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Posted: 5/15/2012 1:24:37 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
Originally Posted By Chromekilla:
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
I recently joined a dating web site a month or so back, and there's this girl that I went out with a couple times before we hit this stretch where our schedules just were not jiving. It's mostly an issue on her end as she works two jobs, but me having two drill weekends in three weeks didn't help. There's warning signs that either she's not really interested in dating or that she might friend zone me, but I'm not ready to kick her to the curb just yet. Long story short, we're supposed to get together tonight. The plan was for me to meet her at her new place after she gets of work, she provides dinner, and I assemble a bookshelf for her. I was discussing our plans with a close family friend (female), and the conversation goes: Her- "Are you sleeping together yet?" Me- "No." Her- "That's not how that works." Me- "What do you mean?" Her- "If you're not sleeping together, she shouldn't be asking you to do that." I got a text from her in the middle of the night saying the that she and her roommate have food poisoning, so none of this may happen anyways. I was just wondering where y'all stand on this. It depends if the dinner value is equal to the value of your time for assembling the bookshelf. If you can cook like I can then it may not pencil out. Based on the food alone, it doesn't. Both of her parents are chefs, and she claims she can cook. However, plan of the evening was pizza, and I can cook. This discussion appears to be moot as I haven't heard from her. I think I'll be buying some beer and CHOKING some chicken. Fixed it for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
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WhyTanFox
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Posted: 5/15/2012 2:00:26 PM
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Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
The girl from school sent me a text: "Sorry if I seemed odd earlier, your question threw me off guard" [div]I'm leaning towards Jane's hypothesis. what was the question asked? "Do you want to come to my pants party?" |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 4:46:52 PM
If she was thinking of you as dating material, she would not have been thrown off guard by you asking her on a date. Eject and find someone who is anticipating you asking them out.
Originally Posted By Bassgasm: The girl from school sent me a text: "Sorry if I seemed odd earlier, your question threw me off guard" I'm leaning towards Jane's hypothesis. |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 4:57:59 PM
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Posted: 5/15/2012 4:58:21 PM
Originally Posted By NinerMaine:
If she was thinking of you as dating material, she would not have been thrown off guard by you asking her on a date. Eject and find someone who is anticipating you asking them out. Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
The girl from school sent me a text: "Sorry if I seemed odd earlier, your question threw me off guard" I'm leaning towards Jane's hypothesis. There's some truth to that, but 90% of college girls are filled with the crazy. It has many causes, including but not limited to: Daddy Problems STD Scare Just devirginized without emotion Birth Control Hormones kicking in Pot You never really know what they're gonna say, but you can usually predict how they feel based on their response. When I was in college, I went by the 1:20 rule. Out of every 20 girls I approached, one of those would turn into a decent relationship. It could be 1, it could be 5, it could be 20, but somewhere along the lines I'd meet someone cool. After a few times, I got better and my ratio came closer together, but in college towns that's pretty much what to expect. |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:14:24 PM
Dick in a Companion Cube? |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:23:26 PM
Originally Posted By CWO: I'm calling BS on the food poisoning. While assembling some shelves doesn't necessarily doing the beast with two backs - if you aren't invited to sleep over real soon - then she is toast. Just to be safe - use short screws on the shelves. You can replace them later if you stick around. Now that, my friends, is pure genius  |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:34:59 PM
Originally Posted By subjectofcalifornia:
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
Originally Posted By Chromekilla:
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
I recently joined a dating web site a month or so back, and there's this girl that I went out with a couple times before we hit this stretch where our schedules just were not jiving. It's mostly an issue on her end as she works two jobs, but me having two drill weekends in three weeks didn't help. There's warning signs that either she's not really interested in dating or that she might friend zone me, but I'm not ready to kick her to the curb just yet. Long story short, we're supposed to get together tonight. The plan was for me to meet her at her new place after she gets of work, she provides dinner, and I assemble a bookshelf for her. I was discussing our plans with a close family friend (female), and the conversation goes: Her- "Are you sleeping together yet?" Me- "No." Her- "That's not how that works." Me- "What do you mean?" Her- "If you're not sleeping together, she shouldn't be asking you to do that." I got a text from her in the middle of the night saying the that she and her roommate have food poisoning, so none of this may happen anyways. I was just wondering where y'all stand on this. It depends if the dinner value is equal to the value of your time for assembling the bookshelf. If you can cook like I can then it may not pencil out. Based on the food alone, it doesn't. Both of her parents are chefs, and she claims she can cook. However, plan of the evening was pizza, and I can cook. This discussion appears to be moot as I haven't heard from her. I think I'll be buying some beer and CHOKING some chicken. Fixed it for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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pale_pony
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:39:25 PM
[Last Edit: 5/15/2012 10:40:44 PM by pale_pony]
Originally Posted By BigeasySnow:
I would not let this woman have my sons. Damn, that's pretty profound. |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 10:44:26 PM
Originally Posted By dsteelman:
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
I recently joined a dating web site a month or so back, and there's this girl that I went out with a couple times before we hit this stretch where our schedules just were not jiving. It's mostly an issue on her end as she works two jobs, but me having two drill weekends in three weeks didn't help. There's warning signs that either she's not really interested in dating or that she might friend zone me, but I'm not ready to kick her to the curb just yet. Long story short, we're supposed to get together tonight. The plan was for me to meet her at her new place after she gets of work, she provides dinner, and I assemble a bookshelf for her. I was discussing our plans with a close family friend (female), and the conversation goes: Her- "Are you sleeping together yet?" Me- "No." Her- "That's not how that works." Me- "What do you mean?" Her- "If you're not sleeping together, she shouldn't be asking you to do that." I got a text from her in the middle of the night saying the that she and her roommate have food poisoning, so none of this may happen anyways. I was just wondering where y'all stand on this. Move on , she found a better date Exactly what crossed my mind. She's getting railed hard by someone else and you need to rearrange your schedule to come over at a more convenient time. |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 11:03:06 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
Dick in a Companion Cube? I'm making a note here: Huge success.. |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 11:04:43 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
Well, I'm pretty sure I just struck out with that girl from school. I asked her out, and her initial response was yes. Then we discussed when and the conversation progressed from limited availability to she "doesn't have much interest in dating." She gave me her phone number and a hug, and that was that. Foxtrot Mike Lima. Comments that may help: - On many occasions I've had women turn me down and later want to date me. Why? I acted like their rejection was nothing. Next time I saw them? "Hi! How's it going?". Didn't suck up, didn't avoid them, just let them know that my life is more than just which woman I'm dating or not dating. - I've also had women who I've dated say things that made me think they weren't that interested, yet continued to want to see me and it eventually blossomed into a relationship. Why? Because unlike men (who tend to keep their mouths shut), a lot of women say whatever comes to mind in terms of how they are feeling at that exact second. It's like they are at war with themselves. Maybe they got screwed over by a guy, so the next guy who comes along, they say "I'm not interested in dating". Judge them by their actions, not their words. Don't be too available. See the first comment. - NEVER date just one women unless she only dating you (and never assume she is). Go out, meet women, have fun, keep a busy schedule. You won't have any time available to think "I wonder if she likes me?". You'll give off the musky aroma of a man who lives his own life. It's irresistible to women. RF |
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Posted: 5/15/2012 11:06:11 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
The girl from school sent me a text: "Sorry if I seemed odd earlier, your question threw me off guard" I'm leaning towards Jane's hypothesis. BOOM. There isn't a single girl in the world who wouldn't send that text who didn't spend HOURS thinking about if/when/how/why she should send it. You're on her radar and she's interested. RF |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 9:42:11 PM
Originally Posted By refurb: Originally Posted By Bassgasm: The girl from school sent me a text: "Sorry if I seemed odd earlier, your question threw me off guard" I'm leaning towards Jane's hypothesis. BOOM. There isn't a single girl in the world who wouldn't send that text who didn't spend HOURS thinking about if/when/how/why she should send it. You're on her radar and she's interested. RF I'm wondering if/when I should expect to hear back from this one. |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 9:53:55 PM
Originally Posted By NickH1:
Assembling a bookshelf for her means you are coming into her house an filling a hyper masculine role for her. She'll be dripping before you're half way done. Guaranteed you'll be slipping part A into slot B as soon as those shelves are finished. No shit. Third date, her house, she makes dinner, you do some mindless task to prove manhood. Shes asking for a bookshelf not a new marble shower. Fuck! |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 9:59:10 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
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Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
I never did get a response from her. *shrug* I guess it's time to see who is next. There's a girl I sit next to in one of my college classes that interests me. I'm 25 and she's probably 18-19. What'ya think?  I think what I really need is some kind of social activity that'll help me meet more girls, preferably over 21... Hit it! So, at what point does the age difference become questionable? You're good to go with the college chick.... |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 10:05:39 PM
[Last Edit: 5/17/2012 10:06:47 PM by RTUtah]
Originally Posted By donnieR32: Originally Posted By Kharn: Whip your dick out while you read the assembly instructions. If she gets down to business, you can assemble it in the morning. If she balks, take the instructions with you as you walk out the door. Kharn  Then check to see if she'll fuck you for the instruction manual.  ETA: I see the OP has moved on. Good call. |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 10:30:13 PM
Originally Posted By SuperSixOne: Originally Posted By Kharn: Whip your dick out while you read the assembly instructions. If she gets down to business, you can assemble it in the morning. If she balks, take the instructions with you as you walk out the door. Kharn I like this plan. But you have to walk out the door reading the instructions with your dick out for full effect. |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 10:33:07 PM
Originally Posted By SIRIUS1: http://img819.imageshack.us/img819/9291/1232682340759.jpg Concerning the food poisoning, have her buy some activated charcoal capsules and dump the contents of two in a cup of lukewarm water and swallow it down. She'll be good to go within a couple hours. Seriously. Damn I REALLY want some tea now...  |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 10:54:27 PM
I was a 25 yr old sophmore dating a 17 yr old freshman when I ran into my 28 yr old former SO of 3 yrs. Knocked up she was by the guy she left me for.....hmmmmmmmm.
I think I got the better part of the deal. Next came the secretary slut with the fiance she overlooked telling me about, then the freaky Renfair chick. and then the SEM operator. I married the next one in line. Best thing to ever happen to me. Live a little, but quality over quantity anytime. |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 11:02:46 PM
Uh, maybe she isn't a slut.
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Posted: 5/17/2012 11:13:58 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm: I'm wondering if/when I should expect to hear back from this one. If you are waiting or expecting to hear back then the answer is you never will. You're the man, you have to make things happen. Unless I missed something I don't see where you even responded to her text about throwing her off guard. If you didn't respond, you most likely just blew any chances of anything that was left. I definately didn't see where you sent a response like "Sorry if that threw you off guard, I was just interested in talking to you. I'm going to XYZ for whaterver, you should come.". Then you can wait for a response. A yes is a yes, anything less than yes is a no. |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 11:21:10 PM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
Dick in a Companion Cube? Google dick-in-a-box. Where's the update? The bookcase deal was a shit-test, wasn't it? |
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Posted: 5/17/2012 11:31:49 PM
Originally Posted By SWIRE: Originally Posted By Bassgasm: I'm wondering if/when I should expect to hear back from this one. If you are waiting or expecting to hear back then the answer is you never will. You're the man, you have to make things happen. Unless I missed something I don't see where you even responded to her text about throwing her off guard. If you didn't respond, you most likely just blew any chances of anything that was left. I definately didn't see where you sent a response like "Sorry if that threw you off guard, I was just interested in talking to you. I'm going to XYZ for whaterver, you should come.". Then you can wait for a response. A yes is a yes, anything less than yes is a no. I gave a near immediate response with something to the effect of "I didn't intent to startle you. Shoot me a text sometime if you feel like grabbing coffee or killing time." I got a facebook invite later that day, and that was the last I heard from her. |
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Posted: 5/18/2012 7:52:31 AM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm: Originally Posted By SWIRE: Originally Posted By Bassgasm: I'm wondering if/when I should expect to hear back from this one. If you are waiting or expecting to hear back then the answer is you never will. You're the man, you have to make things happen. Unless I missed something I don't see where you even responded to her text about throwing her off guard. If you didn't respond, you most likely just blew any chances of anything that was left. I definately didn't see where you sent a response like "Sorry if that threw you off guard, I was just interested in talking to you. I'm going to XYZ for whaterver, you should come.". Then you can wait for a response. A yes is a yes, anything less than yes is a no. I gave a near immediate response with something to the effect of "I didn't intent to startle you. Shoot me a text sometime if you feel like grabbing coffee or killing time." I got a facebook invite later that day, and that was the last I heard from her. Ok that's a decent response. Still in my experience, 90% of the time you will have to startup the conversation and ask them out again. That's just how things work. You can tell she has some level of interest in you since she sent you a text, appologized, and sent a Facebook request. If she didn't like you and wasn't interested in the possibility of going out she wouldn't have done any of the three. There can be all sorts of reasons that she is hesitant and distant. Don't get caught up in worrying about what might be going on in her life or waiting for her to respond. If you want to go out with her, contact her again and ask. It's Friday which is late to get plans setup for the weekend but if she is single and has nothing going on still might be able to. Again from experience if you want to see a girl Friday or Saturday you need to ask them and make plans by Wednesday night. However, that wouldn't stop me from asking someone out, it just lowers the chances of them being free and saying yes. It's Friday morning, if you are free tonight you could text her something like "Hey, I had plans to hang out with my friends tonight but something came up and they cancelled. You want to go to ABC and do XZY tonight?" ABC being any location and XYZ being any activity. A sports place for mini-golf or go carts, a restaurant to eat, a place just to get ice cream, or anything else you would like that is fun. A movie right off the bat is not a good idea, you can't talk and just have sit in an uncomfortable silence. If you text her something like that you will get a response. From that response is how you decide what to do next. |
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Posted: 5/18/2012 7:57:43 AM
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
Originally Posted By refurb:
Originally Posted By Bassgasm:
The girl from school sent me a text: "Sorry if I seemed odd earlier, your question threw me off guard" I'm leaning towards Jane's hypothesis. BOOM. There isn't a single girl in the world who wouldn't send that text who didn't spend HOURS thinking about if/when/how/why she should send it. You're on her radar and she's interested. RF I'm wondering if/when I should expect to hear back from this one. Don't wait go out and set others. Waiting is desperation. |
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