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Her anxiety isnt bad enough for her to drink heavy. She has pretty good meds. It's actually funny watching the before and after.
As I said too on the beer, she had one DUI years ago. And yeah ice storm probably wasnt the best call. But we've been out before in that weather and never had an issue. The road she lives on the county and township are SUPPOSED to plow but they could care less. I've been on it plenty of times myself. Last time I went down it in snowy weather I was in 4x4 and still almost lost control. And I wasnt even going that fast either. Itvreally is a very dangerous road.
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Go back and read your post. Lots of excuses and rationalization going on there.
-Her anxiety isn't bad enough to drink heavily? And yet, she still has at least four drinks (a beer and a few fireballs). I take "few" to mean three or more. That kinda sounds like heavy drinking to me.
-She's only had one DUI. That's one more than most of us. Is it ok to drink and drive if you've only had one DUI? What about two? Is there a number where it's not ok?
-We've been out before in that weather and never had an issue. So what? Does this justify drinking and driving? Lots of drunks have driven home without an issue before, until they did have an issue. Just like her.
-The county and township are SUPPOSED to plow, but they could
n't care less? She still bears the ultimate responsibility for deciding to drive.
-Leaving the scene of an accident. There's a very strong legal doctrine of "flight equals guilt".
-After having a crash where alcohol plays at least a partial role, she goes home with mom and dad and has some more drinks? The cops don't usually arrest you for wrapping your car around a tree. They definitely arrest you, and they should, for wrapping your car around a tree while drunk driving. That also points to an odd dynamic with the parents. Your daughter just crashed into a tree, after drinking. So they say, "Here ya go, honey. Have a couple of stiff ones to calm your nerves."??
I realize this isn't GD. But her behavior is sounding pretty GD-like. Anxiety, drinking too much, drinking and driving in poor conditions, leaving the scene of an accident and then going and drinking some more?
A drop of one tier in her DUI is probably the best she can hope for, and maybe more than she deserves. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but this story isn't going to get a lot of sympathy from anyone, whether they're ARFCom, the prosecutor, the judge or the jury.
And her parents screwed up too. As a parent, if my child called me and said she'd been in a wreck and needed help, I would go immediately. But leaving the scene was not a good idea.