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the carrier and bolt assembly does not lock back mannually either and other uppers lock back perfectly, and its not a mag issue. I'm guessing it these uppers might only work on rifle length tubes and stocks although all pics and articles i've seen and read show car stocks. this is an ar for my wife who's all of 5-4 so i need the car stock for her. this is a walttor lother bbl so head space is not an issue
OK, forget gas system for now and figure out what you have that is out spec in the receiver extension.
Verify correct tube, spring, buffer.
It's also possible that the bolt catch is out of spec or binding.
This is a visual check, make sure that the bolt is traveling back far enough.
If it's not traveling rearward far enough for the bolt catch to engage the bolt, then there is something wrong as mentioned above with the receiver extension assembly.
Some examples of similar issues are....
Buffer tube too short....airsoft product
Spacer stuck in buffer tube.....previously used for a 9mm rig
Rifle spring in a carbine (telestock) buffer tube system.....coil binding.