 j0hn 
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Posted: 3/20/2012 7:06:25 PM
[Last Edit: 3/20/2012 7:11:15 PM by j0hn]
THE IMAGE ABOVE IS A PAID ADVERTISEMENT Now two weeks later with no talk of this we were leaving class she asked if I still had a list of people to take shooting because she had never shot a gun and would like to go. I said no and that I'd gladly take her shooting. It surprised me that she asked, and she then offered to pay asking how much it would cost ect. We were walking and I was in a rush so we had to break off the conversation and I said to her that we will set up a time next class (which is tomorrow). I hope tomorrow to set up a shooting "date" for Saturday. But here is the thing: Should I consider this as a date? I really want to believe she is interested, but her offering to pay made me think she just wanted to go shooting, and lets face it I take women shooting all the time in groups platonically. I'm hoping when we set up a time tomorrow for us to go if she doesn't ask if she can bring any friends along... as this would say to me she doesn't want me to get the wrong idea.... Should I consider this a date? Should I just buy the ammo before I pick her up so she can't pay? Do you guys think she is interested in more than being friends? |
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BeautifulStranger
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Posted: 3/20/2012 10:24:09 PM
I wouldn't consider it a date. But if you want to buy the ammo I would and if she offers to pay you back let her pay for half and tell her you will get lunch sometime. Leaves it open for a real lunch date.
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Posted: 3/21/2012 12:03:58 AM
hmm.... well if it was me and i was interested in you, i would have just told you to txt me about the details and carried on from there instead of keeping it "in class."
 Maybe she is interested but isnt getting the right vibes from you to feel comfortable expressing that to you. Or maybe she sincerely wants you to just have a platonic relationship  Maybe you should ask her out to dinner after the shooting lesson and if she says yes i think you'll have your answer  |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 9:01:40 PM
She is probably interested in you on some level, so that is a good sign. I would go ahead and buy the ammo, and if she offers to pay refuse and tell her you've got it (any guy that takes me out and accepts payment typically gets written off on my list if at the time considering something more with them... ).
Don't fawn over her, but make sure you act the part of the gentleman. Also make sure you go over how important safety is, and let her know that she needs to pay close attention because if she breeches one of your rules you're gunna call it a day and take her back home. And if she does make sure you follow through with this! Let he know that when you take her safety seriously, and will not tolerate careless mistakes. This will gain you a tremendous amount of respect in her eyes. Instead of officially asking her out to dinner afterwards, just casually mention that you're hungry as you're passing a Burger King Or Mcdonalds on your way back home. Tell her that you are gunna run through the drivethrew to grab a quick bite to eat. Then ask her if she's hungry too, if she says yes go ahead and park the car and mention that it would be easier to eat inside :) Again, make sure you pay for it and don't let her pay for her own. I don't care what our feminist society thinks, if a man is worth his salt he pays when he takes a girl out.. whether they're officially an "item" or not. |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 10:53:22 AM
[Last Edit: 4/14/2012 10:53:48 AM by Razoreye]
Originally Posted By j0hn:
I'm in college and on the first day of class I sat next to this girl who I'd never met before who was cute. Neither of us had any friends in the class and over the semester we have become very casual. We really only see each other in class and chat for about 10 minutes before class and then walk together chatting afterwards until each of us goes our separate ways depending on what we are doing. A few weeks ago I asked her what she did for fun and she literally had no hobbies except hiking and school. I suggested that she find some hobby and she asked me what mine were. I said oh I fish (she said she wanted to go fishing... I said I'd take her but the water is too cold right now) and that I like to shoot guns and compete in shooting competitions. She said wow that's cool I've never been shooting before and I offered to take her but before we could finish the conversation the class started. It was a test day that day and afterwards instead of talking about going shooting we just fumed over the test. Now two weeks later with no talk of this we were leaving class she asked if I still had a list of people to take shooting because she had never shot a gun and would like to go. I said no and that I'd gladly take her shooting. It surprised me that she asked, and she then offered to pay asking how much it would cost ect. We were walking and I was in a rush so we had to break off the conversation and I said to her that we will set up a time next class (which is tomorrow). I hope tomorrow to set up a shooting "date" for Saturday. But here is the thing: Should I consider this as a date? I really want to believe she is interested, but her offering to pay made me think she just wanted to go shooting, and lets face it I take women shooting all the time in groups platonically. I'm hoping when we set up a time tomorrow for us to go if she doesn't ask if she can bring any friends along... as this would say to me she doesn't want me to get the wrong idea.... Should I consider this a date? Should I just buy the ammo before I pick her up so she can't pay? Do you guys think she is interested in more than being friends? Not a date. Doing activities with friends of the opposite sex should never be equated to a date unless you both are on the same page. Let her payif.she wants, don't try to white knight her.  |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 10:57:36 AM
Originally Posted By WyoGal:
She is probably interested in you on some level, so that is a good sign. I would go ahead and buy the ammo, and if she offers to pay refuse and tell her you've got it (any guy that takes me out and accepts payment typically gets written off on my list if at the time considering something more with them... ). Don't fawn over her, but make sure you act the part of the gentleman. Also make sure you go over how important safety is, and let her know that she needs to pay close attention because if she breeches one of your rules you're gunna call it a day and take her back home. And if she does make sure you follow through with this! Let he know that when you take her safety seriously, and will not tolerate careless mistakes. This will gain you a tremendous amount of respect in her eyes. Instead of officially asking her out to dinner afterwards, just casually mention that you're hungry as you're passing a Burger King Or Mcdonalds on your way back home. Tell her that you are gunna run through the drivethrew to grab a quick bite to eat. Then ask her if she's hungry too, if she says yes go ahead and park the car and mention that it would be easier to eat inside :) Again, make sure you pay for it and don't let her pay for her own. I don't care what our feminist society thinks, if a man is worth his salt he pays when he takes a girl out.. whether they're officially an "item" or not. You're full of it on the paying part. Experience has shown me time and again a real woman worth keeping around will insist to pay most of the time. Doesn't mean I always let them  but many times I do. It's much more comfortable that way in our friendships.
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Posted: 4/15/2012 9:39:16 AM
I agree, Wyo,
Razor: If experience has shown you time and again, how long DO THEY keep you around? You may want to reevaluate your dating techniques Perhaps things have changed over the years...ask a woman if you really want to know |
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Posted: 4/15/2012 11:30:36 AM
Originally Posted By GunFriday:
I agree, Wyo, Razor: If experience has shown you time and again, how long DO THEY keep you around? You may want to reevaluate your dating techniques Perhaps things have changed over the years...ask a woman if you really want to know It's a matter of me keeping them around. Compatibility must be there. And so far most have stayed friends long after the fact.  |
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Posted: 4/15/2012 8:42:25 PM
I agree with you.
Originally Posted By Razoreye:
Originally Posted By WyoGal:
She is probably interested in you on some level, so that is a good sign. I would go ahead and buy the ammo, and if she offers to pay refuse and tell her you've got it (any guy that takes me out and accepts payment typically gets written off on my list if at the time considering something more with them... ). Don't fawn over her, but make sure you act the part of the gentleman. Also make sure you go over how important safety is, and let her know that she needs to pay close attention because if she breeches one of your rules you're gunna call it a day and take her back home. And if she does make sure you follow through with this! Let he know that when you take her safety seriously, and will not tolerate careless mistakes. This will gain you a tremendous amount of respect in her eyes. Instead of officially asking her out to dinner afterwards, just casually mention that you're hungry as you're passing a Burger King Or Mcdonalds on your way back home. Tell her that you are gunna run through the drivethrew to grab a quick bite to eat. Then ask her if she's hungry too, if she says yes go ahead and park the car and mention that it would be easier to eat inside :) Again, make sure you pay for it and don't let her pay for her own. I don't care what our feminist society thinks, if a man is worth his salt he pays when he takes a girl out.. whether they're officially an "item" or not. You're full of it on the paying part. Experience has shown me time and again a real woman worth keeping around will insist to pay most of the time. Doesn't mean I always let them but many times I do. It's much more comfortable that way in our friendships.
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Posted: 4/17/2012 12:01:42 PM
I wouldn't consider it a date unless it's been established as one beforehand, that could make things very awkward and could hurt chances of something in the future. If she offers to pay for part definitely let her. If it seems like there's some kind of connection ask her to dinner afterward and pay for that.
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Posted: 4/17/2012 1:49:44 PM
[Last Edit: 4/17/2012 1:50:44 PM by DanaHillen]
Don't push it..........take her shooting and see where it goes.Make it as pleasant and enjoyable an experience as possible.
At the very LEAST you will have introduced her to the shooting sports and she will remember more than anything else your demeanor and your attitude. oh,don't forget eye and ear protection........... |
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