Why are you wanting to use the KAC Mk23 suppressor? There are better cheaper options available now. The only real reason I'd see getting one would be to complete a Mk. 23 in the first place. Aside from that, I'm sure .40 would physically fit in a .45 mag, but it's not going to feed right at all. The 16X1 LH is the thread pitch of the suppressor, and yes it's not very common in a lot of firearms that I'm aware of. Again, the Mk23 and suppressor were really meant to be used together. Newer suppressors have swappable pistons of different thread pitches which allow them to be used in different firearms.
As to durability, I really doubt you're going to shoot out a modern name brand pistol suppressor, given both the durability of materials and pressure of handgun rounds. If you did, I'm sure any reputable manufacturer will take care of you (I know silencerco will, and I'd wager others will as well). I'd suggest you read up on the suppressor forum, and look at options like the Revo, Osprey, Obsidian, Ghost, and other modern cans that are cheaper, give better db performance, lighter, and more adaptable.