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Posted: 10/14/2001 6:23:23 PM EDT
My girl dumped me a week ago and it gets worse every day. We had been fighting on and off for about two months over dumb things. Last week she said that she didn't want to be together anymore. It hurts. We were together for two and a half years. I thought that she was the one for me. Any advice on how to deal with it.
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:24:15 PM EDT
Get drunk!
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:25:48 PM EDT
Do other stuff. Going to the range is the first thing that comes to mind . . .
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:25:53 PM EDT
If you go out and get drunk leave the guns at home. Best thing to do is go out and get some...
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:30:43 PM EDT
Move on. Be glad it was not a divorce with kids involved. Go do something you like, and start looking for the next one....
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:31:36 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 10/14/2001 6:27:44 PM EDT by Winston_Wolf]
... It may seems insurmountably gloomy now but believe me, things WILL get better. Not always as fast as we "instant gratification seeking Americans" would like but it does get better, hang in there. ... And, I'd say drink ONLY when you're happy. (spelling)
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:32:54 PM EDT
There's other ones out there its real tough but life goes on
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:33:15 PM EDT
Come to Montreal, Canada, we have more bars and strip joints per-capita then Amsterdam. By the time your done here you will have added 2 girls a day to your "ive done" list and wont be able to remember ever wanting or having a girlfriend!
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:33:33 PM EDT
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:37:59 PM EDT
Originally Posted By enigma2y0u: My girl dumped me a week ago and it gets worse every day. We had been fighting on and off for about two months over dumb things. Last week she said that she didn't want to be together anymore. It hurts. We were together for two and a half years. I thought that she was the one for me. Any advice on how to deal with it.
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Go ask out lots of females, and don't worry about the consequences when you do- if you fall off a horse, get right back on again, so as not to lose one's nerve. To women, nothing's worse than some guy who has lost self-confidence. Be honest with women, but DON'T dwell on your heartache with them. After being in a relationship for a long time, one forgets how to deal with unknown members of the opposite sex, so, be warned- you might get lots of rejection, but you do get used to it. (Remember, you had been single before you met the last one, and you lived through that time, too.) They're not rejecting you, they're rejecting a stranger, so don't take it personally. Just keep on going, and eventually you will get over it- and nothing makes one get over a lost love like a new one, to take your mind off the old one. Just don't hang out with someone who is not suited to you, just because she's available- a REAL drag.... Other than that, have fun with hobbies, volunteer work, family and friends, and just keep going, with a positive attitude, even when you feel like dying inside. Life does get better. Been there, got through it.
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 6:46:03 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:04:45 PM EDT
Just think - some other poor sumbitch has to contend with her now!!! Lucky him. She is now a stranger to you. Be tough and don't talk about her to other wimmen while you're "in the hunt". Good Luck, Amigo!
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:09:22 PM EDT
Nope,peeple are amazed I'm alive,me too,but can't break whats not there.#1 heartless SOB here!........ unless I see a stray doggie!
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:16:32 PM EDT
"P" Therapy: Porn Pot Pilsner Prostitutes Percodan Porsche
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:22:10 PM EDT
Don't listen to all of the advise to get drunk and hook up with other chicks... you don't want other chicks, you want the one who dumped you and getting drunk won't make your pain go away... only one thing will my man... time... trust me, I speak from experience. One day you will look back on this and laugh that you wasted time being so upset, but it is a phase that can't be avoided. Indulge it, learn from it, move on, and your next relationship will benefit from it... Semper Fi
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:33:16 PM EDT
I concur with the get drunk and screw crowd. It will ease the pain now. Having had the experience of losing THE one and only woman I truely felt an unbreakable bond with I can tell you that the pain never goes away. It eases some but it's always with you. The problem with having someone you can't live without is, you usually have to learn to live without her eventually.
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:46:06 PM EDT
[Last Edit: 10/14/2001 7:42:04 PM EDT by WesDesRat]
I just recently got the boot from my girl too bud... almost 3 months ago. Here's my advice: if you really care about her, and really want her back, suck up and swallow your pride and tell her. This may or may not work, depends on whats going on in her head. If you don't want to get back with her, just take lots of time to go shooting, hunting, fishing... whatever you like to do. I'm starting running again. Exercise helps. Date if you feel like it , but dont put all your eggs in one basket. Don't go out drinking on a binge... good way to do something foolish. Don't go try to get laid, thats just a temporary patch. It'll take time to get back to feeling like things are ok. What part of Utah are you in? Drop me an e-mail at Xcontryrun@aol.com if you want to get together and go shoot at pictures of your X [x] Chin up, good luck!
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 7:54:15 PM EDT
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Link Posted: 10/14/2001 9:58:19 PM EDT
The GAW tore the heart from my chest, threw it to the ground and then stomped it into bits.
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 10:10:55 PM EDT
It's like your faithful dog, companion of your youth, has just died. You can relive all of the wonderful times you both had, the walks, the hunts, the quiet evenings by the fireplace. The pain can be almost unbearable at times, after you have laid your 'best friend' in the ground, never to see him again in this world. You feel lost in the way, alone probably for the first time in years. [u]Whatever[/u] can you do to assuage the tremendous hurt you feel inside? ...You get a new puppy! They're pretty much all the same, after all![:D] Eric The(AndYouCanTeachIt[b]'NewTricks'[/b]AsWell!!!)Hun[>]:)]
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 10:14:20 PM EDT
Learn from your old mistakes, and get out there and make new ones..[:D]
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 10:24:29 PM EDT
1) Go to an ATM 2) Withdraw $300 3) Proceed to the nearest titty bar
Link Posted: 10/14/2001 11:56:15 PM EDT
Dude, Sucks man, but revel in it. Listen to Sinatra's Angel Eyes and One for the Road over and over again. When you get tired of that put on Radiohead's Creep to just cycle over and over and over. Don't turn down pity sex BTW. Revel in the pain for at least a month. Then just get out there with your buddies and have fun. Enjoy your freedom, it is fleeting. God I miss being single sometimes. No hassles or bullshit. Want to go to the range? Freakin go to the range. No getting sucked into weddings and family events. Enjoy it cause it won't last long enough. Eventually you find a broad that makes you glad that one moved on. Till you get married and start asking all those "what if" questions. [;)] But for now, enjoy the pain and then enjoy the freedom. Just gotta have the right perspective.
Link Posted: 10/15/2001 12:15:03 AM EDT
Enigma, I know exactly where you're coming from!I dated this girlie for almost 2 years, she dumps me, then proceeds to get married on MY birthday! Blah, blah, blah, has a kid and gets divorced. Did I miss her? HELL YES! Did I take her back when she finally called me? Hell Yes! Did she dump me again? HELL YES!!!!! Did I learn anything? HELL YES!! I learned that no matter HOW much you 'think' you love someone, you prolly always will. Not that I've done much/any dating since her, but I've learned to at least cope with the Love/Hate relationship I have. BUT, it gets better with time. and I really HATE to make Ratters feel bad, But
Originally Posted By Ratters: God I miss being single sometimes. No hassles or bullshit.
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He's EXACTLY right! There is a LOT to be said for the single life! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!! The Freedom baby!!!
Link Posted: 10/15/2001 12:54:40 AM EDT
Just my 2 cents, but after the initial sting has worn off, remember the real purpose of dating : to find a long term compatible spouse. If it broke up, and broke up ugly, that is a sure sign of trouble ahead. Chances are you ignored trouble signs for some time, as these things usually don't happen out of the blue. Keep the dating period a bit shorter man. If she's obviously not the one, dump and move to the next. If you take too long, all the prospective "dates" will have 2 teenage kids LOL.
Link Posted: 10/16/2001 8:55:36 PM EDT
If you could not resolve your differences, just be grateful you did not rush into marriage and are not now facing a divorce. Try to analyze what went wrong with this relationship before getting involved with another woman. Time heals all wounds. Possum Killer ps Also get STD/HIV tests...
Link Posted: 10/16/2001 9:01:10 PM EDT
Broken heart? Why yes! LOL...in the middle of a divorce and today would have been my 7 year anniversary. Time does help and try to take something positive out of it. Be a better person for it. You can't change the past, but you can make sure the future is what you want it to be.
Link Posted: 10/16/2001 9:41:57 PM EDT
Like flat tires it is important these things happen to us. It teaches us how to deal with life. You learn how to change tires, you learn how to get over girls that weren't RIGHT for you. Rule ONE - DO NOT listen to the radio. Rule TWO - DO NOT drive by her house, call her number or hide in the bushes. Rule THREE - DO NOT start hanging out with people who just happen to know her. Take some time, enjoy the benefits of all you can do. For Example. Eat a TV dinner in your underwear with a AR on your lap. It sucks when a good one leaves but if she was right she wouldn't have left. So this ain't the one. Drinking will probably make you more depressed. Strip clubs will make you happy, but depressed when you go home alone. Hookers will also make you happy then depressed when they take the money and leave. The singles thing is iffy, you hook up you will be happy but it may be hard for you to hook up and if you don't you will be depressed. So just live your own life, when a cool female comes along do the right thing. But until then live for you on your own terms. Maybe a vacation or do something on your "always wanted to do" list.
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