The round should stick out about 0.135". Use a caliper depth gauge to see if you're close. If it's too high, the bolt won't be far enough closed for the hammer to hit the firing pin properly, and if it does, the case will bulge or worse. If it's too low, the bolt won't fully support the case, and the firing pin may not hit the primer. Edit to add: Looking at your picture, it seems the round is WAY too high in your chamber. Measure how far out it is, and let us know.
The ejector should have a little play to keep it from getting bashed about.
In your picture, the ejector seems like it's "pointing down." The top MUST be parallel with the top deck of the lower (and thus parallel with the groove in the bolt). It must ride as high in the bolt's groove as possible, and the FACE of the ejector - that tiny little rectangle on the front - must be perpendicular to the bolt axis. That's all there is to knock that 9mm case out, and only about 1/2 of it actually contacts the case head, so alignment is crucial.