Originally Posted By OverScoped:


I dont take kindly to grown men touching children.
I dont take kindly to grown men taking advantage of older ladies.
The guy is a weirdo.
weirdo's need broken.

Originally Posted By shade_1313:

<SNIP>

He's a happy, healthy 2 year old, now, and is the joy of my life.

Lord knows how he got it, but somehow the lil fella had gotten salmonella at that very young age.

ETA: He's had a cold for the last couple of days, running a bit over 100 last night, and not acting at all like usual, but this morning his temperature is down, and he's acting much more normal.

Originally Posted By iteotwawki:
We took Elijah in to see the doctor today, explained everything, and he sent us over to the hospital for X-rays. Elijah would NOT sit still so this wound up being a humongous deal where they lightly sedated him via IV, took the X-rays and then had to do a CT scan because there was an anomaly on the X-ray. I tell ya, guys, my heart just about dropped into my gut thinking I had let him spend the night on an injured arm/shoulder.

The good news is that he is okay. If anything, the shoulder may be sprained. He let out a holler when the doctor pressed into his armpit with his fingers and against his shoulder with his thumb. We can use a sling, but the doctor said he probably would not leave it on and he won't move it more than he has to if it's hurting him. This is true. It's his left arm and shoulder, he's left handed, but he's using his right arm for his sippy cup and to play with stuff.

He's a very sleepy little boy and conked out on the way home from the hospital and is STILL sleeping peacefully. I may have to turn in my man-card, but I straight up got a lump in my throat and had to grit my teeth to keep from crying when they were putting in the IV. He kept looking at me and saying, "Da-yee, stop!"

We did stop afterwards and speak with our pal at the Sheriff's office. He made copies of the hospital's discharge instructions and stated he would follow up with my aunt to see if she would give up the guy's information. We do not wish to seek any charges at this time (I know that will blow a lot of minds) because the douchebag is from out of state (information via my cousin) and was on the first flight he could get out of here. Our insurance covered everything at the hospital and I really don't want to deal with the dickhead any further. Eli's okay.

My aunt apparently came to the house while we were at the hospital and left a note for us to call her. I haven't. I'm still trying to decide how to handle her. The non-reaction and how she up and left with him doesn't sit well with me. My wife says she was probably stunned and just wanted to get him out of here as quickly as possible.

Like I said in my original post ––- I love my aunt dearly. She has always been there for me and has NEVER let me down before. I'll call her in a while and encourage her to give the police the guy's name. I think how I react will depend greatly on whether or not she cooperates with that information.

Thanks for all the advice, support, and even the criticism. A smart man learns just as much through people who disagree with him and I thank you for taking the time to share your point of view.

Well, I made it through my first big challenge as a dad. If that's the worst thing I go through ––- I'm okay with that. Whew.

Originally Posted By TheWenisPrinkle:


So these are the kind of posts that earns one a place among the site staff.


Jeezzz

Originally Posted By TheWenisPrinkle:
So these are the kind of posts that earns one a place among the site staff.


Jeezzz

Originally Posted By JRCmx:


If anyone did that to my daughter I would not have waited till anyone left the room.
I would have destroyed him in front of all in the room.
The cops would have had to come and bring a snow shovel to pick up what would no doubt would be left of him on the floor and walls.
1 to protect my child
2 because he is douchbag and need it
3 so my child understands that it is my job to defend her and that it is her god given right to do so also.

Originally Posted By Bama-Shooter:


It's a made up term.


It does not in anyway take away from the shitbag racist who hurt Elijah.

Personally I would pursue criminal charges.

Originally Posted By gitarmac:
Where's the pic of little Elijah, did I miss it? I scanned all the threads. . . .


When I read the story I thought of those articles where a "boyfriend" commits some atrocity to a baby. Might be that guy someday, but who knows, maybe you knocked some sense into him.

Originally Posted By HKUSP45C:


Seems like bad advice to suggest the aggressor call the cops and confess.

Originally Posted By TheWenisPrinkle:



And we agree about charges.

It's a made up term?

Like....

German American
Italian American
Irish American
Japanese American
Mexican American
Or even


Native American.

Originally Posted By JellyBelly:


As a guy whose parents did NOTHING to protect me from assholes, I can say that my having demonstrated a willingness to fight for my kid has made him a better man than I am.

Originally Posted By 74AKZ:


Well for one thing regardless whether or not he physically disciplines his kid or plans to in the future doesn't make it right for someone else with no standing of authority to do so.

Originally Posted By fjleiter:
Anyone can be a dad, today you became a father!

The good news is that he is okay

Originally Posted By WayneD:


Some people react like that. Give her a second chance, she did good putting his ass on the road. I'm glad everything is working out OK.

Originally Posted By Bama-Shooter:


It's a made up term.


It does not in anyway take away from the shitbag racist who hurt Elijah.

Personally I would pursue criminal charges.

Originally Posted By Lightning1960:
Is he still picking his nose ?

Originally Posted By iteotwawki:
My aunt and I are (or possibly were) incredibly close. I love(d) her very much.

My wife and I adopted an African American infant fourteen months ago. He was a day old then. My wife and I are white as ghosts, but race was never and is not an issue for us. That's our son and we love him madly because we waited so long to find him. He was made for us and I do not doubt that one bit.

Today my aunt and her "boyfriend" visited. I put it in quotes because he's only about 25 and she's pushing 60.

Our son has discovered the joys of digging for gold in his nose. We correct him each time he does it and are trying to break that habit before it gets any worse. Well, Mr. "Boyfriend" took is upon himself to grab my son and smack him on the hand and leg for picking his nose. He did this with no warning, no verbal correction (not that he should have done that either), and this was the first time the "boyfriend" had met any of us.

It should be noted that Elijah (son) was crying so hard from being smacked that he kept losing his breath. My wife had to take him into the bathroom and keep wetting his little face with a cloth to try to calm him down.

Somewhere over the course of me yelling at "Boyfriend" to never touch my son again . . . he made an incredibly derogatory statement about race and how you have to break "them" while they're young. I don't think I've ever been angrier. My ears were ringing, every muscle was rigid, and I probably had blood pressure at stroke level. It was like a red haze blurred my vision and I was on him before I even realized I was doing it. I shoved him out the back screen door and he threw a punch at me, clipping my ear. I introduced him to what it's like picking on someone your own size. Suffice it to say . . . I discovered why he would hit on a baby. He is a puny and worthless piece of shit.

I wanted to press charges but they left (practically running) when my wife went to retrieve the phone to call 911. Don't know the guy's last name. No clue where he lives, works, or anything else. I'm not certain my aunt would provide that information either. I'm mad as hell that she just sat there like a useless boar hog tit and didn't say a damn thing. SHE should have been kicking his ass too as far as I'm concerned.

I'm still attempting to calm down.

I can't decide if I should be ashamed of myself for going straight into boiling mad or proud that my fatherly instinct and need to protect is very much intact.

All I know is that someone laying a hand on my child flipped a switch in me that has never been flipped before.

God, I'm still mad as hell.


ETA: I wanted to clarify a few points ––- in my anger and haste to get this out I left out a few things:

This asshole first slapped Elijah on the hand and then pulled him up by that hand and hit him even harder on the leg while he was dangling a few feet off the floor. Asshole didn't strike Eli's butt. He hit him on the outside of his thigh on his bare skin. It was THAT hit that caused me to swell up three of my knuckles on the douchebag's face and play kickball with his ribs.

As for the racial slur (I couldn't force myself to type it initially):

His actual words were (according to my wife and my hazy red memory), "You gotta be a co*n dog, Daddy, when you got little co*ns like this running around. Otherwise they'll become porch m*nkey thugs. You have to teach THEM n*glets while they're young."


THE DAY AFTER UPDATE:

We took Elijah in to see the doctor today, explained everything, and he sent us over to the hospital for X-rays. Elijah would NOT sit still so this wound up being a humongous deal where they lightly sedated him via IV, took the X-rays and then had to do a CT scan because there was an anomaly on the X-ray. I tell ya, guys, my heart just about dropped into my gut thinking I had let him spend the night on an injured arm/shoulder.

The good news is that he is okay. If anything, the shoulder may be sprained. He let out a holler when the doctor pressed into his armpit with his fingers and against his shoulder with his thumb. We can use a sling, but the doctor said he probably would not leave it on and he won't move it more than he has to if it's hurting him. This is true. It's his left arm and shoulder, he's left handed, but he's using his right arm for his sippy cup and to play with stuff.

He's a very sleepy little boy and conked out on the way home from the hospital and is STILL sleeping peacefully. I may have to turn in my man-card, but I straight up got a lump in my throat and had to grit my teeth to keep from crying when they were putting in the IV. He kept looking at me and saying, "Da-yee, stop!"

We did stop afterwards and speak with our pal at the Sheriff's office. He made copies of the hospital's discharge instructions and stated he would follow up with my aunt to see if she would give up the guy's information. We do not wish to seek any charges at this time (I know that will blow a lot of minds) because the douchebag is from out of state (information via my cousin) and was on the first flight he could get out of here. Our insurance covered everything at the hospital and I really don't want to deal with the dickhead any further. Eli's okay.

My aunt apparently came to the house while we were at the hospital and left a note for us to call her. I haven't. I'm still trying to decide how to handle her. The non-reaction and how she up and left with him doesn't sit well with me. My wife says she was probably stunned and just wanted to get him out of here as quickly as possible.

Like I said in my original post ––- I love my aunt dearly. She has always been there for me and has NEVER let me down before. I'll call her in a while and encourage her to give the police the guy's name. I think how I react will depend greatly on whether or not she cooperates with that information.

Thanks for all the advice, support, and even the criticism. A smart man learns just as much through people who disagree with him and I thank you for taking the time to share your point of view.

Well, I made it through my first big challenge as a dad. If that's the worst thing I go through ––- I'm okay with that. Whew.