1: no, the 1911 is a single action automatic. With the hammer down the first shot will have to have the hammer pulled back. Google half cock, and single/double action for more info
2: hold the hammer with your off hand, gently pull then release the trigger and softly bring the hammer down, it's very safe assuming you do it correctly and does not take long to get the hang of
3: there is a slide release takedown just like you described, but also in most cases a barrel bushing, you should YouTube this one. But it's not difficult at all
4: yes, there is an external safety , again some YouTube action and you'll be very familiar very quickly
And congratulations on your choice. The 1911 has a trigger system that is literally second to none, after 100 years of service they are still one of the slimmest and graceful designs out there. John browning was so far ahead of his time that easily 80% of firearms emulate the 1911's function in one way or another.
It's no novelty or old time relic, the 1911 is bar none one of the fastest shooting, ergonomic, and capable platforms out there. I think everyone should own one. You'll quickly find that many nay Sayers have never shot or handled one by the way they talk.
Enjoy