As the title states.  I'd love to pick up an acoustic kit, but being AD .mil and living in apartments/townhouses, it makes it hard without pissing all of my neighbors off.

Price cap is probably $1500-$2000.

Most of the kits in my price range seem to have only one crash/one ride.  Are there kits out there that are expandable (allow me to add at least one more crash)?

Don't just look at one crash one ride. Look at expandability of the controller. Triggers are rather cheap. I personally would recommend Roland.
 

That was actually one of the kits I was eyeing up but couldn't find it that cheap, thanks for the link.  Seems the recommended brands are Roland and Yamaha?

I tried out a few recently. I'd definitely go with the mesh type heads like that Roland kit linked vs the hard rubber.

A good used Roland TD-20.

You care most about the brain unit, and how versatile that is.  You can always add or exchange out pads and other triggered devices.

Buy the best you can afford though, because whacking away at shitty hard rubber pads gets old fast.  If you can afford a nice kit with mesh heads, do it, even if it means not having a lot of drums to start and adding them later.  The feel is so much more realistic and makes transitioning to an acoustic kit that much easier.

Roland and Yamaha both make good units.  I still have my Yamaha brain and I occasionally use it to trigger acoustic drums.  The Roland Vdrums are nice.

In general my opinion is that electronic drums will never be as nice as having real drums, but if you have noise issues then you gotta do what you gotta do.

Another +1 on the Roland.

They are the standard, imo.

I practice with a used TD-30 I got.

If all you want it for is quiet practice I would check out Remo Silent Stroke heads and Zildjian L80 cymbals. I have a Yamaha DTX900 series and honestly the silent strokes and l80's are not much louder than the electric pads.









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No matter what I tried, I never liked the hi-hat and kick drum response on any electronic drum set. But they are great for apartments and close neighbors.

I've been playing Roland TD 25 kv kit and they blow had a Yamaha Dtx kit it got boring fast. I hate electronic drums. I thought a 4,500 dollar kit would have problems worked out. It doesn't.