So after over a year my family is living with me again(Got a new job in ND they were in IL during my training.) My three kids love shooting every time I have a day off it's "Dad can you take us shooting!" Even on days I work they ask me, I have three kids two boys one girl and even the little lady loves to shoot and she is good at it also.

I was showing my 12 year old son my AR-15 asking him f he wanted to shoot it and showed him how he could move the butt stock and the broom handle on the front so it would fit him. My other two kids 9 and 5 are hanging out waiting there turn to hold the rifle. Then my wife walks in and sees my son holding the rife and saying how it felt easy to hold and how much he liked it. So my wife asks me if she could try holding it!! That's odd we have been married for 14 years know each other for 16 years and I have only gotten her to shoot with me one time that was also the only time she held one of my firearms also!

So I show my wife how she can move it around to fit her she tells me that it is comfortable to hold and she would like to shoot it one day!! Then a few days later as I'm on the internet she comes in and starts talking to me about her getting to know how to use a firearm pistol and rifle and maybe getting her CCW because of the thought that I (I'm LEO) being out with them and someone were to attack me and she could do nothing about it made her feel weak and even more what would she do if I was not there. We talked about rifles after that and told her there was two rifles I think would fit her one being the AR-15 but she would have to learn how to use it the other was a leaver action rifle because it's simple to use and recoil is light yet it can be loaded with a pistol round that can take game.

What can I do not to screw this one up? Thanks!

Try and find a firearms instructor with a good reputation and spend the money on a class she can take herself. This may give her more confidence to handle herself with a firearm then to be under the protective wing of her LEO husband. Sometimes when husbands teach wives, they don't get as good results. That's nothing on you, its just the way it sometimes is.

Let her take a class and then let her decide which firearm suits her best. Both the AR and the lever are good choices, from your point of view, but the person who's point of view is important is her's. Don't take that as a flame. I think people start with good advise, but she may go a different direction and you may have to let her with out getting your feelings hurt. Again, she is the one who needs to feel comfortable.

Good luck.

Don't wait too long to get things rolling. She expressed an interest, so show her that you're just as interested in what she wants.

Yep :) You know your wife and her personality better than anyone here and i have no doubt that after being married so long that you now how to approach her. My advice as a lady... When she starts to get bored or becomes frustrated at not making shots she knows she could make, call it a day. Keep it upbeat and positive and its likely she'll come back for more. Shooting dates without the kids have turned into one of our favorite things.

I second (and maybe third?) the finding someone else to teach her. Let her come to you with what she learned. My husband is very knowledgeable, very patient and very enthusiastic about teaching me but it wasn't until I went out and got training on my own that it "clicked" for me. Now I have my NRA instructor's certificate and my own training company.
It all started because I liked the look of a little Walther PK 380.

Just went out the other day and let the wife shoot some rounds out of the pistols I have. She did very well for one of her first times out shooting but mostly we found out what type of pistols she enjoyed shooting. She shoot the best with my SIG 226 in 40S&W the weight of the pistol helped her control the snap of the 40 round, The Glock 22 she shoot one round out of it and said that's all she was going to fire from it. She did not like how much more of a snap the Glock had over the SIG. Last pistol she shoot was the XD45 compact she liked the way the compact fit in her hand the best she shoot the 45acp round very well for her first time. She did not mind the 45acp and told me she liked the push of the 45acp over the snap of the 40 S&W.

So right now we are thinking of XD9 compact or subcompact for her I'm going to buy the 9mm barrel for my SIG so that she can try out the 9mm before we spend the money on a pistol for her. She also shoot my AR-15 and Ruger 10/22 and she enjoyed shooting both of them and enjoyed it more when the kids challenged her to see who could shoot the orange top hat and see who could get it the furthest way.

http://www.gunnoob.com/GeneralGuides/IntroducingYourOthertoShooting.aspx

This might help you out.