 millerized
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Posted: 5/25/2012 10:20:36 PM
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Soon to be wife leaves the state she's currently in and comes here. Soon to be ex-Husband gets left with the son. She marries me...do I get stuck paying his child support? Is there alimony involved? Do I get stuck paying this as well? Is it too early to kill myself? |
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Posted: 5/25/2012 11:31:24 PM
[Last Edit: 5/25/2012 11:32:35 PM by Bubbles]
1. If she is currently ordered to pay CS then her getting remarried won't change that. I would also find out if that order states whether or not she's on the hook for any college expenses.
2. If she's collecting alimony then that should cease once she remarries. 3. If she's paying palimony then that shouldn't stop until he remarries or a certain period of time has passed. Editorial comment, but I would pull the case file and find out the real reason she doesn't have custody, as courts strongly favor the mom unless they're really psycho. |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 1:05:37 AM
Originally Posted By Bubbles:
1. If she is currently ordered to pay CS then her getting remarried won't change that. I would also find out if that order states whether or not she's on the hook for any college expenses. 2. If she's collecting alimony then that should cease once she remarries. 3. If she's paying palimony then that shouldn't stop until he remarries or a certain period of time has passed. Editorial comment, but I would pull the case file and find out the real reason she doesn't have custody, as courts strongly favor the mom unless they're really psycho. THIS. unless it isnt "her" child. |
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millerized
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Posted: 5/26/2012 8:12:45 AM
Husband left on his own, was sleeping around.
No legal rulings yet. Child will be staying behind on his own accord if he doesn't start acting like an adult. A 15yr old does NOT lay on floor kicking and screaming because he doesn't want to go feed/water his animals. Sorry, no.. Does not want to work at life with the animals he takes care of, would rather watch TV all day at his fathers place. Fostered, but adopted child. Developmental issues, that seem to be getting worse. Woman was stay at home mom, was not allowed to work outside of the house. Best case scenario here would be minimum wage earner. But do I get taxed to make up what she doesn't send them? Is it MY responsibility to pay? If that's the case, there is no marriage. Thanks, but no thanks. |
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Joenavy85
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Posted: 5/26/2012 8:48:59 AM
Originally Posted By millerized:
Husband left on his own, was sleeping around. No legal rulings yet. Child will be staying behind on his own accord if he doesn't start acting like an adult. A 15yr old does NOT lay on floor kicking and screaming because he doesn't want to go feed/water his animals. Sorry, no.. Does not want to work at life with the animals he takes care of, would rather watch TV all day at his fathers place. Fostered, but adopted child. Developmental issues, that seem to be getting worse. Woman was stay at home mom, was not allowed to work outside of the house. Best case scenario here would be minimum wage earner. But do I get taxed to make up what she doesn't send them? Is it MY responsibility to pay? If that's the case, there is no marriage. Thanks, but no thanks. I don't think they can force you to pay what she is supposed to be paying. HOWEVER, when tax season rolls around if she is behind on CS than they can and usually will deduct that from your tax return. so if she's kinda sketchy on paying be sure to file your taxes separately. |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 9:05:13 AM
Originally Posted By millerized:
15 yr old... Three year engagement and see where you stand. It's not like your bio-clock is ticking here. |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 9:15:03 AM
Originally Posted By millerized:
Husband left on his own, was sleeping around. No legal rulings yet. Child will be staying behind on his own accord if he doesn't start acting like an adult. A 15yr old does NOT lay on floor kicking and screaming because he doesn't want to go feed/water his animals. Sorry, no.. Does not want to work at life with the animals he takes care of, would rather watch TV all day at his fathers place. Fostered, but adopted child. Developmental issues, that seem to be getting worse. Woman was stay at home mom, was not allowed to work outside of the house. Best case scenario here would be minimum wage earner. But do I get taxed to make up what she doesn't send them? Is it MY responsibility to pay? If that's the case, there is no marriage. Thanks, but no thanks. three pieces of advice. 1. Don't rush into marrying until you know what exactly the situation is going to be on the other end. 2. Don't stick it in crazy. 3. No pie is worth paying that much for. |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 9:18:21 AM
Originally Posted By Hard_Rock:
Originally Posted By millerized:
Husband left on his own, was sleeping around. No legal rulings yet. Child will be staying behind on his own accord if he doesn't start acting like an adult. A 15yr old does NOT lay on floor kicking and screaming because he doesn't want to go feed/water his animals. Sorry, no.. Does not want to work at life with the animals he takes care of, would rather watch TV all day at his fathers place. Fostered, but adopted child. Developmental issues, that seem to be getting worse. Woman was stay at home mom, was not allowed to work outside of the house. Best case scenario here would be minimum wage earner. But do I get taxed to make up what she doesn't send them? Is it MY responsibility to pay? If that's the case, there is no marriage. Thanks, but no thanks. three pieces of advice. 1. Don't rush into marrying until you know what exactly the situation is going to be on the other end. 2. Don't stick it in crazy. 3. No pie is worth paying that much for. This, I really hope you know what you are getting into. |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 10:19:46 AM
Originally Posted By millerized:
Is it too early to kill myself? The others have covered the first few questions pretty well. Yes it is too early to kill yourself if she hasn't moved in yet. You can still tell her no and spare your life. I can't remember, but isn't your divorce fairly recent as well? |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 10:35:43 AM
Originally Posted By Hard_Rock:
Originally Posted By millerized:
Husband left on his own, was sleeping around. No legal rulings yet. Child will be staying behind on his own accord if he doesn't start acting like an adult. A 15yr old does NOT lay on floor kicking and screaming because he doesn't want to go feed/water his animals. Sorry, no.. Does not want to work at life with the animals he takes care of, would rather watch TV all day at his fathers place. Fostered, but adopted child. Developmental issues, that seem to be getting worse. Woman was stay at home mom, was not allowed to work outside of the house. Best case scenario here would be minimum wage earner. But do I get taxed to make up what she doesn't send them? Is it MY responsibility to pay? If that's the case, there is no marriage. Thanks, but no thanks. three pieces of advice. 1. Don't rush into marrying until you know what exactly the situation is going to be on the other end. 2. Don't stick it in crazy. 3. No pie is worth paying that much for. that should be #1 in all cases. unfortunately, i think most of us have missed this step at some time or another.  |
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Posted: 5/26/2012 1:08:44 PM
Originally Posted By mylt1:
Originally Posted By Hard_Rock:
Originally Posted By millerized:
Husband left on his own, was sleeping around. No legal rulings yet. Child will be staying behind on his own accord if he doesn't start acting like an adult. A 15yr old does NOT lay on floor kicking and screaming because he doesn't want to go feed/water his animals. Sorry, no.. Does not want to work at life with the animals he takes care of, would rather watch TV all day at his fathers place. Fostered, but adopted child. Developmental issues, that seem to be getting worse. Woman was stay at home mom, was not allowed to work outside of the house. Best case scenario here would be minimum wage earner. But do I get taxed to make up what she doesn't send them? Is it MY responsibility to pay? If that's the case, there is no marriage. Thanks, but no thanks. three pieces of advice. 1. Don't rush into marrying until you know what exactly the situation is going to be on the other end. 2. Don't stick it in crazy. 3. No pie is worth paying that much for. that should be #1 in all cases. unfortunately, i think most of us have missed this step at some time or another. yeah #1 for sure, but not always effective, things break. |
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VA-gunnut
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Posted: 5/26/2012 1:49:41 PM
I think everyone else has it covered already.
You don't have to marry this woman right away, or are you old fashioned about living together or something? |
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