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Might as well throw this in here..

I'm currently getting the silent treatment for no reason that I can tell after a series of fun dates.  The last communication was a normal text convo about her new cable tv service, that she initiated.  Then radio silence.  (No stalker texts from me, etc). My question, since I am going to be strong and not text or call her, is how should I treat her if she does text or call?  Act like no big deal?  Pretend the silence didn't happen?  Bring it up and ask wtf?  Get pissed and try to make her feel like an asshole?

What would you youngsters do in this situation?

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Might as well throw this in here..

I'm currently getting the silent treatment for no reason that I can tell after a series of fun dates.  The last communication was a normal text convo about her new cable tv service, that she initiated.  Then radio silence.  (No stalker texts from me, etc). My question, since I am going to be strong and not text or call her, is how should I treat her if she does text or call?  Act like no big deal?  Pretend the silence didn't happen?  Bring it up and ask wtf?  Get pissed and try to make her feel like an asshole?

What would you youngsters do in this situation?

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What advice do you have for guys like me, who can't even get women to like him on Tinder, Eharmony, OKCupid, POF, Zoosk, etc? It seems like women look at my picture, and just go "ugh! no thanks!"

I'm lucky if I go on 3 dates a year.

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I don't date anymore (married again), but when I was dating one of the first topics was politics followed by gun ownership.

Those two things were a serious indicator to me of whether or not there was going to be a second date, even if she hadn't decided to go on a second date.

The gun thing was usually first date for me.   You'd be surprised how many women said "oh, cool, I didn't know you were carrying" and still ended up home with me on the next or third date (I don't do first date sex, w/e if you think that's unmanly).

YMMV

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-work out 3 times a week
-brush your teeth and get hair cuts frequently (if you have hair left)
-secure a good job
-put up a picture holding an adorable animal.

Profit!

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I compiled this last night in a different thread and it got me thinking. ARFcom has had an influx of recently single members whether by their doing or the other persons doing. Some have said,"Oh well!!" and moved on to the next person and other have followed a different path. Well I am here to post what I have learned through trial and error and the lessons I learned early on years ago about dating women in general. But how does DD know so much yet been married for almost 9 years you say???!!???, well I learned these all before marriage and I am the unofficial go to guy among my single friends for the rules and the tricks to dating/fucking 2 or more women at a time and neither finding out about the other. I'm a damn pro and if I truly wanted to, could easily go behind my wife's back, but she is a great catch and I prefer to be with her as opposed to a random chick for a couple of fuck sessions and then onto the next. So sit back, take notes and hope this helps those who need it.

Follow these rules while you're easing back into dating or if you have no clue on how to date online or in real life.....
(Not in any specific order and other Masters, please feel free to add to what I have come up with so far)

1. Call once after a couple days....if she doesn't answer when she isn't supposed to be at work....don't call again and forget her.

2. However long between texts she takes to get back to you....that's when you return a text.

3. Don't ever offer your number if you're online dating. Wait until they ask or if they give it to you.

4. ALWAYS refer to them as a woman....not chic, hooker, babe, hottie...you get my drift.

5.First date should be lunch or early afternoon. Then promptly leave after 2-3 hours and for love of god, don't call or text until the next day or day after.

6.If your past girlfriends/wife comes up in conversation.....don't tear the ex up...say that she screwed up but took 2 to screw it up.....shows you are not bitter and you take responsibility for your actions.....regardless of the responsibility of your actions part,who cares if you really do or not as you're trying to get tail and not your next wife.

7.Don't talk about your impending divorce. Since you're not going to marry the chick you are trying to fuck, anytime soon, that doesn't need to be brought up. Again your objective isn't to jump into another marriage/long term thing right now.  

8.Take all the pics of your ex off your phone. Change the pet/nickname of your ex on your phone to her name.  

9.Let the new chick pick out things to do on first few dates. Be assertive and confident in whatever they suggest to show you're a strong male though.

10.Stay as positive as possible and don't get into heavy deep and usually negative discussions on life,family,deaths or exes. Keep things fun and light.

11.Don't text or call everyday. Coin toss on the night you last talked making it 1 or 2 days until you initiate a text or call. This shows you have a life but are still available. Obviously return calls and texts. Don't answer the first time she calls on some days too this is same principle.

12.Don't be afraid to pretend to like some bullshit they are into. Also DONOT bring up guns or politics until you know for sure she will not flip out and also they do not want to talk about current news events. They could give a shit less, do engage conversation if they bring up current events, but keep it short and don't go I to Arfcom style depth as to why this or that is the root cause etc.

I can go on but enough for now. Good luck and hope this helps.

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Basics:
Have a job
Have a car
Have a place to live (not in your parent's basement)
Decent hygiene
Have a SMARTPHONE (this is the best dating tool ever invented)

Next
Keep yourself in shape.

ETC, ETC.

Pretty soon you will meeting up with women you thought you could never land...
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I could go on and on... just a start... this works..

You consider EVERY date an ADVENTURE and learning experience!

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I don't agree with #1 or #2 everyone has a life. If you think anyone is sitting by the phone waiting for you to call you are crazy.

ETA: And I thought the whole purpose of texting was so the recipient could reply when it was convenient versus having to stop what they were doing to answer the phone.

And on top of that not everyone has a nice quiet job. Half the time I never hear my phone ring.

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I agree with most of your points, they are lessons I learned as well.  However, 2, 9, and 12 I disagree with.

12.  Is a mixed message.  I agree with "don't pretend to like something because she does", a confident man should stand up for himself.  But then you go on and tell that man neuter himself and not talk guns or anything else that might be offensive.  Now sure, if all your intentions are is a one night hit it and quit it session, that is good advice.  But for dating advice it will cause problems.  If the woman hates guns, then wouldn't you want to find out sooner than later?  Why go through the hassle and expense of multiple dates only to find out you are completely incompatible?  I put going to the gun range as a possible first date in my profile.  The girl is either into who I am as a person or they can move on.  #12 should be "don't pretend to like something just because she does and don't pretend to be someone other than who you really are."  That needs to tie into being strong, assertive, and confident.

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What advice do you have for guys like me, who can't even get women to like him on Tinder, Eharmony, OKCupid, POF, Zoosk, etc? It seems like women look at my picture, and just go "ugh! no thanks!"

I'm lucky if I go on 3 dates a year.

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My social life? I am a single dad that basically lost everything to vindictive women. Used to have my own business that dealt with the rich and famous makeing 100k+

Now I just have an job that deals with automotive so 99.8% of the people I deal with are men making less than 40k. Not really a place to meet women, Live on less then half of what I used to.

Don't drive fancy cars or a have a fancy place to live but I do keep them clean and neat.



Five years ago I basically had no where to live with a 11 year old boy in tow. Spent 2 years trying to get just the basics put back together and just make a living and became pretty much a hermit. Did not make dating any priority at all although I was on couple free dating site and rare got a contact or a 1st meet. The meager amount that I did get were always fail. Not like I really cared anyway. I was 260 lbs and unhappy and had spent most of my life with crappy sex life and none for those 3.



I decided I was going to change that. I started to get myself in shape dieting and walking every day with one goal in mind... I am going to have the best sex life ever!

I thought about this every step I took and every meal I cut back on. 5 months later I was 175 lbs. That was a start.



I experimented with changing my profile. ill give you guys some more tips when I have time.

You have to remember a few things...

Be Happy no matter what.

The only person you can control is yourself.

Life is all about choices... yours and theirs..

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