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Posted: 4/18/2017 4:39:58 PM EDT
http://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/2017/04/18/millennials-continue-to-fail-at-relationships-with-cushioning.html
Millennials have found a new way to sabotage relationships. “Cushioning” is a newly coined dating term wherein a partner in a monogamous relationship still flirts with other people — so if their main relationship goes kaput, there’s a backup ready. “I was seeing someone for a few months and it was going well, but it felt like the dust had started to settle a bit,” Anna, a cushioner who didn’t want to disclose her full name for personal reasons, told the Tab. “I still liked him, but wasn’t entirely sure I wanted him to be my boyfriend and was in limbo. Instead of talk about it, the rational thing to do was to go back on Tinder and find some more boys to chat to, just in case the current one fell through.” Another cushioner, Lauren, said that she was still messaging lads while “hooking up” with her steady. “It was always awkward when their names would light up my phone while I was sleeping over [my boyfriend’s] place, but I felt like I needed them as an insurance policy,” she told the Tab. Meanwhile, Rosie believes cushioning lets her channel her neurosis on guys she’s not that interested in, while still keeping her cool with her main flame. “When I really like a guy, I find a ‘B team’ guy to keep on the side to channel my crazy,” Rosie told the Tab. “I go on dates with him before I go out with ‘A team,’ literally as a practice round.” Cushioning is the most recent term young people have come up with to articulate petty dating practices instead of communicating like rational adults. Previous trends have included “ghosting,” where people gradually stop responding to messages and then disappear on their romantic interests, and “breadcrumbing,” where singles continue to leave traces of hope for dating prospects that they’re not actually that interested in. F'ing millennials. |
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Most women are like monkeys, they won't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on another.
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This has been going on since tinder was some something you used to make a fire to roast the mastadon you just speared to death for supper.
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One of the very few pieces of advice my father gave me was the monkey-vine theory.
Picture a monkey swinging from vine to vine in the jungle. The monkey doesn"t let go of one vine until it has a firm grasp already on another vine. EDIT: beat, several times My father is a 1935 model who dated in the 1950s and again the 1970s once my parents got divorced. Sooooo...not much has changed in 45 to 65 years. |
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Meanwhile, Rosie believes cushioning lets her channel her neurosis on guys she’s not that interested in, while still keeping her cool with her main flame. “When I really like a guy, I find a ‘B team’ guy to keep on the side to channel my crazy,” Rosie told the Tab. “I go on dates with him before I go out with ‘A team,’ literally as a practice round.” View Quote Now there is a girl who will make some guy's life miserable someday. |
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But imagine the outrage if one of these women found out that their main man was doing the same thing to them.
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That's a bold strategy, nothing like going into a relationship expecting it to fail.
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I hope I die before my wife. She is the most level headed, loyal woman I've ever met. Doesn't play any games, seems to like having me around.
Couldn't imagine trying to find someone these days. 25 years in August. |
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yeah I don't think this is exactly a new idea. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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LOL! They invented a new word for women. Women get their security from relationships, so what better way to feel extra secure than by having many of them. No shame. |
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“It was always awkward when their names would light up my phone while I was sleeping over [my boyfriend’s] place, but I felt like I needed them as an insurance policy,” she told the Tab. View Quote |
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Millennials are so cute when they think they invented something. Like my son when he was two and discovered a light switch, you couldn't wipe that smile off his face if you tried.
Next thing you know they will be using booze during the courtship and mating process. |
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The girl I'm taking to right now has a boyfriend. I can only text her at certain hours.
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I have heard the term 'shingling' used before. It appears quite often in the book I Hate You Don't Leave Me with a usage that overlaps with 'cushioning' from the Fox News article.
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http://www.foxnews.com/lifestyle/2017/04/18/millennials-continue-to-fail-at-relationships-with-cushioning.html Millennials have found a new way to sabotage relationships. “Cushioning” is a newly coined dating term wherein a partner in a monogamous relationship still flirts with other people — so if their main relationship goes kaput, there’s a backup ready. “I was seeing someone for a few months and it was going well, but it felt like the dust had started to settle a bit,” Anna, a cushioner who didn’t want to disclose her full name for personal reasons, told the Tab. “I still liked him, but wasn’t entirely sure I wanted him to be my boyfriend and was in limbo. Instead of talk about it, the rational thing to do was to go back on Tinder and find some more boys to chat to, just in case the current one fell through.” Another cushioner, Lauren, said that she was still messaging lads while “hooking up” with her steady. “It was always awkward when their names would light up my phone while I was sleeping over [my boyfriend’s] place, but I felt like I needed them as an insurance policy,” she told the Tab. Meanwhile, Rosie believes cushioning lets her channel her neurosis on guys she’s not that interested in, while still keeping her cool with her main flame. “When I really like a guy, I find a ‘B team’ guy to keep on the side to channel my crazy,” Rosie told the Tab. “I go on dates with him before I go out with ‘A team,’ literally as a practice round.” Cushioning is the most recent term young people have come up with to articulate petty dating practices instead of communicating like rational adults. Previous trends have included “ghosting,” where people gradually stop responding to messages and then disappear on their romantic interests, and “breadcrumbing,” where singles continue to leave traces of hope for dating prospects that they’re not actually that interested in. F'ing millennials. View Quote |
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The girl I'm taking to right now has a boyfriend. I can only text her at certain hours. https://www.AR15.Com/media/mediaFiles/445571/-20170418-160219-190265.JPG View Quote |
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The author just have been living under a rock... View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes |
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Women have been branch swinging for millions of years. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes a women loves conditionally, it's just how they're wired as you've stated |
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