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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:28:03 AM EDT
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The answer is to leave her alone. You sound like a goddamn stalker. Move on. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:28:36 AM EDT
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Ask if she fucks for money Or at least head? I'll admit, this is the worst idea. Or is it the best idea... |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:32:58 AM EDT
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I'm a piece of shit person. I only ever care for only myself. As a result of this I have no one in my life I can rely on, no real friends only acquaintences that pass in and out of my life. I just have a lot of things to keep me company. ... Not sure what to gain from typing this out. Oh well. Most of the guys here are right, you are in the friend zone. But, I think that could be of benefit for you. Look for other companionship, but keep her on as a "friend." |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:37:37 AM EDT
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Most of the guys here are right, you are in the friend zone. But, I think that could be of benefit for you. Look for other companionship, but keep her on as a "friend." Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I'm a piece of shit person. I only ever care for only myself. As a result of this I have no one in my life I can rely on, no real friends only acquaintences that pass in and out of my life. I just have a lot of things to keep me company. ... Not sure what to gain from typing this out. Oh well. Most of the guys here are right, you are in the friend zone. But, I think that could be of benefit for you. Look for other companionship, but keep her on as a "friend." OP has gone way out of the Friend Zone. He's now in the "Stay away from me, you nut job!" zone. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:38:32 AM EDT
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Ask if she fucks for money Or at least head? I'll admit, this is the worst idea. Or is it the best idea... At this point it could go either way. Why not, he has nothing to lose at this point. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:39:12 AM EDT
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Sounds like the plot of a Thomas Hardy novel.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:39:18 AM EDT
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I texted her 'bestie' to ask if she was getting treated better Bang her bestie. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:39:59 AM EDT
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OP is going to land himself in this thread if he keeps it up:
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:40:40 AM EDT
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:46:02 AM EDT
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At this point it could go either way. Why not, he has nothing to lose at this point. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Ask if she fucks for money Or at least head? I'll admit, this is the worst idea. Or is it the best idea... At this point it could go either way. Why not, he has nothing to lose at this point. He could lose his job and be locked up in jail. Do you call that, "Nothing"? |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:48:51 AM EDT
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Alot of good advice from the cursed hive. Here is one more lesson you can take away from this experience. Never dip your pen in company ink.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:53:32 AM EDT
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Alot of good advice from the cursed hive. Here is one more lesson you can take away from this experience. Never dip your pen in company ink. He never got to dip his pen. The romantic interest was solely one-sided. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 2:57:40 AM EDT
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Sounds awkward and you sound like the king of the virgin hermits.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 3:06:43 AM EDT
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You pretended that you had no dick, she noticed that you acted as though you had no dick and decided that you were safe to use as a friend when needed.
Then you remembered that you had a dick and she noticed and evincing disregard for you she had her friend explain to you exactly what regard she holds you in. Walk away, she is a user and while you really like her, that is only worthwhile if she likes you back. No drama, no pity party, just put her solidly into the casual acquaintance zone and get busy exploring your options elsewhere. And don't be that guy she can confide in anymore duh. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 3:13:03 AM EDT
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Thats gotta be the most beta male blue pill orbiter story I have ever read.
Man the fuck up...next her...go to the gym. Stop with the thinking, start with the lifting, finish with the not giving a fuck and getting a life of your own that doesn't involve any of them. The fuck... 
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Posted: 8/25/2016 3:18:01 AM EDT
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Why would she date you? You already listen to all her problems and she doesn't have to fuck you.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 3:23:53 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Yup you need to cease all communication outside of official work stuff. Ignore her unless she talks to you directly then be short and to the point. Or you will be fired. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: About a year ago a woman started working at the place I've worked at for 5 years. She is the sister of the regional VP. Read this five times, slowly. You are in for a world of shit if you continue down this path. Yup you need to cease all communication outside of official work stuff. Ignore her unless she talks to you directly then be short and to the point. Or you will be fired. Ding ding ding. This is the most correct answer. Your put a target on your back with the text to her bestie. Quietly fade into the background and hopefully the target will fall off. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 3:44:25 AM EDT
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OPs next post is going to be all about how he lost his job and was escorted from the building after taking Burpeeking's advice.
Do yourself a favor OP, take a couple of vacation days somewhere fun, then come back and act like she doesn't exist. I recommend Nevada or Thailand... they have hookers. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 3:59:40 AM EDT
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You never had a chance to begin with if you were talking about feelings and deep emotional conversations. You were her emotional tampon. A gay best friend that wasn't gay. If you ask a woman out once and she says no, forget about her, she's already forgotten about you.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:05:54 AM EDT
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OPs next post is going to be all about how he lost his job and was escorted from the building after taking Burpeeking's advice. In a way, it's actually somewhat amusing, though. One stalker giving advice to another stalker, and encouraging him to keep stalking. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:17:03 AM EDT
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I'm 43. I'm not saying that it's always worked and that it's always been a success, and yes, before you ask there have been temporary orders of protection (I got my guns back, thank you judge), but I don't regret anything, and I don't live my life wondering "What if..." Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I don't like to be in conflict with other people, but I just have to come right out and say it; these other well intentioned gentlemen who are advising you to back off are wrong. Women want you to fight for them, they LOVE drama. Don't believe me? Got cable? Go to the Lifetime Movie Network or that other channel for women and look at all the movies and reality TV shows; they're all about the drama, and women eat that up. Take a cue from John Cusack and show up at her place holding a box radio over your head with that Peter Gabriel song blasting. Show up when she's out with friends and just kinda "pop in" on their dinner or whatever, and watch her gal pals turn green with envy. Stop beating around the bush with this jerk she's seeing, and go tell him who you are and what's about to go down. Do it when she's there. Odds are that he's a wimp if he's letting her down, and she'll see that when you stand toe to toe with him and tell him how a lady should be treated. You don't win by backing off, you win by stepping up. Take the advice of the 13 year old gentleman, he's done all the research. Tip your fucking fedora while you're at it.  I'm 43. I'm not saying that it's always worked and that it's always been a success, and yes, before you ask there have been temporary orders of protection (I got my guns back, thank you judge), but I don't regret anything, and I don't live my life wondering "What if..." 
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:34:17 AM EDT
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You didn't like her to begin with, she's divorced and she's a single mother.
Three signs and you chose to ignore them all. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:41:32 AM EDT
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You're in the friend zone. Go find someone else. If you strike a woman as too needy (trying to talk to her, text her, email her, leave messages, be in her presence), she'll reject you outright. Keep your distance and do meet other women. First off it's someone you work with. I'd never get involved with anyone at my place of employment unless they worked at a different facility, even than thats doubtful as I like to put as much distance between work and private life as possible, to the point where Im basically two different people. Secondly, the bolded part sounds accurate based on your O.P. and thats not necessarily a bad thing. I've been friend zoned by a couple of women at work, ones married, ones not but is pretty crazy and Im not interested in being anything but friends as a result of that (think "poke a hole in the condom" crazy) but I chat with them outside of work throughout the week, and have at times done stuff with them outside of work (mainly fitness oriented stuff like races, mud runs, cross fit classes, etc). Except it for what it is and be glad you have someone even at the friend level like that as it sounds like you've not put much effort into bringing people into your life. Also, being friends with a woman will often times allow you to meet their single friends. ETA: Ooops...re-read O.P. Dont be a stalker. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:47:29 AM EDT
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My father, a doctor, said, "Never deal with a women who is more than 2 years divorced... Actually, give it 5 years..."
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:48:42 AM EDT
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My father, a doctor, said, "Never deal with a women who is more than 2 years divorced... Actually, give it 5 years..."
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:50:34 AM EDT
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Ask if she fucks for money Or at least head? I'll admit, this is the worst idea. Or is it the best idea... At this point it could go either way. Why not, he has nothing to lose at this point. He could lose his job and be locked up in jail. Do you call that, "Nothing"? He's already barked up that tree. If you're going to be so fucking dumb you pursue a chick at your job, might as well go full retard and learn a lesson from it. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:56:09 AM EDT
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The answer is to leave her alone. You sound like a goddamn stalker. Move on. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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So I fully expect to be belittled and made fun of for this. However I feel like rambling. Beware TL;DR to follow : I'm a piece of shit person. I only ever care for only myself. As a result of this I have no one in my life I can rely on, no real friends only acquaintences that pass in and out of my life. I just have a lot of things to keep me company. About a year ago a woman started working at the place I've worked at for 5 years. She is the sister of the regional VP. I did not like her at all when I met her. However I was forced to deal with her on occasion and we made small talk to pass the time. Turns out she was recently divorced and a single mother, not exactly a mess I wanted to get involved with but something about her drew me in. We became friends, the most real friendship I have had in years. We would talk about anything and everything every day. I felt like she really understood me and she made me want to be a better person. Eventually the topic of men came up, she said that a family friend had come back into her life and was expressing interest but she didn't know if she was ready to date being less than a year removed from seperating from her Husband. At that point I had nothing more than confused friendship for her so I told her that she deserved to be happy and she should go for it. About a month later we had started talking less and when we did talk it was about her 'manfriend' and how he dissapointed her often. As an example he would make promises to bring her lunch to work and then flake out last minute. At this point I had realized my confusion was in fact feelings for her. One week she was complaining to me of a specifically bad argument with him and I decided to send her some flowers to cheer her up and to 'reveal' liked her. She was very appreciative, got teary eyed and gave me hugs. However she said that she was with him so she couldn't accept my feelings or gesture. That was almost four months ago now and while we still talk it grows farther apart. She still comes by to talk to me and I her. She calls me by a pet name when I see her and just a week ago I helped make decorations for her daughter's 3rd birthday party. Well in the last week I've gone and messed everything up worse. I texted her 'bestie' to ask if she was getting treated better by the guy than she was before since her and I hadn't talked about it in a while and everything went to hell. Her friend proclaims that I make her uncomfortable, that if I want to remain friends at all that I need to back off and not speak to her unless she speaks to me. So I haven't spoken to her since Friday other than a accidental hello in the hallway today. I've avoided her area at work and I haven't texted her. So now I sit here drinking Gin & Tonic contemplating anything I could have done fifferently. What could still be done, and why I should give up on her. Problem is that I can't give up on her. I love her too much to do that. Not sure what to gain from typing this out. Oh well. The answer is to leave her alone. You sound like a goddamn stalker. Move on. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 4:58:01 AM EDT
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Women always let you know if they're interested. Sometimes, it's of the hint variety, but they'll always let you know.
If you interact with a woman regularly, and have to wonder if she is interested, she isn't. It's okay to be "friends" with a woman. Because you then meet other women through her. If you meet them and hit it off and date, yay, bonus. Any woman who "only has guy friends" because "she can't stand how catty" other women are is letting you know you are her most recent candidate for friendzoneship. Bail. Because she's not going to have the "only guy friends" discussion with a dude she wants to have sex with. Because he doesn't care who her friends are. And she's only attracted to the type of men who don't care. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 5:02:22 AM EDT
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Dude. Listen up because I'm about to give you the most important advice you EVER got. First of all, go buy yourself the best new suit you can afford. Secondly, go to the local Stop and Shop and purchase the largest, freshest fruit plate or platter they have. Sometimes, it's best to have some in the produce department make it for you special. Then, at the stroke of midnight, go over to this fine lady's house wearing your new threads and present her with this bountiful plate of fruit. Make sure you surprise her by not calling first. Make sure you post back from her bedroom the next morning! 
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Posted: 8/25/2016 5:05:44 AM EDT
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Something about dipping a pen in the company ink.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 5:06:39 AM EDT
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I don't like to be in conflict with other people, but I just have to come right out and say it; these other well intentioned gentlemen who are advising you to back off are wrong. Women want you to fight for them, they LOVE drama. Don't believe me? Got cable? Go to the Lifetime Movie Network or that other channel for women and look at all the movies and reality TV shows; they're all about the drama, and women eat that up. Take a cue from John Cusack and show up at her place holding a box radio over your head with that Peter Gabriel song blasting. Show up when she's out with friends and just kinda "pop in" on their dinner or whatever, and watch her gal pals turn green with envy. Stop beating around the bush with this jerk she's seeing, and go tell him who you are and what's about to go down. Do it when she's there. Odds are that he's a wimp if he's letting her down, and she'll see that when you stand toe to toe with him and tell him how a lady should be treated. You don't win by backing off, you win by stepping up.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 6:41:16 AM EDT
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OP should take notice that the female co-worker is still with the guy she complains about. He should take a clue from that fact. Obviously she would rather be with a jerk (by her definition) than a "nice guy". OP is a beta and is being used. There is no win to be had in that situation. Better that he puts some distance between himself and a toxic female. And he should look in the mirror and ask himself why he finds himself attracted to those types. BTDT!
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Posted: 8/25/2016 6:44:24 AM EDT
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Honestly she's doing your a favor. You can't fix broken. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 6:52:30 AM EDT
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Borrowed from another thread
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Posted: 8/25/2016 6:56:22 AM EDT
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Honestly she's doing your a favor. You can't fix broken. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 6:58:43 AM EDT
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She was never interested in dating you. Give it up. Move on.
You don't love her, you're obsessed with her. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 6:59:59 AM EDT
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Ahhh High School
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:01:57 AM EDT
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OP, is she about a size 12?
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:03:03 AM EDT
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I don't like to be in conflict with other people, but I just have to come right out and say it; these other well intentioned gentlemen who are advising you to back off are wrong. Women want you to fight for them, they LOVE drama. Don't believe me? Got cable? Go to the Lifetime Movie Network or that other channel for women and look at all the movies and reality TV shows; they're all about the drama, and women eat that up. Take a cue from John Cusack and show up at her place holding a box radio over your head with that Peter Gabriel song blasting. Show up when she's out with friends and just kinda "pop in" on their dinner or whatever, and watch her gal pals turn green with envy. Stop beating around the bush with this jerk she's seeing, and go tell him who you are and what's about to go down. Do it when she's there. Odds are that he's a wimp if he's letting her down, and she'll see that when you stand toe to toe with him and tell him how a lady should be treated. You don't win by backing off, you win by stepping up. Put a baby in her RFN! |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:04:02 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: She was never interested in dating you. Give it up. Move on. You don't love her, you're obsessed with her. This. Visualize her on her knees with this guys dick in her mouth swallowing his joy juice. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:16:55 AM EDT
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You have to strike while the iron is hot. When you first meet a woman and there are sparks between you, it's like stumbling upon a carton of strawberries. There is a shelf life to them. You have to eat them before they go bad.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:22:05 AM EDT
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Why would she date you? You already listen to all her problems and she doesn't have to fuck you. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:27:15 AM EDT
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This. Visualize her on her knees with this guys dick in her mouth swallowing his joy juice. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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She was never interested in dating you. Give it up. Move on. You don't love her, you're obsessed with her. This. Visualize her on her knees with this guys dick in her mouth swallowing his joy juice. Baby batter. |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:34:14 AM EDT
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Move on. No more helping, no more listening...
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:34:30 AM EDT
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Everything has already been said. She was fine with you being her 'girlfriend', as soon as you revealed the cards, she was crying because she lost a girlfriend knowing that she never wanted to be romantically involved with you; not because it was a kind gesture.
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:42:24 AM EDT
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I don't like to be in conflict with other people, but I just have to come right out and say it; these other well intentioned gentlemen who are advising you to back off are wrong. Women want you to fight for them, they LOVE drama. Don't believe me? Got cable? Go to the Lifetime Movie Network or that other channel for women and look at all the movies and reality TV shows; they're all about the drama, and women eat that up. Take a cue from John Cusack and show up at her place holding a box radio over your head with that Peter Gabriel song blasting. Show up when she's out with friends and just kinda "pop in" on their dinner or whatever, and watch her gal pals turn green with envy. Stop beating around the bush with this jerk she's seeing, and go tell him who you are and what's about to go down. Do it when she's there. Odds are that he's a wimp if he's letting her down, and she'll see that when you stand toe to toe with him and tell him how a lady should be treated. You don't win by backing off, you win by stepping up. Not sute if that is either a really mean joke or the absolute worst advice ever 
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:43:41 AM EDT
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NEVER get involved with someone you work with!!
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:43:56 AM EDT
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You don't live your life based on fear. You want to be an old man and be looking back on your life with regrets about all the things you didn't do? Because living life based on fear is how you wind up being an old man looking back on your life with regrets about all the things you didn't do... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I don't like to be in conflict with other people, but I just have to come right out and say it; these other well intentioned gentlemen who are advising you to back off are wrong. Women want you to fight for them, they LOVE drama. Don't believe me? Got cable? Go to the Lifetime Movie Network or that other channel for women and look at all the movies and reality TV shows; they're all about the drama, and women eat that up. Take a cue from John Cusack and show up at her place holding a box radio over your head with that Peter Gabriel song blasting. Show up when she's out with friends and just kinda "pop in" on their dinner or whatever, and watch her gal pals turn green with envy. Stop beating around the bush with this jerk she's seeing, and go tell him who you are and what's about to go down. Do it when she's there. Odds are that he's a wimp if he's letting her down, and she'll see that when you stand toe to toe with him and tell him how a lady should be treated. You don't win by backing off, you win by stepping up. Oh brother...Yes! Do this and prove us all right. Give in to your stalking desires and create drama that will get you fired on top of making you look like an idiot. Especially if you hold a boom box over your head while you get your ass kicked by said BF. She's your coworker. You want to lose your job! Cause that's how you lose your job! You don't live your life based on fear. You want to be an old man and be looking back on your life with regrets about all the things you didn't do? Because living life based on fear is how you wind up being an old man looking back on your life with regrets about all the things you didn't do... Dude it's not fear. Nothing is less attractive to a woman than a needy guy stalking her |
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:48:17 AM EDT
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Holy shit... please do continue with your solid advice. Allow me to provide the soundtrack  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkwD5rQ-_d4
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I don't like to be in conflict with other people, but I just have to come right out and say it; these other well intentioned gentlemen who are advising you to back off are wrong. Women want you to fight for them, they LOVE drama. Don't believe me? Got cable? Go to the Lifetime Movie Network or that other channel for women and look at all the movies and reality TV shows; they're all about the drama, and women eat that up. Take a cue from John Cusack and show up at her place holding a box radio over your head with that Peter Gabriel song blasting. Show up when she's out with friends and just kinda "pop in" on their dinner or whatever, and watch her gal pals turn green with envy. Stop beating around the bush with this jerk she's seeing, and go tell him who you are and what's about to go down. Do it when she's there. Odds are that he's a wimp if he's letting her down, and she'll see that when you stand toe to toe with him and tell him how a lady should be treated. You don't win by backing off, you win by stepping up. Take the advice of the 13 year old gentleman, he's done all the research. Tip your fucking fedora while you're at it. I'm 43. I'm not saying that it's always worked and that it's always been a success, and yes, before you ask there have been temporary orders of protection (I got my guns back, thank you judge), but I don't regret anything, and I don't live my life wondering "What if..." Holy shit... please do continue with your solid advice. Allow me to provide the soundtrack https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkwD5rQ-_d4
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Posted: 8/25/2016 7:49:09 AM EDT
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You're in the friend zone. Go find someone else. If you strike a woman as too needy (trying to talk to her, text her, email her, leave messages, be in her presence), she'll reject you outright. Keep your distance and do meet other women. FPNI |
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