Ever seen a female 'best man?'

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Posted: 9/21/2014 1:25:40 AM EDT

Thought about this after being in a wedding recently where this was the case. Everything seemed fine and mostly normal, but it was kinda strange.

Would it be disrespectful to your bride if you wanted to have a female best woman?

My best friend is a female, but I wouldn't even consider asking her to be my best man (heh). Just seems weird.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:32:51 AM EDT

[#1]

If she's your best friend, I think she should play a significant role in your marriage. I think it's OK.

EDT: Your wedding, not your marriage.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:36:20 AM EDT

[#2]

Ive seen a male bridesmaid.
Later ended up, oddly fathering a child with the bride.
Still together though.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:36:23 AM EDT

[#3]

Would you want a male maiden of honor

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:40:04 AM EDT

[#4]

My sister had a male bridesmaid. Gay friend.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:42:17 AM EDT

[#5]

Best "Man" at my wedding was a woman. Life long friend.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:44:14 AM EDT

[#6]

Yeah, I saw one at a wedding about 3 months ago.
My wedding.

eta: while the major reason was because she is my best friend, I do have to admit part of it was to avoid having to choose between my two brothers.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:45:03 AM EDT

[#7]

yea, a girl I know was the best man at her friends wedding not too long ago

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:45:22 AM EDT

[#8]

I had two "grooms-women."

Knew one of them since I was in 7th grade and the other is basically my sister.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:46:57 AM EDT

[#9]

Pics?

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:47:01 AM EDT

[#10]

One of my good friend's husband to be had his female paramedic partner as his "best man". Especially since most attendees were cops, firefighters, nurses, and paramedics, nobody seemed put off by this at all.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:48:48 AM EDT

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I wouldn't care.

If I did, I wouldn't be getting married.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:50:19 AM EDT

[#12]

Yes, I have.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:52:25 AM EDT

[#13]

My wife's maiden of honor was her brother.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:53:25 AM EDT

[#14]

At a buddy's wedding two weeks ago. Best "man" was the groom's sister.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:55:13 AM EDT

[#15]

at her wedding, my sister asked me to stand for her. felt a little weird, but it was important to her, so i immediately dubbed myself the 'male of honor' and just had fun with it.

she'll be in my groom's party...if i can ever find a woman who will put up with my shit.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:55:27 AM EDT

[#16]

Maybe it just seems a little weird because I haven't really seen it personally. If I were getting married, I'd like my best friend to be involved in some way.. It just never occurred to me to ask her to be my best woman.

Maybe cause I don't sit around thinking about getting married.

Posted: 9/21/2014 1:57:25 AM EDT

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Maybe it just seems a little weird because I haven't really seen it personally. If I were getting married, I'd like my best friend to be involved in some way.. It just never occurred to me to ask her to be my best woman.

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Maybe cause I don't sit around thinking about getting married.

might be a bit weird for the bride to see. i'm sure there are a lot of women who are confident enough to deal with it, but things like that can play on insecurities.

Posted: 9/21/2014 2:16:02 AM EDT

[#18]

My sister was my best (wo)man.

Posted: 9/21/2014 2:34:39 AM EDT

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Posted: 9/21/2014 2:36:43 AM EDT

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Later ended up, oddly fathering a child with the bride.
Still together though.

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I guess he was the best man.

Posted: 9/21/2014 2:36:57 AM EDT

[#21]

I was in a wedding that had a gay guy on the brides side. They didn't really give him a title. Seemed like an OK stand up guy and his partner or whatever they call them didn't attend.

He wore a tux just like us and took pictures with us but stood on the brides side. She was really happy nobody bitched about it.

Posted: 9/21/2014 2:42:28 AM EDT

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Later ended up, oddly fathering a child with the bride.
Still together though.

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my ex wifes friends wedding.
The bride had a guy in her wedding party. I though it was weird as fuck.
But everyone said they were just close friends.
Turns out the bride was pregnant by that guy and had the baby months later.
On the wedding night she got the groom drunk as fuck and had him, ummm, finish thinking she could pass the baby off as his.
Didnt work.
It was a full on drama story. I just laughed my ass off as it played out over the year or so.

Posted: 9/21/2014 2:44:39 AM EDT

[#23]

I had a "groom's-woman" in my wedding. She was, and is, my best friend besides my wife. There was no strangeness or awkwardness about it.

Posted: 9/21/2014 2:47:26 AM EDT

[#24]

I have seen a male maid of honor. It wasn't weird. A lot of his (groom's) family assumed that he wanted to bang her and would throw a fit during the ceremony, but he's the guy that set the two of them up. Just a good dude, had been friends with the girl forever.

Posted: 9/21/2014 3:21:22 AM EDT

[#25]

But the best man has to marry the bride if the groom doesn't show up. Do your fiance and "friend" lean that way?

Posted: 9/21/2014 7:44:38 AM EDT

[#26]

I was the "Best" Man at a nudist wedding once.

Posted: 9/21/2014 7:48:20 AM EDT

[#27]

In college I dated a girl who had been "Best Man" at a friend's wedding.

She was an odd chick.

Posted: 9/21/2014 7:50:15 AM EDT

[#28]

I stood up at my sister's wedding as her "best man" along with her best friend from college and her lifelong girl friend.

If I am to get married, my sister will be my "best person" and I have a couple of college friends that I've known for a long time I'd ask to be groomsmen.

Posted: 9/21/2014 7:54:57 AM EDT

[#29]

Make sure you're doing it because they should actually be at your right hand during your wedding ceremony, and not because you think it's cute and special and will be fun to have someone of the wrong sex up there.

When my wife and I got married, my wife's younger sister was her maid of honor.

When the sister got married, my wife expected to be her matron of honor, but instead her sister picked a gay male friend of her fiance's. He was apparently so important to her and such a big part of her life that he should displace my wife as matron of honor, but he was also so insignificant that no one else in the family had ever met or even heard of him before then, and none of us has seen him since.

Simply put, she thought it would be cute and special and fun to have a guy as her "man of honor," and she never gave a thought to why you actually ask someone to do that job.

Posted: 9/21/2014 8:14:55 AM EDT

[#30]

Neighbors son married a girl whose first dance after the wedding ceremony was with her older brother. He was the only solid rock in her chaotic childhood. Her father had divorced her mother who was unstable and left the kids with her. Her older brother stepped up to the plate and was the "man" in her life who got her through it. Before the dance she went to the mike and explained her reasons. Her "father" got the second dance.

Posted: 9/21/2014 8:23:55 AM EDT

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no pics, this thread suxxors

Posted: 9/21/2014 8:23:57 AM EDT

[#32]

All ceremonies are creepy and uncomfortable.

Posted: 9/21/2014 8:31:42 AM EDT

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Suffered through the ugly brides maid dress syndrome have you? I agree with this sentiment but the ceremonial aspect of some events does not bother me as much as my participation in them

Posted: 9/21/2014 9:06:59 AM EDT

[#34]

A female acquaintance wanted her two male friends to participate in her wedding. Rather than make them "bride's men", she had one read a passage from the Bible and the other a short poem during the ceremony. Served the purpose nicely, I thought.

Posted: 9/21/2014 9:31:35 AM EDT

[#35]

When my bil got married, his best man was my wife and the maid of honor was the bride's brother.

Posted: 9/21/2014 9:38:38 AM EDT

[#36]

Girls will be boys and boys will be girls

It's a mixed up muddled up shook up world except for Lola

La-la-la-la Lola

Posted: 9/21/2014 9:40:51 AM EDT

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Ive seen a male bridesmaid.

Later ended up, oddly fathering a child with the bride.

Still together though.

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I have not yet had enough coffee for this post to make sense.

Posted: 9/21/2014 9:51:48 AM EDT

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Ive seen a male bridesmaid.
Later ended up, oddly fathering a child with the bride.
Still together though.

I have not yet had enough coffee for this post to make sense.

I think you'd have to be drinking Irish Coffee for it to make sense eventually.
He does explain it, though.

Posted: 9/21/2014 9:59:19 AM EDT

[#39]

I haven't, but I haven't been to many weddings. Guess it makes sense though.

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:05:30 AM EDT

[#40]

If she's your best friend why not marry her instead?

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:26:45 AM EDT

[#41]

I was my sister's "wedding bitch".......anything her 2 brides maids didn't wanna do I got stuck with, along with the "look" from Mom if I balked at doing it. That included being best man for the groom. I guess I had actually spoke to him 3 or 4 times before that.

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:33:31 AM EDT

[#42]

Screw the rules, it's YOUR wedding . . . . 'staff' it however you and your spouse see fit . There have been some crazy unconventional happenings at weddings over the years some good , some bad .Who's to say it's right or wrong?

Do what ever makes the two of you happy

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:37:10 AM EDT

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The idea of spouses being "best friends" is new fangled. Some have said it's contributing to the high divorce rates.

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:38:33 AM EDT

[#44]

I got nothing.

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:40:39 AM EDT

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Posted: 9/21/2014 10:46:05 AM EDT

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Because her husband wouldn't approve.

Just because you're best friends doesn't mean there are romantic feelings involved.

Posted: 9/21/2014 10:52:44 AM EDT

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My daughter made many friends at University, her closest friend there, and still, is a man. They are like brother and sister. No he's not gay. She chose to have him and her actual brother rather than bridesmaids because she is so close to both of them, and has no sisters. She also chose to have her closest friends at her wedding, rather than a bunch of crusty relations who last saw her when she was a baby and would likely never see her again. It was the happiest, most fun wedding I've ever been to...

Posted: 9/21/2014 11:22:03 AM EDT

[#48]

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If she's your best friend, I think she should play a significant role in your marriage. I think it's OK.

EDT: Your wedding, not your marriage.

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Your best friend should absolutely play a significant role in the marriage; that person is generally the one you are marrying.