Don't blame the "liberal activist judges"- the conservative judges give preferential treatment to women. Just the way it is. Liberal judges- particularly female- are less likely to give a woman an undeserved break.
When you don't show in court you effectively lose. You need to discuss this with the local child support enforcement and probably a lawyer.
I can see what's next- she doesn't return to work, doesn't make payments even then, so you get a worthless judgment for past due support. The CSEU files in court to "make her pay" her monthly support, judge sentences her to weekends jail, but suspends it because she has a baby- a baby with nobody else to care for. She says she lost her job, and has no job to return to. She says she can't afford daycare even if she gets a job because it won't pay enough, so no job. You think a judge is going to put her in jail for owing you ten grand, and put the baby in foster care? NFW.
Ask me how I know this. No, don't- it's pretty self-evident.
You need to talk to a lawyer. Lawyer will probably tell you to request a judgment and give you a big smiley face noting that judgments are forever and you can get your money when she gets rich or inherits. Hate to say it, but you are in a shit spot right now. You're the parent for a reason- so you may have to suck it up and be the sole financial support for you child.
Talk to the county child support agency. Then talk to a lawyer. Don't expect a miracle, just learn the best course of action and take it.
I would LOVE to be in your position because I'd cut my financial loss, grab my kid and move somewhere far away.