:41 PM EDT
[#20]
You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your friends nose!
Link Posted: 3/16/2001 11:29:32 PM EDT
[#21]
Quoted:
Quoted:
What the h_ll does this thread have to do with the forum the site?
Let's give it a rest.
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Um, Wildman?
In case you didn't notice, it HAS been resting. Since a month and a half ago. YOU'RE the one that brought it BTT.[?]
[:D]
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Old Chinese proverb:
It's better to remain silent and appear stupid, then to open your mouth and remove all doubt!
Link Posted: 3/16/2001 11:57:14 PM EDT
[#22]
IM color blind! but one thingi do know my nhm 91 has brown wood by bishop , my colt pre ban has black furniture , and my ar10 a2 is a green color.  my para ordanace  is stainless  silver,
           and they all live  in harmony as part of my  gun family collection......  so why cant we?
     
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 7:21:30 AM EDT
[#23]
Quoted:
What the h_ll does this thread have to do with the forum the site?

Let's give it a rest.
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Do the words "General Discussion" ring a bell?
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 7:50:03 AM EDT
[#24]
racial differences are ALWAYS going to exist. as mcuzi points out, it is due to cultural habits more than "color" and how ones reaction to that cultural element (music/mannerisms) affects the relationship. often, prejudices against a race are fueled by hatred within the race, or when differences occur, the obvious is cited as the reason, and hard to overcome because of a strong history of truth. the way to overcome "cultural" conflicts, is to be intelligent enough to rise above it. yor "multi cultural" friends would then do likewise, and it is no longer an issue!...oh, reminds me of this good polish joke..................[:P}
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 7:53:24 AM EDT
[#25]
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:07:53 AM EDT
[#26]
You know you guys are right. We should embrace all people and tolerate them no matter what. Why I hope to search out and become friends with some pedophiles some day. They're just different, right? No need to condemn their practices. How about it? Anybody want to join NAMBLA?  I thought not.
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:22:50 AM EDT
[#27]
reloader.....man, you are WAY off base here!!!
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:25:51 AM EDT
[#28]
Quoted:
Believe me,you will live happier and maybe even longer![;)]
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Could you please rephrase this so HANGFIRE will not perceive this to be a threat and sue everyone.
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:26:31 AM EDT
[#29]
I personally do not care about who, what or where you are from. I do however have this habit of being cautious whenever I do not know you, whoever you are. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but the level of such depends on how he/she acts or conducts himself/herself in my presence.

Self-preservation has always been man's first instinct. As much as I do not want to sound "unpolitically correct" if someone who dresses like a gangbanger, walks like a gangbanger and talks like a gangbanger approaches me and my family in a threatening manner in a place where a lot of crime is known to exist, I will have to think and prepare for the worst.

Notice that I never mentioned race here for it does not matter, there will always be bad apples in the basket. I live in a predominantly affluent white neighborhood and I could not ask for better neighbors. Our property values has a steady climb because we as a community try to keep our individual properties pleasant and appealing by ourselves.

I also agree with M1A-A1. If I do not speak your language and we have communication problems, it is not my fault. If a lot of people try very hard and in fact go to classes so they will learn how to speak English, why don't you??? It would be to your advantage to do so.
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:38:05 AM EDT
[#30]
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:42:13 AM EDT
[#31]
Ed,

You crack me up !!!!!!! [8D] [8D] [8D]
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 8:54:13 AM EDT
[#32]
I try to go throught the world "color blind", and I try to judge people by their character.  And that usually works.

But in MY experience, about 85-90% of blacks I know or have met have an attitude problem, have poor work ethic, etc, and I don't particularly care for those ones.  Thus, from MY experience, the chances of me becoming friends with a black person is less; even though I have nothing against them, and hold no grudges.

BlackandGreen:  Tell the polish joke...PLEASE![:)]
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 9:10:53 AM EDT
[#33]
stubbs...i choose to be "politically correct", and not offend persons of my heritage...(maybe tommorow)....B&G
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 11:26:15 AM EDT
[#34]
Of all the heretofor replys I believe Big
Dozer66 and EdAviliaSr. taken together say it
best.
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 11:27:56 AM EDT
[#35]
EdAvilaSr is wise beyond his years.

Years ago my car broke down in a really bad ass black area in NYC at 2:00 AM in the morning. One of NYC's finest drove by and yelled out the window that he would send a tow truck for me. I think he was afraid to stop and get out of his car.

In any case no tow truck ever came. I tried to flag down some passing cars but no one would stop to help. About 3:30 AM a car pulls behind me and a black guy gets out. Oh great I think now I'm going to get mugged.

Not only didn't he mug me he drove me to his friends gas station and called his friend to come down and get his tow truck. After they tow my car back to the station and secure it, he drives me to a friends house ten miles away.

Now get this. Neither he nor his friend would take any money for their trouble. The guy says to me "Maybe you'll stop and help me one day."

Good people come in all shapes, sizes and colors. When your ass is in a sling you won't care if your help is pink, purple or polka dot.
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 12:08:15 PM EDT
[#36]
I would write a lengthly reply, but McUzi said everything I would have said. (cheers to you bro).[:D]

Tyler
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 2:17:51 PM EDT
[#37]
My mother was operated on by a gifted black surgeon at a major NYC teaching hospital and medical school 23 years ago. He actually operated on her twice and saved her life. If she had refused to be operated on by a black she would probably be dead today.

Like I said before. Good people come in all shapes, sizes and colors. When your ass is in a sling you won't care if your help is pink, purple or polka dot.

McTruth: There is some truth in what you said but you really need to get out of the ghetto and expand your horizons dude[:D]  
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 2:57:53 PM EDT
[#38]
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 9:46:41 PM EDT
[#39]
I get along with anyone who isn't a 24 hour Ahole. I had a black friend stay a week with me on his vacation, he had only shot a gun once when he was 13, his Dads .357. He didn't have strong opinions or interests in fireams but has known about the family collection since we went to high school together. We needed to kill some time so I took him to the local range and checked him out on a MP5. Took all of 5 mins. of instruction before he was fine on his own. Good groups, good firearm discipline and nice control. This really ain't complicated folks. I would rather live next door to normal black people or whatever than say Charles Manson, Jesse Jackson or Aholes of any persuasion.
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 10:50:31 PM EDT
[#40]
posted by McUZI"Every day, I drive through the local ghetto to do my pickups at the warehouse.
In the middle of a workday, I see nothing but hordes of 15-45 year old negros standing around holding 32 Oz bottles of Malt Booze, and bullshitting.

I assure you that such behavior isn't part of my white culture."......
  so i guess picking up unknown crack ho's and taking 'em home for some Mcfun and then worrying if said crack ho is going to come back to your place and steal your Mcguns is part of your " white culture"?that funny because it's not part of mine.i guess we have different "white cultures"then.mmk
Link Posted: 3/17/2001 11:30:57 PM EDT
[#41]
Originally Posted By madman kirk:
posted by McUZI"Every day, I drive through the local ghetto to do my pickups at the warehouse.
In the middle of a workday, I see nothing but hordes of 15-45 year old negros standing around holding 32 Oz bottles of Malt Booze, and bullshitting.

I assure you that such behavior isn't part of my white culture."......
  so i guess picking up unknown crack ho's and taking 'em home for some Mcfun and then worrying if said crack ho is going to come back to your place and steal your Mcguns is part of your " white culture"?that funny because it's not part of mine.i guess we have different "white cultures"then.mmk
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Hey!  Lay off McEminem!

Sorry, couldn't help myself!
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