Is she a stay at home mom?
The spouse who stays at home should be doing that shit while the one who works outside the house is at work. Even stay at home dads. Both people working to take care of shit. Both people saving their time together to relax and have fun because they want to be together.
If she is a stay at home mom she doesn't want to spend time with you or she's fucking the mailman/ poolboy/guy next door mixing meth instead of taking care of the house.
If she works outside the home then she's showing you she expects the housework to be divided up. Either split the household chores or do something manly, if you're hung up on housework being women work, like go outside and cut the grass, split some logs, do some landscaping, change the oil in the vehicles, rotate the tires, or give them a tune up or something.