My late wife Linda, aka martini butt - Page 2

My late wife Linda, aka martini butt (Page 2 of 4)

Bama-Shooter You do your thing. I'll do mine. Joined Apr 2004 Posts 36489 EE 100% (109) AL, USA	Posted: 3/18/2008 2:49:48 PM EDT [#1] My prayers are with you.
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wyattearp880

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Posted: 3/18/2008 2:52:01 PM EDT

[#2]

Oh man this sure puts things into perspective. Me and my wife have kinda been arguing about money over the last few days she is in between jobs and with 4 kids in the house things are beyond tight. We are both very careful in the way we talk to one another as to not say things that if tomorrow never came we wouldnt spend the rest of are life regreting. But just reading this goes to show that life can be over in a minute. I am so so so so very sorry for your loss it took the air right out of my lungs and realy made me think what you are going through and I dont think I would have the strength or the courage. At the end of the day my wife IS my best friend and without her I cant see anything at all. I dont mean this to be further deppressing but it realy opened my eyes. I WILL pray for you and your son and I so hope that God blesses you and eases the pain both of you are feeling.

jd556

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Posted: 3/18/2008 2:57:01 PM EDT

[#3]

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Originally Posted By GoGop:
We met in 1990 when I took a new job, and when I first saw her I was like Jim Carrey in The Mask with his heart beating a foot outside his chest. I never lost that feeling. had
Though Linda had many health problems, she'd never had any trouble with her heart. We're both disabled, but since I got Disability Retirement from the company we used to work for we could still go to their annual awards dinner. This year it was on March 1, and we had a great meal, watched the awards ceremony and then Linda had an awesome time dancing with some of our old friends.
When we were heading home she said her chest was hurting, and by the time she was ready for bed she said the pain had moved into her head and left arm. We went to the hospital where they gave her some pain medicine and did some tests. They were about to let her go home when she said the pain was coming back a little. They said they'd have to keep her for more tests the next day, so Brad and I went home since it was already four or five in the morning. (I can't remember now).
The next morning around 11:30am she called and said they were going to send her to the main St. John's hospital, but first they were going to do an ultra-sound by going down her esophogus and looking at the back of her heart. While we were talking she said the doctor just came in to get her for the test so she had to go, and we both said our normal Love-You-Bye like we always did.
About noon a nurse called and simply said "You need to come up here." I got Brad and started heading there as quickly as I could, and I called her mom to let her know she should head that way too. I got there first, and the doctor said that while doing the ultra-sound her Aorta burst, instantly stopping her heart. He'd worked on her for a half hour, but couldn't restart her heart and couldn't fix her Aorta. When that nurse had called me Linda was already dead. her

My Linda 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

I'll edit make a post with some pics in a bit. his...

67Firebird

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Posted: 3/18/2008 9:30:22 PM EDT

[Last Edit: 67Firebird] [#4]

Thank you everyone. Brad and I are doing our best to help each other through all of this, and it's difficult to describe how I don't think I'm especially strong or anything but just have to go on with life and get things done. So much has changed, but Brad still has to get on the bus at the same time, and I have lots of things I have to do each day. Some of it will slow down after all the legal stuff is done, but I still feel like an empty shell.

Thank you all for your support.

Edit - Typo

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

Guardswife

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Posted: 3/18/2008 10:15:40 PM EDT

[#5]

my deepest condolances on your loss...

It sounds like you have some wonderful memories,
The pictures you posted she seemed like a great woman...
and very pretty..
It will take time, and you will go threw different emotions..
that is normal. I lost my son when he was an infant..
Totally different situtions, but the same hurt.
Your family is there for you, and you need to keep strong
for your son. My Heart is there for you..
again, I am very sorry.. The good Lord is there holding your
hand helping you..

6gunfighter2

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Posted: 3/18/2008 11:17:05 PM EDT

[#6]

You have suffered a loss which is beyond words, and so I hope that my words will not sound cheap or offensive.

Your loved one is gone on now, to another plane of existence. Someday, you will be reunited with her there, as in time we will all cross over.

For the remainder of your time here, know that your loved one wanted you to be happy, and let that thought help you through your grief.

God Bless.

"God has a HARD ON for the Marines, because they keep Heaven CHOCK FULL of FRESH SOULS!" - R. Lee Ermey, FULL METAL JACKET.

Bumblebee_Bob Ride it like you stole it Joined Jan 2001 Posts 16137 EE 100% (36) CO, USA	Posted: 3/19/2008 10:38:56 AM EDT [#7] I'm sorry for your loss GoGop.
	Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs should relax and get used to the idea. -Robert A. Heinlein Drugs kicked in now, need sleep, radiation tastes funny at 7 am every day... a bit like victory. - Ginger

TimJ FAL Apologist and كافر Joined Feb 2001 Posts 9450 EE 100% (2) RI, USA	Posted: 3/19/2008 8:25:26 PM EDT [#8] My deepest condolences, GoGop...
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Condition_1 Joined Feb 2007 Posts 148 EE 0% (0) AR, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 2:27:39 AM EDT [#9] My deepest condolences to you and your son. The pictures you posted showed how much she meant to you and your family.

67Firebird

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Posted: 3/20/2008 9:44:13 AM EDT

[#10]

Linda's mom made a comment a few days ago that she's got no recent pictures of Linda, which I'd never given any thought to. Since we've been together most of our pics have been digital, and exist only on the hard drive and a couple disks. (..and Photobucket, but she has no internet).
Brad had put together a several pictures on a CD-RW to run as a slide show at the funeral home, which is what prompted the comment. I gave her the disk, but her old DVD player wouldn't play JPGs.

She bought a new one that does, so Brad and I went over to hook it up. Once there, we found that it couldn't be hooked directly to her TV, so we had to wait and get one of those RF boxes that goes in between. In the meantime, I also put together another disk with more pics, plus two VHS tapes with video I've taken of Linda and Brad. Brad and I had it hooked up and were sitting there waiting to show her when she got home from work. You should have seen how happy she was when I started the new disk going with pics she'd never seen.

Now she can watch her baby whenever she wants to.

She also asked for a few clothing items that Linda had since before we got together, so I took those over as well. I hope these things all help ease her pain. Linda was an only child, and her dad has had several strokes and still thinks Linda is coming over any day now. Grandma is having to face this alone when she's not with Brad and me.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

rexydg7 Joined Jul 2005 Posts 1045 EE 0% (0) FL, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 11:14:28 AM EDT [#11] Once again... I am so sorry for your loss. Stay strong for your son... he is going to need you now.

GR8TWYT ARFCOM Fitness Cadre Joined Nov 2006 Posts 5189 EE 100% (1) OH, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 3:31:50 PM EDT [#12] So sorry GoGop. FWIW, we're all thinking of you and your family & the collective ARFCOM wheels are turning.
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LoganSackett FREEDOM!!!!!!!!!!! Joined Sep 2007 Posts 518 EE 100% (4) NJ, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 4:31:32 PM EDT [#13] Prayers sent for you and your family.
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Shane333 Member Joined May 2003 Posts 14312 EE 100% (13) UT, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 4:36:51 PM EDT [#14] I'm sorry for your loss, but you will see her again on the other side.
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PlaymoreMinds Double Edged And Fragmented. SP1grrl rocks! Joined May 2005 Posts 15441 EE 0% (0) MA, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 4:45:28 PM EDT [#15] I spoke to Linda on occasion here and on Loki's board when I was still active over there. I even have something funny she said as my sigline over there. I liked her. She was good people.
	All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing. ~Edmund Burke I hear hell is nice, this time of year.~ Subnet

DLaw Member Joined Nov 2006 Posts 2494 EE 0% (0) CA, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 4:47:17 PM EDT [#16] I'm truly sorry for the loss of your wife....My deepest sympathies and condolences.... -DLaw

SteelonSteel Joined Jul 2005 Posts 3265 EE 100% (6) USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 5:25:54 PM EDT [#17] Dear Lord, I'm so very sorry.

rangermonroe Nobody Special Joined Oct 2006 Posts 2444 EE 100% (2) GA, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 5:34:38 PM EDT [#18] I cannot imagine your grief and loss. I have tears in my eyes as I type. You are in my prayers.

OdT It ain't easy being cheesy Joined Apr 2001 Posts 9499 EE 100% (19) WA, USA	Posted: 3/20/2008 10:29:16 PM EDT [#19]
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brainslushy I have m(.)(.)bs Joined Mar 2005 Posts 453 EE 0% (0) IN, USA	Posted: 3/23/2008 5:36:24 AM EDT [#20] I'm very sorry for your loss.
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USMC_Dad Thundering Third Joined Mar 2004 Posts 1687 EE 100% (2) AZ, USA	Posted: 3/23/2008 11:25:18 AM EDT [#21] God Bless you and Bradley. I can barley imagine. My Deb was born 1960....only four years diff. to Linda. Wally
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Rod_Fitswell Joined Nov 2006 Posts 33 EE 100% (3) MI, USA	Posted: 3/30/2008 8:02:51 PM EDT [#22]

Backstop Disinformation is information. Joined Jul 2002 Posts 13727 EE 100% (38) TX, USA	Posted: 3/30/2008 8:18:27 PM EDT [#23] I'm sorry, man. This thread brought tears to my eyes, yet I can't help but smile a bit, thinking about the companionship you two had.
	Yeah, it's gonna hurt like that until you pass out. Shouldn't be much longer though.

Pilk my buddy Mac, RIP.....I miss ya. Joined Oct 2002 Posts 530 EE 100% (19) MO, USA	Posted: 3/30/2008 8:34:34 PM EDT [#24] so sorry for your loss..... prayers from my family to yours. Pilk
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67Firebird

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Posted: 3/31/2008 6:48:01 AM EDT

[#25]

Originally Posted By Backstop:
I'm sorry, man.

This thread brought tears to my eyes, yet I can't help but smile a bit, thinking about the companionship you two had .

I agree, but that also brings the tears knowing that those days are over. I feel like I'm getting more withdrawn every day. It's hard to even carry on a conversation, because I just go blank.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

LastDefender Defender of Liberty at your service. Joined Feb 2001 Posts 4745 EE 100% (2) PA, USA	Posted: 3/31/2008 6:55:52 AM EDT [#26] My sympathy for your loss.....
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Backstop

Disinformation is information.

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Posted: 3/31/2008 7:00:01 AM EDT

[#27]

Originally Posted By GoGop:

Originally Posted By Backstop:
I'm sorry, man.

This thread brought tears to my eyes, yet I can't help but smile a bit, thinking about the companionship you two had .

I agree, but that also brings the tears knowing that those days are over. I feel like I'm getting more withdrawn every day. It's hard to even carry on a conversation, because I just go blank.

I'm almost at a loss for encouraging words -I've had some tough times, but I just can't imagine what you're going through.

Talk to God - He will listen and help, that I know for certain.

But I can tell you that me, and all of ARFCOM are here for you.

Yeah, it's gonna hurt like that until you pass out. Shouldn't be much longer though.

MrsGloftoe

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Posted: 3/31/2008 1:39:19 PM EDT

[#28]

Originally Posted By GoGop:
I agree, but that also brings the tears knowing that those days are over. I feel like I'm getting more withdrawn every day. It's hard to even carry on a conversation, because I just go blank.

This, too, shall pass, sweetie. Don't despair. In time you will be able to look back at your days with her and smile more than you cry. You just need some sort of vehicle to help carry you over the bumps in the road between now and the future. Try to find something that occupies your time; it's okay to think, but dwelling can be dangerous. It's okay to cry, but that shouldn't be all you're doing. Hopefully you've got something to help keep your mind busy; if not, I urge you to do so. And always know that we're here for support when you need it.

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67Firebird

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Posted: 3/31/2008 3:35:54 PM EDT

[Last Edit: 67Firebird] [#29]

Originally Posted By MrsGloftoe:

Originally Posted By GoGop:I agree, but that also brings the tears knowing that those days are over. I feel like I'm getting more withdrawn every day. It's hard to even carry on a conversation, because I just go blank. This, too, shall pass, sweetie. Don't despair. In time you will be able to look back at your days with her and smile more than you cry. You just need some sort of vehicle to help carry you over the bumps in the road between now and the future. Try to find something that occupies your time; it's okay to think, but dwelling can be dangerous. It's okay to cry, but that shouldn't be all you're doing. Hopefully you've got something to help keep your mind busy; if not, I urge you to do so. And always know that we're here for support when you need it.Thank you everyone.
Here's what keeps me going right now:

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(He collects wheel covers, and a friend mailed him one off a Studebaker). If it weren't for him I doubt I'd get out of bed other than for food and hygiene, even though I still have things I have to handle every day.

Edit - Trying to add pics back in, since Photobucket did their thing.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

Ogre_4070 Joined Nov 2001 Posts 2822 EE 0% (0) VA, USA	Posted: 3/31/2008 4:01:00 PM EDT [#30] I am very sorry for your loss.

macman37 The One Man Wrecking Machine Joined Mar 2003 Posts 31296 EE 100% (36) MI, USA	Posted: 3/31/2008 4:10:59 PM EDT [#31] GoGop my sincerest condolences. Remember the good times... BTW your wedding pic looks a LOT like mine... I was married in 93 and the bridesmaids' fashions are about the same. Very similar colors too.
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HerrOberst Member Joined Aug 2006 Posts 312 EE 0% (0) VA, USA	Posted: 4/4/2008 9:14:29 PM EDT [#32] I'm very sorry for your loss. May you take comfort in the memories of the two of you together.
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GaCracker

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Posted: 4/6/2008 1:50:52 PM EDT

[#33]

Originally Posted By kallnojoy:
Looks like a lot of good times and fond memories behind those pictures!

So very sorry for your loss.

I can't say it any better. I'm sure you will get through it, but there will be very hard times. If you don't mind, I'll say "May God Bless You and Your Son".

I am in tears after seeing those pictures.

67Firebird Fire Water Burn Joined Mar 2004 Posts 8037 EE 100% (32) MO, USA	Posted: 4/6/2008 3:51:59 PM EDT [#34] Thank you, to all of you. It's still very difficult, but the last couple of days I've done a bit better. I never could have imagined this....
	martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

Firelotus Dark Lord of the Internets Joined Feb 2005 Posts 4017 EE 100% (1) MI, USA	Posted: 4/6/2008 4:13:40 PM EDT [#35] I'm sorry to hear about your loss, My Dearest Condolences to you and your Family
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BodyPiercingByGlock AK-47 The Right Hand of Freedom Joined Dec 2007 Posts 406 EE 0% (0) NV, USA	Posted: 4/7/2008 4:23:38 AM EDT [#36] I am sorry for your loss. I feel the same way about my wife. She is my soul mate, I miss her when she walks in the next room. I am sorry for your loss.
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67Firebird

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Posted: 4/7/2008 9:21:39 AM EDT

[#37]

Originally Posted By BodyPiercingByGlock:
I am sorry for your loss. I feel the same way about my wife. She is my soul mate, I miss her when she walks in the next room. I am sorry for your loss.

I still feel like any second she'll walk around the corner start watching Rachael Ray, doing her Bible study, going out to feed her birds etc. I guess it'll take quite some time for that to go away. Wednesday of next week (4-16-08) would have been 14th anniversary.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

nukldragr Member Joined Mar 2007 Posts 526 EE 0% (0) GA, USA	Posted: 4/11/2008 3:24:45 PM EDT [#38] Verry sorry for your loss

JB_Metal Tactical-Puke Joined Sep 2005 Posts 733 EE 100% (13) USA	Posted: 4/27/2008 8:12:57 PM EDT [#39] Far too young to go...my sincerest condolences. RIP Linda.
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67Firebird Fire Water Burn Joined Mar 2004 Posts 8096 EE 100% (32) MO, USA	Posted: 5/2/2008 7:10:54 PM EDT [Last Edit: 67Firebird] [#40] At Six Flags; Attached File Attached File Attached File Attached File The Martini Butt itself; Attached File Edit - Trying to add pics back in, since Photobucket did their thing.
	martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

Cold AR Variants Mod and Juris Doctor (in training)! Joined Oct 2003 Posts 6698 EE 100% (480) USA	Posted: 6/15/2008 1:49:19 AM EDT [#41]
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67Firebird Fire Water Burn Joined Mar 2004 Posts 8320 EE 100% (32) MO, USA	Posted: 6/28/2008 2:03:20 PM EDT [Last Edit: 67Firebird] [#42] Bourbon69 and his wife take a picture and somehow cut it out of wood and then frame it. Here's the pic I sent them; Attached File Here's the result; Attached File Here it is on the wall; Attached File Very nice tribute. Edit - Trying to add pics back in, since Photobucket did their thing.
	martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

Templar223

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Posted: 7/1/2008 11:16:25 PM EDT

[#43]

Originally Posted By GoGop:

My Linda 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

Sorry about your loss.

John

كاف | kis ikht hizbola
and i said... dirka dirka mohammed jihad

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If I hear someone shouting "ALLAH AKBAR" they better be wearing a smile and holding a beer.

67Firebird Fire Water Burn Joined Mar 2004 Posts 8370 EE 100% (32) MO, USA	Posted: 7/3/2008 4:07:52 AM EDT [#44] Thanks Templar.
	martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

grooVe Member Joined Mar 2004 Posts 1601 EE 100% (20) CO, USA	Posted: 7/3/2008 4:52:50 AM EDT [#45] I'm in my late 20s and the more I learn/think about life, the more it seems like relationships are the only real purpose in life. I feel for your loss and pray for the best. Let us know if there is anything we can do.

raygixxer89 Joined Sep 2006 Posts 2505 EE 100% (1) TX, USA	Posted: 7/3/2008 5:27:54 AM EDT [#46] Ooohhh mannnnn. I'll pray for ya,buddy.

67Firebird

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Posted: 7/3/2008 6:08:57 PM EDT

[#47]

Thank you both.

grooVe,
Many fine people on here already helped me, both financially while I was waiting for the insurance money and through their thoughts and prayers. I still get IMs checking to see if I'm OK, and the support like you just offered helps.
Now it's just a matter of learning to live with the loss. I did better for a bit, but I honestly don't even feel like getting out of bed anymore. Losing her took a lot of the life out of me.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08

67Firebird

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Posted: 8/26/2008 5:40:41 PM EDT

[#48]

We got some good news on my son today.

Since Linda's first cousin also had an Aortic Dissection (but they were able to save him), the docs wanted Brad checked due to it being genetic. Today they checked Brad's heart, and the doc everything looks fine. He doesn't have to get checked again for two years, so it seems they're pretty sure he's clear of this connective tissue disorder.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08
"now I just need tits like that and 2 guns ;-)" Vanessavy 7/13/08

67Firebird

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Posted: 10/3/2008 5:15:24 AM EDT

[Last Edit: 67Firebird] [#49]

The cemetery where Linda is doesn't allow the headstone to be placed for four months, so the ground has time to settle.

Brad and I ordered it after one month, and when we went to look at it (at the shop) it was the wrong type of stone and one part was carved wrong. The guy had to order another stone and start over.

We got a letter in the mail Wednesday saying that the stone was in place, so today (Thursday) Brad and I went to see it. It's difficult going there, but I'm glad that the grave is finally marked.

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The picture we used;

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Edit - Trying to add pics back in, since Photobucket did their thing.

martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08
[url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=um1HG9Rb6Dg[/url]

67Firebird Fire Water Burn Joined Mar 2004 Posts 8772 EE 100% (32) MO, USA	Posted: 10/3/2008 5:15:53 AM EDT [Last Edit: 67Firebird] [#50] Double tap
	martini butt 1/14/64 - 3/2/08 [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=um1HG9Rb6Dg[/url]

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