I'm in the same situation / quandary.
Are you going to scope it? The Marlin or Henry have solid-topped receivers already drilled and tapped, thus are better choices for scoping.
Are you going to shoot cast bullets? The Marlin's microgroove rifling can be a bit more fussy about shooting cast bullets well.
Are you going to shoot heavyweights? Both the Marlin and Henry have 1:38 rifling twist, while the Rossi is a bit quicker at 1:30. Ideally, they'd all be rifled 1:20, but that's not happening any time soon. The difference between 1:30 and 1:38 twist is probably more theoretical than real, but "conventional wisdom" holds that the Marlin and Henry may have trouble stabilizing bullets heavier than 270 gr., while the Rossi might be good for 300 gr.
You already know about the QC issues with "Remlins" and the occasional Rossi.
You already know about the issues (real or imagined) with the Henry's tube loading.
Since I intend to shoot 270gr cast almost exclusively, and want to maximize handiness (irons only) and minimize weight, my not-yet-set-in-stone order of desirability is Rossi / Henry / Marlin. But I'd still like more guidance from those who have lived with them for a while.